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Dec 25, 2006 5:09 PM CST Come here, I have multiple questions for you :)
PanthersKiss
PanthersKissPanthersKissMiddlesex County, Massachusetts USA28 Threads 967 Posts
1.Has anybody gain weight from all the fattening foods at the holiday parties?laugh ....I have, a whole 10 pounds, no more parties for meblushing

2.When a man writes in his profile that he wants a slim, average woman, or a white woman or both, why do they contact a woman like me?

*I don't want this answer to be about me*, it's a general question I like a man to honestly answer.

I have been told they make an exception for someone like me, they think it's a compliment, I find it degrading-since I am the exception-confused
In my main pic right here, I was 40 pounds heavier than now, but I am not ashamed to use the pic.

Again I am telling you my thoughts about me as an exmple and nothing else...do not rate me...rolling on the floor laughing

Just give me a general opinion on your thoughts...Merry Christmas my friendskiss


angel Angelgrin
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Dec 25, 2006 5:14 PM CST Come here, I have multiple questions for you :)
40yearoldvirgin
40yearoldvirgin40yearoldvirginBurlington, Vermont USA2 Threads 169 Posts
I have not been eating much on the weekends, so I have not gained much.

I would take it as a compliment when guys contact you.
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Dec 25, 2006 5:17 PM CST Come here, I have multiple questions for you :)
PanthersKiss
PanthersKissPanthersKissMiddlesex County, Massachusetts USA28 Threads 967 Posts
Thanks for the answers.

But I said, it's not about me, I used it as an example...I would like some insight into the why?


angel Aangel
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Dec 25, 2006 5:22 PM CST Come here, I have multiple questions for you :)
Missy51970
Missy51970Missy51970Goodland, Kansas USA21 Threads 1,457 Posts
i dont understand it either Angel..Or when they answer ANY to questions about their match..Why lie if you know what you want then say it..period no excuses no lies no regrets..thats about all the insight i can muster up right now.. glad today is almost over with..

as for your questions..omg im not going near a scale for at least a week after today gives me a chance to kncok off a few of the pounds i put on..I ate so many cookies the other night while chatting with some CS friends I thought I would burst so Im sure thats at least 5 lbs and dinner tonight another 5 good grief...ok Im rambling now...BYE
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Dec 25, 2006 5:28 PM CST Come here, I have multiple questions for you :)
onlysunshine
onlysunshineonlysunshineSchwäbisch Gmünd, Baden-Wuerttemberg Germany2 Threads 17 Posts
you're somehow right, although guys want to use it as a compliment the meant person doesn't feel well about. I also gain weight during the last two days, don't know how much, but I better not know and tomorrow there will be another one as it's the last christmas days, afterwards i will put myself on diet to get my weight which i had before christmas. don't feel well with my belly
by the way think you look pretty good on your picture handshake
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Dec 25, 2006 5:31 PM CST Come here, I have multiple questions for you :)
PanthersKiss
PanthersKissPanthersKissMiddlesex County, Massachusetts USA28 Threads 967 Posts
I understand your answer, and you are right, the guys do know what they like, but will get off the matching basics to express interest.

Thank I appreciate your answer...
now if a man can answer this it be more insightful....since it's the men that I have notice do this more.


You gained 5 pounds, not too bad..and it is a good idea to stay off the scale, I do that sometimes, and I find that I am back to my "normal" size.

I am not attending any more holiday parties, lol, I like my healthy foodsgrin
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Dec 25, 2006 5:36 PM CST Come here, I have multiple questions for you :)
PanthersKiss
PanthersKissPanthersKissMiddlesex County, Massachusetts USA28 Threads 967 Posts
Thank you, I am happy that you can see it that it is not a compliment, it's very rude.

Good thing you have your plans on how to lose your weight...I need motivation, lol...but I do work it off.

Thanks for the compliment on my pic...that is the one I say I was 40 pounds heavier than now, but I am not ashamed of the weight, so I put the pic up.laugh

Thanks, Angelangel ...handshake
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Dec 25, 2006 5:55 PM CST Come here, I have multiple questions for you :)
PanthersKiss
PanthersKissPanthersKissMiddlesex County, Massachusetts USA28 Threads 967 Posts
Thanks Michael, and you are right, the answers in the basics are not set in stone..and a man can find someone else attractive, it is the remarks "you are an exception" the way I see it, is like this
...just an example, I am of European heritage.
I am too light to be seen as black, and too dark to be white...they see my heritage...they would not date a darker woman, so I am the "exception"..does that mean that someone like me is like a middle ground?...they cross over to a certain limit.

PS:This comment is not intended to start a racial conflict, or weight issue...it was just a question that's been sitting in my mind, as I see who approaches me, and from talking to other women.


You are funny with your weight answer...at least you know your clothes be fitting every week.
Before I had kids I never gain weight....laugh
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Dec 25, 2006 6:12 PM CST Come here, I have multiple questions for you :)
MichaelH
MichaelHMichaelHNowhere, Indiana USA24 Threads 620 Posts
Really can't answer that as far as the remarks. I guess the ones that actually use the remark are the ones that can answer it best.
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Dec 25, 2006 6:13 PM CST Come here, I have multiple questions for you :)
zdeadmanwalking
zdeadmanwalkingzdeadmanwalkingbowling green, Kentucky USA235 Threads 3,011 Posts
dunno what do you mean "someone like me"?

you are a human being just like anyone else
you deserve to me love likes anyone else
true love has nothing to do with the physical being

but true love has to do with the soul of the person
for true unconditional love lays on the inside
there is nothing on nor about the outside that has to do with true love

for true love only sees the person on the inside
true love sees what the eyes cannot see
true love sees the true person and not the person on the outside
for true love accpets the person as they are
true love accpets the person as they are
true love does not try to change the person
true love only accpets the person as they are and for who they are

if someone puts conditions on their love than it is not true love
for there is no conditions on true love
for true love is unconditional


when you can find someone who loves you
for the person you are on the inside
than you have found true love hug
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Dec 25, 2006 6:40 PM CST Come here, I have multiple questions for you :)
PanthersKiss
PanthersKissPanthersKissMiddlesex County, Massachusetts USA28 Threads 967 Posts
Z-I admire your words

My question were ask in general, even if I set myself as an example.

What do I mean by "someone like me"..nothing, it was an example.

But I will tell you who "someone like me is" I am "me" and I love myself as I am, and would not change for anyone.

I am strong willed, with a determination that is almost unstoppable,
I am accepting, content, and peace, also have a very inquirying mind.

Love is not missing in my life...it is the right kind of love that is missing, when I find that, or it finds me, I will have that love forever.

Thanks again for your words, I enjoy your insightangel
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Dec 25, 2006 6:54 PM CST Come here, I have multiple questions for you :)
themechanic
themechanicthemechanicNo, Wisconsin USA16 Threads 1,774 Posts
"*I don't want this answer to be about me*, it's a general question I like a man to honestly answer."


I dont belive any question is general and I know why men contact women not suited to there taste... Your personality honey that is golden and It draws people too you if you didnt notice looks are secondary in this case.


Mech
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Dec 25, 2006 6:58 PM CST Come here, I have multiple questions for you :)
PanthersKiss
PanthersKissPanthersKissMiddlesex County, Massachusetts USA28 Threads 967 Posts
My friend...what can I say, lol...you did not give me the exact answer I was looking for...but your friendship is one of a kind.

Smooches to you, my BC....kiss kiss kiss
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Dec 25, 2006 7:04 PM CST Come here, I have multiple questions for you :)
themechanic
themechanicthemechanicNo, Wisconsin USA16 Threads 1,774 Posts
Oh belive me I know what you mean Its not difficult to read between the lines of your conundrum and see that "isnt life wonderful so many choices so many options it is sometimes overwhelming *persevere*
in all your endevorse now and tomorrow you and a true Gem. Bless You



kiss hug

Mech
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Dec 25, 2006 7:05 PM CST Come here, I have multiple questions for you :)
themechanic
themechanicthemechanicNo, Wisconsin USA16 Threads 1,774 Posts
Are^
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Dec 25, 2006 7:16 PM CST Come here, I have multiple questions for you :)
dancingfarmer
dancingfarmerdancingfarmerColumbia, Connecticut USA41 Threads 752 Posts
1: I haven't gained weight only because I dance a minimum of 2 nights a week for 4 hours each.

2. Guys contact you for the same reason they contact me when they're only 5'8" tall and ask me to dance with them. I'm 6' tall in my bare feet. How in the world can I dance with someone that short? Short guys are always saying they don't care if I'm tall. I care if I'm taller than them and look like a giant dancing with them.

People don't read and don't think about how others might feel is the answer to your question.

dancing
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Dec 25, 2006 7:22 PM CST Come here, I have multiple questions for you :)
PanthersKiss
PanthersKissPanthersKissMiddlesex County, Massachusetts USA28 Threads 967 Posts
Ha, you know you melt my heart sometimes?laugh kiss
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Dec 25, 2006 7:26 PM CST Come here, I have multiple questions for you :)
themechanic
themechanicthemechanicNo, Wisconsin USA16 Threads 1,774 Posts
Mech is 6' ft tallwink
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Dec 25, 2006 7:28 PM CST Come here, I have multiple questions for you :)
PanthersKiss
PanthersKissPanthersKissMiddlesex County, Massachusetts USA28 Threads 967 Posts
You made a good point, people don't read or think sometimes, but it has happen offline too.

This question can be percieved in so many different ways, that there is not one answer for it, but perhaps many.

I cannot answer it for myself, or my friends that have similar experiences, I could draw a conclusion as to why, but it would be unfair I guess, to think in just one mindset.hug
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Dec 25, 2006 7:31 PM CST Come here, I have multiple questions for you :)
dancingfarmer
dancingfarmerdancingfarmerColumbia, Connecticut USA41 Threads 752 Posts
And so you are! Want to dance???
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