help :( (60)

Mar 13, 2011 5:17 PM CST help :(
forestshaks
forestshaksforestshaksgalway/dublin, Galway Ireland435 Posts
gingernail: dont want it it to be a casual thing coz ill end up resenting him perfer to know where i stand.. if i do say nothing it could happen again then if i say something i could push him away hes a lovely bloke so would like to persue it


Just be honest and straight forward with him..Tell him if he says no u'll hang urself...SIMPLE!!!!!!professor
Mar 13, 2011 5:19 PM CST help :(
gingernail
gingernailgingernailCork, Ireland30 Threads 2 Polls 1,096 Posts
cheriobaby: well gingernail the foundation is there already FRIENDSHIP.. i would say go for it girl... life is too short to ave ifs and buts.. dont think and just act on this one!!!
ye never know it might be just what ye both need....
have fun and be happy


i like your advice grin thanks cheering
Mar 13, 2011 5:20 PM CST help :(
gingernail
gingernailgingernailCork, Ireland30 Threads 2 Polls 1,096 Posts
kielybear: Just be natural about it,just drop it in mid conversation,if he aknowledges its,there might be something,if not....letsleeping dogs lie.


thanks hun thumbs up
Mar 13, 2011 5:21 PM CST help :(
bubbles1234
bubbles1234bubbles1234kerry, Kerry Ireland1 Threads 16 Posts
forestshaks: Omg, not another one. Anyway go beg him on bended knees and tell him u love him so much u can't live without him. Use emotional blackmail do anything to get him. Tell him it's either u or nobody else....



?????
Mar 13, 2011 5:22 PM CST help :(
kielybear
kielybearkielybearLimerick, Ireland58 Threads 731 Posts
gingernail: thanks hun


Anytime hun hug
Mar 13, 2011 5:23 PM CST help :(
jimbo79
jimbo79jimbo79carlow, Carlow Ireland85 Threads 8 Polls 4,259 Posts
gingernail: i like your advice thanks
so you didn't get the ride ?
Mar 13, 2011 5:24 PM CST help :(
gingernail
gingernailgingernailCork, Ireland30 Threads 2 Polls 1,096 Posts
jimbo79: so you didn't get the ride ?


nope grin
Mar 13, 2011 5:24 PM CST help :(
jimbo79
jimbo79jimbo79carlow, Carlow Ireland85 Threads 8 Polls 4,259 Posts
gingernail: nope
for shamewink
Mar 13, 2011 5:27 PM CST help :(
forestshaks: Just be honest and straight forward with him..Tell him if he says no u'll hang urself...SIMPLE!!!!!!


that's great advice but how do you rescue the friendship from there or do you just hang it out to dry as well?
Or do you rely on one of you to put precedence on friendship over relationship?
Mar 13, 2011 5:30 PM CST help :(
jimbo79
jimbo79jimbo79carlow, Carlow Ireland85 Threads 8 Polls 4,259 Posts
sally101: that's great advice but how do you rescue the friendship from there or do you just hang it out to dry as well?
Or do you rely on one of you to put precedence on friendship over relationship?
you can always make new friends, this thing about ruining friendship is usually just an excuse
Mar 13, 2011 5:32 PM CST help :(
forestshaks
forestshaksforestshaksgalway/dublin, Galway Ireland435 Posts
bubbles1234: ?????


At the end of the day the guy has made it clear in a diplomatic nice way that he's not interested yet she doesn't want to take the hint.
Let's reverse the case: If it was a guy he would be seen as a stalker or a nuisance if he can't take a hint...
Let's be honest the poor guy has already hinted by giving u excuses. Yet u say no? C'mon be realistic....
Mar 13, 2011 5:37 PM CST help :(
forestshaks
forestshaksforestshaksgalway/dublin, Galway Ireland435 Posts
jimbo79: you can always make new friends, this thing about ruining friendship is usually just an excuse



Thank u Jimbo, it's just excuses, excuses, excuses....Move on me dear there r a lot of men on this site that wouldn't say no...
Ur friendship with him is already compromised...
What if he's got a gf and didn't want to tell u then, only for u to find out later...?
Mar 13, 2011 5:38 PM CST help :(
jimbo79: you can always make new friends, this thing about ruining friendship is usually just an excuse

If there's drink and messing and drink and messing ... it gets messier than Mr Messy's house ... and at least with pick ups they go away next day ...
But from my vantage point - I will say, the friends that are meant will stay and you will stay with them ... perhaps not together .. but friends all the same ...
Mar 13, 2011 5:41 PM CST help :(
jimbo79
jimbo79jimbo79carlow, Carlow Ireland85 Threads 8 Polls 4,259 Posts
sally101: If there's drink and messing and drink and messing ... it gets messier than Mr Messy's house ... and at least with pick ups they go away next day ...
But from my vantage point - I will say, the friends that are meant will stay and you will stay with them ... perhaps not together .. but friends all the same ...
she s a young one, everything should be a mess, when i was her age i messed with anything that moved, this crap of he is my friend is an excuse just get on with it
Mar 13, 2011 5:43 PM CST help :(
gingernail
gingernailgingernailCork, Ireland30 Threads 2 Polls 1,096 Posts
jimbo79: she s a young one, everything should be a mess, when i was her age i messed with anything that moved, this crap of he is my friend is an excuse just get on with it


she has a name laugh i am getting on with it just wanted a few pointers dunno
Mar 13, 2011 5:43 PM CST help :(
irish84
irish84irish84monaghan, Monaghan Ireland72 Threads 3 Polls 8,745 Posts
jimbo79: she s a young one, everything should be a mess, when i was her age i messed with anything that moved, this crap of he is my friend is an excuse just get on with it
nothing wrong with dating one of your friends
Mar 13, 2011 5:45 PM CST help :(
jimbo79
jimbo79jimbo79carlow, Carlow Ireland85 Threads 8 Polls 4,259 Posts
gingernail: she has a name i am getting on with it just wanted a few pointers
she does indeed so your getting the ride so....fair playwink
Mar 13, 2011 5:46 PM CST help :(
jimbo79
jimbo79jimbo79carlow, Carlow Ireland85 Threads 8 Polls 4,259 Posts
irish84: nothing wrong with dating one of your friends
agreed it's a good base to start out on
Mar 13, 2011 5:46 PM CST help :(
gingernail
gingernailgingernailCork, Ireland30 Threads 2 Polls 1,096 Posts
jimbo79: she does indeed so your getting the ride so....fair play


i wish laugh
Mar 13, 2011 5:46 PM CST help :(
jimbo79: she s a young one, everything should be a mess, when i was her age i messed with anything that moved, this crap of he is my friend is an excuse just get on with it


thumbs up fair point - talk to everyone as if on my own page ... but feel like I have been on my page for a long time ... and so by now everyone has read it.
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