Why is it so hard to clear out and move on? (21)

Oh its not because of her any more, im over that, its raising two young daughters now on my own lol.

That's good, I bought up my daughter from six and son from 4, it is very hard but as you know very rewarding too.

Trouble is when your on your own, there is no one to take the pressure off!

Sure you do well by them though.....

My two have just turned 6 and 4 in the last few weeks and yes it can be tough but the rewards are great.

Back to the topic they are the reason its hard to clear out as they are bringing stuff back in as im clearing it out lol.

Is it not true that we are all different ? Do I need to wear a G-string because it looks good or it is said to look good on a man ? That G.. stuff is an exaggerated example of the minimalism that you are referring to . I collect so many things and I keep them . I like doing that . It is a factual record of what 2/3 generation of us have been through .. I have nothing to make me think of any of my partners in the past . I have modified some of the furniture to give me extra comfort . At this very moment I am moving things around relocating tools and equipment which have been unused for 20 or more years . I need them now and they will save me a fortune .

Ultimately you are the judge of what you want to keep . Don't feel guilty for doing what you like doing . If they go they may never return .. I have not gone through other posts .. Forgive me if it is a repeat

hi siren,

i do find it hard parting with things, call me silly but the other day i found one of her ear rings that she lost,i cant seam to get rid of it,and a a little teddy we used to beat me up with hehehe toy fighting,i cant get rid of that,so yes i know what you mean hun

I find it very hard to get rid of stuff, but now I'm single again I find the house feels empty !

I've now got a huge wardrobe and it looks empty as my clothes only fill half of it ! I'm quite good at clearing out clothes - anything that is tatty and hasn't been worn for a year goes in the bin. But to contradict that, I have a collection of French Connection tshirts that are worn out but I can't bring myself to get rid !!!

I've kept things from relationships all my life. I still even wear my wedding ring - albeit on my right hand ! It doesn't mean anything to me, it's just a nice piece of jewelry.

To me it's just a matter of time. Some things I kept for a while as they meant something, but then a few months/years later I find it in a box and think "what the hell have I got that for?"

I was talking about stuff in general, but now some of you have mentioned personal things, it's made me think perhaps I could sell my wedding and engagement rings, my eternity ring maybe I would keep.

Bagelo! You throw out anything that hasn't been worn in a year?
I would have practically nothing to wear if I did that!

Maybe I should go shopping for myself....

me and my wife only split up a month and half ago so its still pritty fresh in my head, i cant take my wedding ring off yet.

Yes things like that never are forgotten Bagelo!

Chriss, it is bound to take time for you, we all do things in our own time as we are comfortable with it.

I did'nt wear my wedding ring for some time before we split up, but that was because I was not happy.

I moved out with bags full of clothes and had to start buying things from new or second hand. I had the choice that either I left or she would, and take the kids with her. I could not see them having to leave their home though. So I guess I was the lucky one, in the way of clutter if you know what I mean.