Why is it some people run from you when you have a disablility? ( Archived) (28)

I have been on " a few sites", and wonder why it turns off guys, when they find out you're disabled. I'm just like the rest of you, but you have to give me a chance and get to know the inner me.I'm not asking for you to marry me...LOL I can walk, talk, cook, go hiking; just may get worn out before you. I'm not contagious, and it won't kill me, so what have you got to lose...we can at least chat

it's fear, and a drag... from my own experience.

scared, don't understand, not enough knowledge

it they run, let em go, you don't want them anyway

Ignorance and misinformation.

I don't think they are running from you personally, I think they are running from the unknown. And possibly the responsibility of having to take care of another. Don't worry, he is out there waiting and looking for you. Patience is the name of the game.

even though you cant see i do have a disabilty, however so far no ones ever ran away, but theres always a first.

Had a similar event a few yrs ago when I almost needed a
heart transplant (virus)....was engaged at the time and she
left a cloud of dust getting away from me....I'm better for it...
recovered now...healthier than before...

Think some people just dont want the "baggage" ..hate that
word...
Hey De_Javu ...I'm sure you've looked into holistic or herbal
help for fibromyalgia?...I've had experience / luck in that area..

I have a similar energy-related disability. Some days I can work like an ox all day long. Other days I’m literally dead to the world and can’t even drag myself out of bed. It’s not a matte of will power because I’ve tried to overcome it and it’s just not physically possible.

The problem is that on my bad days I *can* force myself to get up and go through motions. The only problem is that I am extremely inefficient when I force myself to do that, bordering on being dangerous especially if operating equipment. And I have even gotten to the point where I had to quickly lay down on the ground or floor to prevent myself from blacking out. Finally, if I force myself to do that on a bad day it will only guarantee that the next day will be worse. So it’s better to give into it and rest. If I do that I might be able to get up later and be completely refreshed and normal again.

Because of my inability to maintain a regular schedule I am unable to work. I’d be calling off every other day or more. It can also hit at anytime during the day. Currently I live really weird hours because of this. Sometimes I’ll have a bad day, but then at midnight I’ll be feeling really good, and can’t even sleep. So I just get up and do things all night long.

This completely random and unpredictable type of schedule is not something that a partner is likely to understand. It also makes it difficult to keep appointments or schedule events. Living alone I avoid that problem by simply not making any scheduled dates.

Thus far I haven’t had any women reject be because of this. Mainly because they don’t even know about it. But it does prevent me from hitting on women that I might otherwise hit on. In truth I’d rather find a woman who has a similar handicap so we can both understand what each other is going through. We can have great times together when we are both feeling good, and maybe help each other out when one is feeling good and the other one isn’t.

There are dating sites devoted for people with these kinds of disabilities actually. It probably does make best sense to get a partner who had a similar disability. Otherwise a normally healthy partner might think you are just being undependable and irresponsible, and that would be a really bad situation because it’s not true at all.

DITTO! Yup. Very difficult to plan things... it's day to day...

ABRA!!!