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jono7: hi terbear, i would want to know. if i liked the man, it wouldn't make a difference to me if the man i just met was going through cancer treatments. more than likely i would be supportive; i would want to try and help. i would want to know the truth, and make an informed decision about getting into a relationship.
jono thats the one word i was looking for being supportive, Thanks
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terbear57: tonight is just coffee,meeting each other for the first time
Ha ha! You didn't answer the question.
You've already agreed that telling her from the start is a good way to go about things, but where is the start?
Would you be sitting there wracked with discomfort if you don't tell her tonight, or can you just go and have a good time?
What happens if you don't hit it off anyway, there's no chemistry when you're face to face? Is it the start? In which case will you dropping a heavy one when you don't actually need to?
There's always the possibility that one of you could get run over by a bus tomorrow, in which case your treatment will also be a moot point.
If you can forget about it for the evening, why not have just the one evening where you're not having to deal with it? If things go well, then maybe that is the time to talk about it.
I once met a fella who had luekemia and eventually it was gonna beat him. I thought long and hard about that one and decided, none of us comes with a guarantee that we will stay healthy, or even alive for the next 24 hours. We could have 10 years of bliss with someone who is has luekemia and just a few days with someone else who's as fit as a butcher's dog.
I was really warming up to the whole idea of meeting up for coffee with this bloke...and then he pissed me off by asking me if I'd go away for a dirty weekend with him.
I just ain't that kinda girl. 
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southmiami12: terbear there are so many cancer survivors.they live their lives each day at a time. enjoy your night.letting her know or not is a choice you would have to make.if it is meant for both to be a match it will happen.being at your age range,don't lose a minute of happiness.
wish you he best and a total recovery....
wish you he best and a total recovery....
southmiami true their are so many cancer survivors now days, life is to short to set and wait
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I'm inclined to agree with silentspring.
A first meet over a coffee is not really the place to discuss your health issues. How would you feel if the situation was in reverse. Could you handle that kind of in formation?
If your meeting leads to another date ,I would then consider the need to inform her.
Why spoil a pleasurable evening.Enjoy yourself and her company.
A first meet over a coffee is not really the place to discuss your health issues. How would you feel if the situation was in reverse. Could you handle that kind of in formation?
If your meeting leads to another date ,I would then consider the need to inform her.
Why spoil a pleasurable evening.Enjoy yourself and her company.
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silentspring: No, I would not tell her tonight! To me that would be a wrong thing to do. I would enjoy this evening, letting her leave you tonight (or not leave you until the morning lol) with the experience of you, and not you with an illness. If I was the woman and you have told me, I really would be kind of buffled why you told me that at the first date.
Wait till the second time you meet. To me as a woman that would feel most fair.
Whatever you choose. Enjoy the evening.
Wait till the second time you meet. To me as a woman that would feel most fair.
Whatever you choose. Enjoy the evening.
I just going to go out tonight,enjoy myself, see if we hit it off or not
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jac379: Ha ha! You didn't answer the question.
You've already agreed that telling her from the start is a good way to go about things, but where is the start?
Would you be sitting there wracked with discomfort if you don't tell her tonight, or can you just go and have a good time?
What happens if you don't hit it off anyway, there's no chemistry when you're face to face? Is it the start? In which case will you dropping a heavy one when you don't actually need to?
There's always the possibility that one of you could get run over by a bus tomorrow, in which case your treatment will also be a moot point.
If you can forget about it for the evening, why not have just the one evening where you're not having to deal with it? If things go well, then maybe that is the time to talk about it.
I once met a fella who had luekemia and eventually it was gonna beat him. I thought long and hard about that one and decided, none of us comes with a guarantee that we will stay healthy, or even alive for the next 24 hours. We could have 10 years of bliss with someone who is has luekemia and just a few days with someone else who's as fit as a butcher's dog.
I was really warming up to the whole idea of meeting up for coffee with this bloke...and then he pissed me off by asking me if I'd go away for a dirty weekend with him. I just ain't that kinda girl.
You've already agreed that telling her from the start is a good way to go about things, but where is the start?
Would you be sitting there wracked with discomfort if you don't tell her tonight, or can you just go and have a good time?
What happens if you don't hit it off anyway, there's no chemistry when you're face to face? Is it the start? In which case will you dropping a heavy one when you don't actually need to?
There's always the possibility that one of you could get run over by a bus tomorrow, in which case your treatment will also be a moot point.
If you can forget about it for the evening, why not have just the one evening where you're not having to deal with it? If things go well, then maybe that is the time to talk about it.
I once met a fella who had luekemia and eventually it was gonna beat him. I thought long and hard about that one and decided, none of us comes with a guarantee that we will stay healthy, or even alive for the next 24 hours. We could have 10 years of bliss with someone who is has luekemia and just a few days with someone else who's as fit as a butcher's dog.
I was really warming up to the whole idea of meeting up for coffee with this bloke...and then he pissed me off by asking me if I'd go away for a dirty weekend with him. I just ain't that kinda girl.
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terbear57: southmiami true their are so many cancer survivors now days, life is to short to set and wait
My sister had cancer some 15 years ago and beat it. She didn't have a window for dying.
Many of my customers have had cancer and they've all beaten it.
I know a man who was in his eighties when he was diagnosed with prostate cancer. He was the primary carer for his disabled wife. He told the Dr, "Sorry, but I don't have the time to be ill"...and he beat it. He must be in his 90's now.
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jac379: Ha ha! You didn't answer the question.
You've already agreed that telling her from the start is a good way to go about things, but where is the start?
Would you be sitting there wracked with discomfort if you don't tell her tonight, or can you just go and have a good time?
What happens if you don't hit it off anyway, there's no chemistry when you're face to face? Is it the start? In which case will you dropping a heavy one when you don't actually need to?
There's always the possibility that one of you could get run over by a bus tomorrow, in which case your treatment will also be a moot point.
If you can forget about it for the evening, why not have just the one evening where you're not having to deal with it? If things go well, then maybe that is the time to talk about it.
I once met a fella who had luekemia and eventually it was gonna beat him. I thought long and hard about that one and decided, none of us comes with a guarantee that we will stay healthy, or even alive for the next 24 hours. We could have 10 years of bliss with someone who is has luekemia and just a few days with someone else who's as fit as a butcher's dog.
I was really warming up to the whole idea of meeting up for coffee with this bloke...and then he pissed me off by asking me if I'd go away for a dirty weekend with him. I just ain't that kinda girl.
I agree with you jac, it is better just to go out and enjoy each other,see where it may lead us, time well come when it is the right time if the chemistry is theirYou've already agreed that telling her from the start is a good way to go about things, but where is the start?
Would you be sitting there wracked with discomfort if you don't tell her tonight, or can you just go and have a good time?
What happens if you don't hit it off anyway, there's no chemistry when you're face to face? Is it the start? In which case will you dropping a heavy one when you don't actually need to?
There's always the possibility that one of you could get run over by a bus tomorrow, in which case your treatment will also be a moot point.
If you can forget about it for the evening, why not have just the one evening where you're not having to deal with it? If things go well, then maybe that is the time to talk about it.
I once met a fella who had luekemia and eventually it was gonna beat him. I thought long and hard about that one and decided, none of us comes with a guarantee that we will stay healthy, or even alive for the next 24 hours. We could have 10 years of bliss with someone who is has luekemia and just a few days with someone else who's as fit as a butcher's dog.
I was really warming up to the whole idea of meeting up for coffee with this bloke...and then he pissed me off by asking me if I'd go away for a dirty weekend with him. I just ain't that kinda girl.
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jac379: My sister had cancer some 15 years ago and beat it. She didn't have a window for dying.
Many of my customers have had cancer and they've all beaten it.
I know a man who was in his eighties when he was diagnosed with prostate cancer. He was the primary carer for his disabled wife. He told the Dr, "Sorry, but I don't have the time to be ill"...and he beat it. He must be in his 90's now.
Many of my customers have had cancer and they've all beaten it.
I know a man who was in his eighties when he was diagnosed with prostate cancer. He was the primary carer for his disabled wife. He told the Dr, "Sorry, but I don't have the time to be ill"...and he beat it. He must be in his 90's now.
Thats sure great news jac,some how i cant picture me being in my 90s
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I you already have a date planned, I personally think that I would enjoy the date first. I would see if it's worth even worrying about first. If there seems like there may be a connection, then I would be up front. If not, I would make the most of the date, and maybe even schedule another.
Live life in the moment.
Live life in the moment.
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terbear57: Thats sure great news jac,some how i cant picture me being in my 90s
Why not. Negativity will get you nowhere.
The power of positive thought and a will to live is the best medicine.
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terbear57: I agree with you jac, it is better just to go out and enjoy each other,see where it may lead us, time well come when it is the right time if the chemistry is their
When the time is right, you'll know.
Try not to worry about it.
If she's worth her salt, she'll recognise its not an easy thing to talk about. Its a balance between telling her early enough for her to make informed choices and your own needs as the person dealing with being unwell.
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Jeeepers: I you already have a date planned, I personally think that I would enjoy the date first. I would see if it's worth even worrying about first. If there seems like there may be a connection, then I would be up front. If not, I would make the most of the date, and maybe even schedule another.
Live life in the moment.
Live life in the moment.
Hi jeeps, spoken from the horse's mouth if you will excuse the pun.
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terbear57: Thats sure great news jac,some how i cant picture me being in my 90s
We can't picture being really old and in our 30's when we're 18, either.
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Jeeepers: I you already have a date planned, I personally think that I would enjoy the date first. I would see if it's worth even worrying about first. If there seems like there may be a connection, then I would be up front. If not, I would make the most of the date, and maybe even schedule another.
Live life in the moment.
feels like i am 16 all over againLive life in the moment.
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bestbefore: Why not. Negativity will get you nowhere. The power of positive thought and a will to live is the best medicine.
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terbear57: feels like i am 16 all over again
Far out !! Ejoy it !! 
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terbear57: feels like i am 16 all over again
is that a good thing? grin
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jac379: We can't picture being really old and in our 30's when we're 18, either.
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