First Date....... (42)
oh I'm sorry...was I suppose to say something?
well, don't control the conversation, but at least partake in it- I went out with a guy that never said much of anything. And a few days later everyone was telling me how good of a time he had with me! sheesh- the guy barely said anything at all!!!
Anyway, what happens on a date is all about the vibe- you're right about the kiss though Pucks, if there's a connection, he should lean in & go for it, cause I'm unlikely to make the first move.
Anyway, what happens on a date is all about the vibe- you're right about the kiss though Pucks, if there's a connection, he should lean in & go for it, cause I'm unlikely to make the first move.
Oh that's an easy one:
Do not talk about how the world has done you wrong
Do not blow your nose on the cloth napkin
Do not disount her entire career with the wave of your hand
Do not let her pick up the whole cheque when she's just trying to pay her half
Do not stare over her shoulder at a TV screen
And above all else... do NOT ask her if she wants to go "get naked" after you have already done all of the above!
I'll tell you the do's later...
Do not talk about how the world has done you wrong
Do not blow your nose on the cloth napkin
Do not disount her entire career with the wave of your hand
Do not let her pick up the whole cheque when she's just trying to pay her half
Do not stare over her shoulder at a TV screen
And above all else... do NOT ask her if she wants to go "get naked" after you have already done all of the above!
I'll tell you the do's later...
Hey pucks...very interesting thread .I'll give it a try just dont grade me on it ok?
here goes:
DO'S:
1.DO Pick her up...very important(u can let her down when u get to the car)open the car door first of course.
2.DO kiss her softly on the cheek...dont ask just do it...you're just being a gentleman is all(unless thats a crime..lol)
3.If you go to a restaurant be sure you DO order a dish that you both eat from.(yea yea i know thats kinda like exchanging saliva right?)...
but if you cant exchange saliva with a date, the chances of you ever necking are kinda unlikely...know what im saying?
4. Do ease up on the serious convo...you're spose to be having fun not goin to a funeral.
DO NOT:
1.DO NOT forget to bring her flowers(fresh)and a gift or at least one of those(seriously dont forget!).
2.DO NOT forget to go somewhere fun where you can both be relaxed and actually enjoys each others company.
I think im extending this way too long so thats it for now..cya spiderman. :)
here goes:DO'S:
1.DO Pick her up...very important(u can let her down when u get to the car)open the car door first of course.
2.DO kiss her softly on the cheek...dont ask just do it...you're just being a gentleman is all(unless thats a crime..lol)
3.If you go to a restaurant be sure you DO order a dish that you both eat from.(yea yea i know thats kinda like exchanging saliva right?)...
but if you cant exchange saliva with a date, the chances of you ever necking are kinda unlikely...know what im saying?
4. Do ease up on the serious convo...you're spose to be having fun not goin to a funeral.
DO NOT:
1.DO NOT forget to bring her flowers(fresh)and a gift or at least one of those(seriously dont forget!).
2.DO NOT forget to go somewhere fun where you can both be relaxed and actually enjoys each others company.
I think im extending this way too long so thats it for now..cya spiderman. :)
if I have allergies I couldn't have the same dish you ordered, and the fresh cut flowers could make me sneeze.
if he's SMART- he's going to ask questions BEFORE you go out, so he's going to know what to order and IF he can bring flowers...
if he's a dork, he's not going to ask, and you won't be going out with him a second time...
if he's a dork, he's not going to ask, and you won't be going out with him a second time...
What you could do is leave you're allergies at home and i'll bring plastic flowers 
no seriously...I guess that's where communication would come in...if u dont wanna eat from a dish that WE would have ordered then i guess WE would have to go eat somewhere else then..im easy..i would let YOU pick the place to eat then :)so i dont suppose a present would be such a good idea either huh?
no seriously...I guess that's where communication would come in...if u dont wanna eat from a dish that WE would have ordered then i guess WE would have to go eat somewhere else then..im easy..i would let YOU pick the place to eat then :)so i dont suppose a present would be such a good idea either huh?hey- we're not ALL the same you know...
flowers & presents are always a smart start...makes her remember you as the guy who thought she was special enough to bring her flowers...
flowers & presents are always a smart start...makes her remember you as the guy who thought she was special enough to bring her flowers...
I agree with Bailey,
Flowers or a small gift is always a good idea on a first date. I recommend that you ask the woman if she is allergic to flowers or fragrance during a telephone conversation, prior to the first date. I think that most woman are not allergic to flowers and they make a simple, lasting good impression.
My idea of a great first date is going out for a meal together. It allows you to "break some bread" together and have some good conversation. This is how you get to know someone. On a first date, I definately do not recommend ordering any sort of food that you are supposed to eat together. Save that for the second or third date.
As far as the first kiss goes, I am impressed with a man who does not attempt to kiss me on a first date. Once when I was on a date with a younger man (I am fifty), he really impressed me by, at the end of the evening, gently taking my hand, kissing the back of it and telling me what a truly wonderful time he had had with me. From my experience, I would recommend that approach as how to deal with "the kiss on the first date". I was very impressed. And yes, I continued to see the man. He just handled "the kiss on the first date" very well, in my opinion.
Wishing you all well,
Lorraine.
Flowers or a small gift is always a good idea on a first date. I recommend that you ask the woman if she is allergic to flowers or fragrance during a telephone conversation, prior to the first date. I think that most woman are not allergic to flowers and they make a simple, lasting good impression.
My idea of a great first date is going out for a meal together. It allows you to "break some bread" together and have some good conversation. This is how you get to know someone. On a first date, I definately do not recommend ordering any sort of food that you are supposed to eat together. Save that for the second or third date.
As far as the first kiss goes, I am impressed with a man who does not attempt to kiss me on a first date. Once when I was on a date with a younger man (I am fifty), he really impressed me by, at the end of the evening, gently taking my hand, kissing the back of it and telling me what a truly wonderful time he had had with me. From my experience, I would recommend that approach as how to deal with "the kiss on the first date". I was very impressed. And yes, I continued to see the man. He just handled "the kiss on the first date" very well, in my opinion.
Wishing you all well,
Lorraine.
In the 15 years I've been in Canada I only received twice flowers. In Holland got them all the time. Maybe it has to do with the price or maybe the Dutch men are more attentive...
And do I like receiving flowers...... hell yea, think most women do!
And do I like receiving flowers...... hell yea, think most women do!
I re-read this a few times, and have to ask - at what point does one jump from walks, as you mentioned, to a second date.. skipping the first one (assuming you were infact getting together/decided it was time to be a couple)?
This is my policy. I can't say that it really works for sure, cause I haven't had a date since last September, but it's part of my M.O. when planning a date with someone I've met online. (It doesn't necessarily apply to someone you've met through friends.)
I always suggest that a first date should be in a coffee shop. You agree in advance that the date will only last as long as your cups are full, and then you go you separate ways. In other words, both parties know in advance that the date shouldn't last more than 20-30 minutes. It's been agreed upon. It gives you a chance to decide, without spending any serious money, whether you would ever see that person again. I think that most of the time it would only take 5 minutes to figure this out, but you don't want to burn your palate gulping down the coffee. You meet somewhere convenient to both people, preferably somewhere you don't frequent on a regular basis, so you don't have to bump into them again if you don't want to. And you keep it very light. Talk a bit about politics. Current news items. Mostly objective stuff. Just to see if you like their voice, their manner of expressing themself, their comfort level with themselves. But the best part is that you can announce, with no hesitation, that the date is over and it's time to go. Then, if it was a great date, and you're anxious to see them again, you'll know that you have a whole lot of stuff to talk about next time. Also, if the coffee date was great, there's nothing that says you can't suggest going for a walk - the date doesn't have to end necessarily. Walking and talking are great because you don't have to spend a whole hour making someone uncomfortable by looking at them, or get twitchy having them look at you.
A great date that I went on last year was just like that. We ended up hitting some golf balls, saw a movie, and then had dinner. All from a 20 minute coffee.
But what woe should you meet someone for dinner, spend $50, sit in their company for and hour or two, and 20 minutes in you were wondering how the hell you're going to get out of it.
But that's just me...
I always suggest that a first date should be in a coffee shop. You agree in advance that the date will only last as long as your cups are full, and then you go you separate ways. In other words, both parties know in advance that the date shouldn't last more than 20-30 minutes. It's been agreed upon. It gives you a chance to decide, without spending any serious money, whether you would ever see that person again. I think that most of the time it would only take 5 minutes to figure this out, but you don't want to burn your palate gulping down the coffee. You meet somewhere convenient to both people, preferably somewhere you don't frequent on a regular basis, so you don't have to bump into them again if you don't want to. And you keep it very light. Talk a bit about politics. Current news items. Mostly objective stuff. Just to see if you like their voice, their manner of expressing themself, their comfort level with themselves. But the best part is that you can announce, with no hesitation, that the date is over and it's time to go. Then, if it was a great date, and you're anxious to see them again, you'll know that you have a whole lot of stuff to talk about next time. Also, if the coffee date was great, there's nothing that says you can't suggest going for a walk - the date doesn't have to end necessarily. Walking and talking are great because you don't have to spend a whole hour making someone uncomfortable by looking at them, or get twitchy having them look at you.
A great date that I went on last year was just like that. We ended up hitting some golf balls, saw a movie, and then had dinner. All from a 20 minute coffee.
But what woe should you meet someone for dinner, spend $50, sit in their company for and hour or two, and 20 minutes in you were wondering how the hell you're going to get out of it.
But that's just me...
DO:
1. Carry on a conversation other than the weather or your ex.
2. Make eye contact.
3. Be yourself.
DO NOT:
1. Wear you stupid ballcap. If you must wear one to the meeting, be a gentleman and remove it. NEVER sit at the table wearing your cap.
2. Do not brag about your other women, how great you are in the sack, how wonderful you are to women. Actions speak better than words.
3. Complain about the distance you have travelled to meet me. You knew when we started where I live. If it bothers you, don't arrange to meet.
4. If you like me and want to see me again, mean it. Don't lie, I am a big girl, if you do not want to see me again, tell me so I don't end up wasting my time.
1. Carry on a conversation other than the weather or your ex.
2. Make eye contact.
3. Be yourself.
DO NOT:
1. Wear you stupid ballcap. If you must wear one to the meeting, be a gentleman and remove it. NEVER sit at the table wearing your cap.
2. Do not brag about your other women, how great you are in the sack, how wonderful you are to women. Actions speak better than words.
3. Complain about the distance you have travelled to meet me. You knew when we started where I live. If it bothers you, don't arrange to meet.
4. If you like me and want to see me again, mean it. Don't lie, I am a big girl, if you do not want to see me again, tell me so I don't end up wasting my time.
hell ya....good question grrr....start a thread on this one.
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I will start it off;
Do - a nice kiss. (if there's connection). At the end of the date (no tongue action). Just a sweet kiss to let her know i am interested.
Do Not - i definetly would not be conversation controlling.