From past experience....I didn't get upset persay, just felt after him saying how much he loved me and that it broke his heart, he couldn't have cared THAT much. I'm past getting upset over the petty things....and to me, that is petty. Life is much too short to get upset over the little things...we should all pick our battles.
Because, A. They are exceedingly shallow and never really cared about you in the first place. And B. As a control mechanism, they realize that their hold on/over you was not strong as they'd initially thought and that you can and will continue without them, thereby negating even further their own worthiness.
This happened to me and my kids father.....We had been split up for years when I got married...I didnt tell him that I was getting married and when he found out he was furious! he came over and yelled at me and cried that I never loved him or I wouldnt have been able to move on....BUT IT WAS YEARS after we split up after only being together for several months...>Geesh.....now imagine why I left in the first place!
I stoped asking why along time ago. Someone doesn't want to be around me, so be it, but don't even think about coming back around sniffin and whinin because you screwed up.
Didn't care enough the first time around to work it out, lol they sure as heck aren't gettin a second chance to rip my heart apart again.
May be a bit cold you say, probably, but this has saved me from alot of crap in the past.
Now I'm happy just being me, someone wants to join in my life, they best be in the same mind frame, or
oh yawn ... one of the oldest lines in the book.."ive made the biggest mistake of my life"
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why are you not unable to function without me? I dont want you but I dont want you to want anyone else. how dare you have a life when I am supposed to be your world?
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Why would thy come back weeks later and be upset with you for moving on?