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cjjr7933 Threads 905 Postslet me start from last night. my dad went out for a drive, said he needed some air. right after the bears game at 10:30 he calls and says that he was in the ER. he said that he was going to be admitted for ossurvation. than he hung up saying that he would call me right back. i stayed up untill 2am CST. had to get some sleep if i was going into work. well, i did go into work this morning and left for a couple hours to the hospital. turns out that he is fine. well, not realy fine, but its not life threatening. i cant say why he is in though. its private. i act as my dads care giver. but, my question is this. i feel relieved that he has to stay in the hospital because it gives me a huge break from the maddness and i know that the nurces and doctors can care for him better at this state than i can. should i be feeling like this? like i get a break. or does this make me a bad person/son?
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Not at all it gives you peace of mind knowing he is in the best hands....and you are not sitting there worrying about him being at home and something happening.
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Hey, you are not a bad person or son! Everyone needs a break from doing something 24 hours a day 7 days a week...Thats what stresses single parents out...the all day everyday, and sometimes you need some "you time" dont feel bad...your dad is lucky to have you there to help!!
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i just feel guilty yet relieved.
and very tired
but tryed to sleep, cant
and very tired
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Get some sleep....you need it! your dad is going to be fine....you however have a job that requires your attention and you need your sleep! 
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I agree with everything that's been said so far - you needed a small break from the sound of it. This is the perfect time, he was there and getting medical attention and was under observation so you can have 'me' time which is critical to one not having a mental breakdown in the long-run.
My .02
My .02
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Isn't your father a CS member as well? Won't he read this later? 
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he is not on as much as me. i take over the computer. if he does, maybe its a good thing?
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when my mom had a stroke i had the same feeling of relief it is common tho it makes you feel guilty but i was there everyday sometimes all night i wanted her safe and the doctors and nurses did an excellent job and my mom loved me the same im sure your dad probably wants it this way or he would be askin you to bring him home JMO
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hey, thanks every one. some times you need to hear things like this to reasure you. thank you all.
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I just thought that maybe it was something better explained from a son to a father, not to be read on a public dating forum.
Best of luck with however you decide to procede with it though.
Tell your dad I hope he feels better soon. No, he likely hasn't the foggiest idea who I am
Best of luck with however you decide to procede with it though.
Tell your dad I hope he feels better soon. No, he likely hasn't the foggiest idea who I am
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hey i may not know much but when someone asks for help i try so it was my pleasure to offer my opinion if it helped
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well, i see that others post personal stuff and people had good stuff and friendly thought for them........ o well.
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cj....sit back....unwind a little...relax for a few. You'll be glad you did. You have nothing to feel bad or guilty about. Everyone needs a breather now and then.
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My thoughts were intended to be friendly, I'm just worried about your dad reading it.
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I think its nice that you value the opinion of other CS'ers! We are all family like...and the simple fact that you started this thread shows that you are comfortable sharing with people...which is a great quality!!
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thank you all. just an update. my dad did come home today. he is fine!! just alittle groggy from the meds. thank you so much for replying.
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Been through it, no you are not a bad person. Even though you know he is okay with the doctors and nurse, you will check up on him. Everyone that is a caretaker needs break, so take this time to pamper yourself a little! I don't know your circumstances, but it might be time to talk to his doctor to get their opinion if it is time for your dad to go into a healthcare center with 24 hour nursing care. It is one of the hardest thing to do, but it gives the person quality care and you peace of mind. I took care of my mother for 25 years, the last 3 years of her life, she was in a healthcare center, because I could no longer give her the quality of care she need. It was the hardest thing I ever had to do, but it was necessary.
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It's being human honey. Everyone needs time to breathe and reflect. All of us here at c s know how you feel about you dad. You are a good son and shouldnt beat yourself up for needing some time for you.
Your dad will undoubtably understand. Relax and get some rest. Tell your dad "hi" for us and to get well soon. Look forward to seeing him back on the forums.
Kat 
Your dad will undoubtably understand. Relax and get some rest. Tell your dad "hi" for us and to get well soon. Look forward to seeing him back on the forums.
Kat
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