Anyone still up out there? (8)

Have a question to throw out there. How would you deal with one of your closest friends revealing to you that they have been seeing a married man for the past 7 months?

Stay out of it. You can give all the advice you want and it won't effect her decision.

Well I agree with Sticks on this one... obviously she doesn't want any advice or she would have come to you in the first place.

I value honesty, integrity and authenticity in my friendships. That means sometimes saying what they don't want to hear. But I love them too much to watch their self destructive behaviour and keep silent.

What about her thinks that she is only good enough to share someone else's husband. Does she not deserve one of her own ... a full-time one?

If he is doing it with her he will do it too her. And even if he leaves his wife for her ... it has less than a 2% chance of survival.

Not to mention the wife and possible children involved. Being knowingly - the important word being knowingly since many lie about their status - involved with a married person is low. Might sound harsh but it is.

Keep quiet? Not THIS friend!

think it's a bad situation but sometimes you cant get through to some people cause there blinded by the fantasy

Do not get involved. I have been in your situation before. I told my friend (ex friend now) that I did not agree with what she was doing and that I did not ever want to hear about it period! Told her she could talk about anything other than that. She did not like it but too bad. I have no tolerence for people like that!

So tell her what you think honestly and tell her you will not get involved in it.

Thanks for the advice everyone. I agree with everything you all had to say. I have no intentions of getting in the middle thats for sure, but I do need to say what I think about the situation to her and the fact that she lied to me for months about it. In the end its her decision, her life but I know she's be knocking on my door when all the cards fall, and quite frankly I can't feel sorry for her. For someone that I thought was so bright, what a stupid choice this was. And for the record yes there are kids involved...very very young children.