There are two types of thinkers in this world; abstract and concrete. Abstract thinkers are in touch with themselves; concrete thinkers don't like to think about those sort of things. So you cannot just generalize, lumping everyone into one category. For me, if I need space, I need space, but if it is someone I care about, I will be kind about it, not just disappear.
Yep, we used the terms of linear vs non-linear minded people. those that can not see things any other way then in large generalities and limited room for growth were usually linear minded individuals.
tomcatwarneOcean City, Plumouth, Devon, England UK17,106 posts
risingsnare: There are two types of thinkers in this world; abstract and concrete. Abstract thinkers are in touch with themselves; concrete thinkers don't like to think about those sort of things. So you cannot just generalize, lumping everyone into one category. For me, if I need space, I need space, but if it is someone I care about, I will be kind about it, not just disappear.
I agree, women don't realise sometimes men need space, it doesn't mean they don't love them, it just means they are normal males.
Usually I am the one that talks too much anyway. WHen I stop talking it can sometimes mean that I have decided no one is listening at the moment anyway.
tomcatwarneOcean City, Plumouth, Devon, England UK17,106 posts
Ccincy: You won't find your absolute answers of why a man doesn't feel like talking from reading all those dating and relationship books.
Usually they're written by someone who have never been in a relationship or else like to pigeon hole people into one lump.
Men just like us women are unique and not at all like you might read about in those books you read.
WE all like our space sometimes and just want to spend some time alone.
It's called being understanding and practicing patience.
Exactly so why when men do it they get responses like "you don't love me anymore" yet when women need their space we are just expected to shut up??????
tomcatwarne: Exactly so why when men do it they get responses like "you don't love me anymore" yet when women need their space we are just expected to shut up??????
I'm one woman who's never played that kind of games so I don't know why some other women do it or say it.
Maybe they want to make the guy feel quilty or something.
tomcatwarne: HMMM, I wouldn't put that one to the test if I were you. If it is an important game, you might get your way, but afterwards he would resent missing the game
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