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Kansas City church has a unique reminder to end personal complaining.
By HELEN T. GRAY
The Kansas City Star
Mike Ransdell | The Kansas City Star
Among the dozen Christ Church Unity members who have gone 21 straight days without complaining are Tom Alyea, Linda LeMieux, Norm Heyder, Jan Ward, Marcia Dale, the Rev. Will Bowen, Patricia Platt and JoAnn Rennack.
It was a pastor’s simple idea: Just stop complaining.
And to help his congregation remember, the Rev. Will Bowen gave each one a purple bracelet stamped with the word spirit.
The challenge was to go 21 days straight without mumbling a complaining word and no gossiping and criticizing either. If a person slipped, the bracelet was to be switched to the other wrist, and the 21-day time period started over.
But what began in July as a simple idea has become a national movement, a “complaint-free movement.” And Christ Church Unity in Kansas City is becoming known throughout the country as the complaint-free church.
Look at what has been happening.
The article that appeared on the front page of The Kansas City Star last month has been picked up by newspapers in states including California, Utah, Texas, Florida, Ohio, Connecticut, Indiana and Illinois.
The church has received more than 100 calls, e-mails and letters, many requesting bracelets that the church is offering for free.
“So far we have sent out more than 9,000,” Bowen said. “And this is with none of the newspapers listing our contact information. People are just hungry for this and finding us.”
The effort is the subject of a magazine sent to all Unity ministers, board members and church staff around the world. It was featured on local television, and Bowen said he has found it on at least half a dozen Web sites and blogs.
Requests for bracelets have come from individuals, families, churches of various denominations, businesses, schools, civic groups, Scouts and sports teams. Bowen said he received an e-mail from a woman in Florida who wanted to send them to friends outside the United States.
But then there was a church that returned the bracelets, saying that they didn’t like the quality.
“I thought to myself, ‘They’re going to have a tough row to hoe because they’re starting off complaining about the bracelets,’ ” Bowen said with a laugh.
Christ Church has set up the Web site
The church also offers yard signs and bumper stickers that say “AComplaintFreeWorld.org,” and it is selling “complaint-free church” T-shirts. The quote on the front is from Maya Angelou: “If you don’t like something, change it. If you can’t change it, change your attitude. Don’t complain.”
And if imitation is the sincerest form of flattery, Christ Church Unity has experienced that as well, with a Greenwood, Mo., church distributing black “no whining bands” to its members.
In addition, Christ Church’s own complaint-free club is growing as people reach their 21 straight days without complaining. Of the 250 members, the club now numbers 12 and includes Bowen and his 10-year-old daughter, Lia, with many getting close, he said.
Patricia Platt of Gladstone recently succeeded, with a push from her fourth-grade class. Several students had told her their parents had seen her name in the paper and asked what it was about. She read the article to them, and many wanted the class to try the challenge.
Careful not to offend parents by getting the bracelets from her church that had the word spirit on them, Platt bought bracelets that displayed such words as hope, be strong and dream. All of her 25 students wanted bracelets, and they regularly shared in the class how they were doing.