how soon is too soon (49)
I wouldn't get ur hopes up about anyone until u meet them.U might get on really well online but when u meet up u might not get on at all.
oh that happens to me a lot, Id say 4 out out 5 that ask me out cancel usually the day before of the morning before the date, I think that most men just like that chase and ego boost
JustLittleMe: oh that happens to me a lot, Id say 4 out out 5 that ask me out cancel usually the day before of the morning before the date, I think that most men just like that chase and ego boost
really? 4 out of 5? That's very bad form!
Fallingman: really? 4 out of 5? That's very bad form!
that is very bad form, hope this doesnt go that way 
guess i got my hopes up too high, need to keep them in check from now on 
Online dating really can bring out the worst in people. It seems acceptable to ignore all of the courtesies that we should extend in "normal" life.
So it is OK to be emailing someone regularly & for the mails to stop without explanation, it's OK to arrange dates & just break them, to lie etc etc etc.
I think that some people seem to blank out the fact that they are dealing with fellow human beings. It is why I would never consider meeting someone until we have chatted on the phone. To me this is far more relevant than even a photo. People cannot easily fake a phone conversation.
I also blame the "Craic". Many want to appear to be fun loving & here for the craic, for a laugh, a bit of fun. But others are actually looking for a genuine relationship & they get hurt.
Some might tell you not be so stupid as to think that you had a real connection with someone that you haven't met. But I have been there & done the same thing & I know how it feels.
So it is OK to be emailing someone regularly & for the mails to stop without explanation, it's OK to arrange dates & just break them, to lie etc etc etc.
I think that some people seem to blank out the fact that they are dealing with fellow human beings. It is why I would never consider meeting someone until we have chatted on the phone. To me this is far more relevant than even a photo. People cannot easily fake a phone conversation.
I also blame the "Craic". Many want to appear to be fun loving & here for the craic, for a laugh, a bit of fun. But others are actually looking for a genuine relationship & they get hurt.
Some might tell you not be so stupid as to think that you had a real connection with someone that you haven't met. But I have been there & done the same thing & I know how it feels.
Online Dating can bring out the BEST in people .People have to concentrate on using better manners as the written word can easily be misunderstood unlike in normal life.
We all know sometimes arrangements have to change due to work or even if people are shy.
I think that some people like to interact first online with others and it is an easy way to break the ice rather than talking on the phone as that becomes more awkward for some..At least online you can see someones photo before you meet giving a visual picture of your date ...
Thankfully joking is a nice way of first communications for everyone serious or messers.
Some might tell you well done youve given it a go and indirectly you can be motivating them to make tghe step...I know years ago when i first thought of dating sites i always pictured Jack Duckworth from corrie ....but how times change for the better
We all know sometimes arrangements have to change due to work or even if people are shy.
I think that some people like to interact first online with others and it is an easy way to break the ice rather than talking on the phone as that becomes more awkward for some..At least online you can see someones photo before you meet giving a visual picture of your date ...
Thankfully joking is a nice way of first communications for everyone serious or messers.
Some might tell you well done youve given it a go and indirectly you can be motivating them to make tghe step...I know years ago when i first thought of dating sites i always pictured Jack Duckworth from corrie ....but how times change for the better
thing is iv done this before not off a dating site but off a forum where i just started talking away to a fella and we had loads in common. we would talk all the time and he came up from cork to meet me, we were together(well as together as 2 people from other ends of the country can be)for 6 months and never once did we talk on the phone it was always text or msn but it suited us.
in a way i can see where people telling me to forget about him and move on are coming from but at the same time im here to find someone to hopefully spend my life with and if i drop them at the first hurdle then i may as well not bother. i dont know maybe im being niave and seeing things through slightly rose tinted glasses cause i like him but i suppose at heart im a romantic and from talking to him he does just seem to be geuninely shy and i have to admit that does add to the appeal of him to me. really dont know what to do, if i chalk it up and move on maybe i will have missed the one that was meant for me then again maybe hes not but i dont know if iv anything to lose by trying
in a way i can see where people telling me to forget about him and move on are coming from but at the same time im here to find someone to hopefully spend my life with and if i drop them at the first hurdle then i may as well not bother. i dont know maybe im being niave and seeing things through slightly rose tinted glasses cause i like him but i suppose at heart im a romantic and from talking to him he does just seem to be geuninely shy and i have to admit that does add to the appeal of him to me. really dont know what to do, if i chalk it up and move on maybe i will have missed the one that was meant for me then again maybe hes not but i dont know if iv anything to lose by trying
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