What do you say to that? (20)
I think the word we are looking for is,, coward,, no clue as to why they do that,, i just know it's being cowardly
your not wrong for thinking this way hes a spineless punk anyone who considers them self a man should have enough balls to tell you the truth its not that hard to do just that some people dont have a problem hurting people they just dont want to be around when it happens
Thanks guys! That really helped. I don't feel so lousy anymore! 
Guys are guys......I found that Greg Behrendts statement INCREDIBLY helpful when he said "he's just not that into you" ..if a guy is interested is us...come hell or high water he will call......sorry you had that experience..most women have had MANY! like that unfortunately...hope the next one is a keeper
It is what it is...It's really hard to tell someone face to face that your not interestd in them especially if they are showing an interest in you..but your right an e-mail would have been an easy out - something that is polite - ''had a good time but don't think this will develop past friendship'' instead of stringing along. Guy think different than women also.. What were you expecting to meet again within the week or just to hear from him. He may have thought getting together would be ok - sometime down the road..had a coffee..thats that. Did he say he would call you, or message you? If he didn't then it's not a priority to him..
Well thats just it! The night when we met we had talked about a movie we both are interested in and he said he would go with me. Then a few days later when i got an e mail from him he told me he was in the states for some sports event stuff but would call me when he got home!
Like why would someone say that and then not call?
I don't get it! Maybe i am just to rusty in this dating thing or plainly gullible. I don't know.
Like why would someone say that and then not call?
I don't get it! Maybe i am just to rusty in this dating thing or plainly gullible. I don't know.
First dates are nerve wrecking. Waiting for "the call" is even worse and when it doesn't come you wonder....what did I do wrong. We've all experienced that and it's not a good feeling but we go on and hopefully we find someone who has the balls to call. 
It all became clear (like mud) to me one day
A guy I was seeing got a call from his past g/f - blah blah blah - she was going on about him picking up some of his stuff he had left there...
he says to her 'ok I'll call you later' - she must have said 'when'
he goes 'I don't know ---later -- some time after now'' it was like an aha!! moment---
so if he says I'l call you after I get home...when is after??
I'll never understand it....dating is very confusing - I don't do hints well...tell me what you think - not everyone is meant for ewach other so IF we meet and I'm not your type or your not mine be polite -- leave it at that..don't string us poor women along..
A guy I was seeing got a call from his past g/f - blah blah blah - she was going on about him picking up some of his stuff he had left there...
he says to her 'ok I'll call you later' - she must have said 'when'
he goes 'I don't know ---later -- some time after now'' it was like an aha!! moment---
so if he says I'l call you after I get home...when is after??
I'll never understand it....dating is very confusing - I don't do hints well...tell me what you think - not everyone is meant for ewach other so IF we meet and I'm not your type or your not mine be polite -- leave it at that..don't string us poor women along..
Amen to that girlfriends!!!!
And since you said call from the past. I had actually a guy who i was talking to on the phone and he was really sweet i mean i can't say any different. But then after a week or so talking on the phone we decided that we would meet on the following Saturday. Ok fine. Friday night he calls me and we talked some more and got into the subject of jobs we had.
Well i am proud of the things i have done in my life some more than others but still proud.
So i tell him i used to work in a butchershop as a salesperson and then in a Jeans store but am not good at lying to people so i left there after 2 weeks and worked for a cleaning company and after that in a nursinghome in housekeeping where i worked my way up to the supervisor position of laundry, housekeeping and floormaintenance! Up until then he was fine but then i told him about my job as a truckdriver and that i drove all over north America and have seen every state in the US and most of the provinces in Canada he became quiet! The phonecall ended shortly after that with the excuse that he was tired.
The next day we were supposed to meet and he calles with a really lame excuse that he needs to get his nest straightened out before bringing someone into it. Meaning his life. Well duh! Why do you even bother coming into a website like this if you are NOT ready to hook up with people?
I don't know i think i have a talent to pick some really strange creatures out there.
Just because i was a trucker for a while does not make me less of a woman and i don't have cooties either gee really !!
And since you said call from the past. I had actually a guy who i was talking to on the phone and he was really sweet i mean i can't say any different. But then after a week or so talking on the phone we decided that we would meet on the following Saturday. Ok fine. Friday night he calls me and we talked some more and got into the subject of jobs we had.
Well i am proud of the things i have done in my life some more than others but still proud.
So i tell him i used to work in a butchershop as a salesperson and then in a Jeans store but am not good at lying to people so i left there after 2 weeks and worked for a cleaning company and after that in a nursinghome in housekeeping where i worked my way up to the supervisor position of laundry, housekeeping and floormaintenance! Up until then he was fine but then i told him about my job as a truckdriver and that i drove all over north America and have seen every state in the US and most of the provinces in Canada he became quiet! The phonecall ended shortly after that with the excuse that he was tired.
The next day we were supposed to meet and he calles with a really lame excuse that he needs to get his nest straightened out before bringing someone into it. Meaning his life. Well duh! Why do you even bother coming into a website like this if you are NOT ready to hook up with people?
I don't know i think i have a talent to pick some really strange creatures out there.
Just because i was a trucker for a while does not make me less of a woman and i don't have cooties either gee really !!
yea well your better than that......
Well i told my sister about this experience and she said to me. Girl you scare the poor guy out of his pants.
Just think you know how to fix stuff around the house you are not afraid to get your hands dirty and can work as hard as any guy! You made a living in the mans world and drove a truck. You are outspoken and say what you mean which at some days can be a blessing and others a curse but you are direct and don't take sh.t.
The guys are scared cause you can actually take care of yourself and thats what they don't feel comfortable with.
Guys need to feel manly and as the protector and such.
Now i think ok i need to change? I have to change who i am, what i am and the way i act to make a guy feel manly enough to want to go out with me? I can't tell him the things i am proud of or the things i can do or the things i have accomplished? Thats not right that is who i am and either he can accept me for who i am or not at all but i am never ever going to change for a man and then get kicked in the head.
Why does life have to be so complicated?
Just think you know how to fix stuff around the house you are not afraid to get your hands dirty and can work as hard as any guy! You made a living in the mans world and drove a truck. You are outspoken and say what you mean which at some days can be a blessing and others a curse but you are direct and don't take sh.t.
The guys are scared cause you can actually take care of yourself and thats what they don't feel comfortable with.
Guys need to feel manly and as the protector and such.
Now i think ok i need to change? I have to change who i am, what i am and the way i act to make a guy feel manly enough to want to go out with me? I can't tell him the things i am proud of or the things i can do or the things i have accomplished? Thats not right that is who i am and either he can accept me for who i am or not at all but i am never ever going to change for a man and then get kicked in the head.
Why does life have to be so complicated?
Why does life have to be so complicated?
Damn good question...your right all the experiences good or bad in our lives have shaped who we are. If there are changes that are needed they have to come from within, not for someone else. I've done a lot of soul searching made a few changes over the last seven years. My eyes are open wider, my heart is closed a little more, but there is still a lot in it. I know who I am and I like who I am. Ca life be simpler? Is it all in our outlook?
""If you love someone
you want to understand them,
and you accept wherever they are....."
"" If you 'want' someone
you only accept them
if they are where you are,
or where you want them to be."
Damn good question...your right all the experiences good or bad in our lives have shaped who we are. If there are changes that are needed they have to come from within, not for someone else. I've done a lot of soul searching made a few changes over the last seven years. My eyes are open wider, my heart is closed a little more, but there is still a lot in it. I know who I am and I like who I am. Ca life be simpler? Is it all in our outlook?
""If you love someone
you want to understand them,
and you accept wherever they are....."
"" If you 'want' someone
you only accept them
if they are where you are,
or where you want them to be."
Oh how very true! Change has to come from within but then there are those people who make you change who you are just so you fit in and not lose them.
I was a person who was influenced a lot by what people thought of me and what they needed me to be. Mainly i tried to please EVERYONE and failed miserably!
In the end i was the one who got left behind and in the meantime every one else moved on.
The changes that i have made in the last 8 months have given me back my life!
Well to understand that really you would have to know my story and i am not sure if anyone would be interested in that so i am not going to bother writing all the things down.
If someone wants to know more then write me an e mail.
Lets just say marriage was not good to me and i needed to get out now or i would have done something really stupid and final!
Now i have turned my life around. I am happy again well most of the time, I enjoy life, and look forward to each new day. I can laugh again and i am happy with who i am. I don't care anymore what people think of me its either you like me or you don't. I have learned that you can't please everybody but making the ones that are close to you happy every now and then is a great reward for your effort.
I mean those are not life altering things i have done but it is a start and i feel good.
Besides ever since i left my husband, almost 8 months ago, i have lost 40 pounds!
I am so happy about that no one can imagine. That was another battle for me! I had nothing to do. All i did was sit at home 24/7 no friends no one to visit no one to do stuff with and no family.
So the pounds added on day by day.
But now? Holy moly watch out i got energy again and 35 more pounds to go and i am back to my normal weight! That is one of the biggest and best changes in my life right now and it makes me feel good but the most important part is i am doing it for myself.
Not because my husband said he doesn't like the way i look no! I did it because i want to feel good about myself and i do!
What is the best thing that happened to you all after leaving your ex? Lets hear it. All those success stories.
I was a person who was influenced a lot by what people thought of me and what they needed me to be. Mainly i tried to please EVERYONE and failed miserably!
In the end i was the one who got left behind and in the meantime every one else moved on.
The changes that i have made in the last 8 months have given me back my life!
Well to understand that really you would have to know my story and i am not sure if anyone would be interested in that so i am not going to bother writing all the things down.
If someone wants to know more then write me an e mail.
Lets just say marriage was not good to me and i needed to get out now or i would have done something really stupid and final!
Now i have turned my life around. I am happy again well most of the time, I enjoy life, and look forward to each new day. I can laugh again and i am happy with who i am. I don't care anymore what people think of me its either you like me or you don't. I have learned that you can't please everybody but making the ones that are close to you happy every now and then is a great reward for your effort.
I mean those are not life altering things i have done but it is a start and i feel good.
Besides ever since i left my husband, almost 8 months ago, i have lost 40 pounds!
I am so happy about that no one can imagine. That was another battle for me! I had nothing to do. All i did was sit at home 24/7 no friends no one to visit no one to do stuff with and no family.
So the pounds added on day by day.
But now? Holy moly watch out i got energy again and 35 more pounds to go and i am back to my normal weight! That is one of the biggest and best changes in my life right now and it makes me feel good but the most important part is i am doing it for myself.
Not because my husband said he doesn't like the way i look no! I did it because i want to feel good about myself and i do!
What is the best thing that happened to you all after leaving your ex? Lets hear it. All those success stories.
Yeaaa for you!! Life should be happy, I am proud of you and all you've accomplished.
The best thing since leaving my ex...I think was in getting my children the hell out of Dodge, away from his mind games and all the other stuff that has come up in the years I've been gone. Having them in a different province has allowed them the anonymity they deserve.
The best thing since leaving my ex...I think was in getting my children the hell out of Dodge, away from his mind games and all the other stuff that has come up in the years I've been gone. Having them in a different province has allowed them the anonymity they deserve.
I have a lot of respect for you and what you have done to ensure your kids a good life.
It is not easy walking away from a relationship and start all over again but now with children to take care of too instead of just your self.
You should be proud of who you are and what you have accomplished and i do hope you find a man who truly deserves you.
Honest i am proud of every woman out there who makes the move and creates a better life for her and her children.
I just wish we, in a way ,could help other women who are in relationships and are to scared to leave. There are so many of them it is scary really.
You go girl i think you are one heck of a nice person and people who can call you their friend are lucky creatures.
I am not trying to collect brownie points just being sincere cause somewhere along them lines we all sit in the same boat.
It is not easy walking away from a relationship and start all over again but now with children to take care of too instead of just your self.
You should be proud of who you are and what you have accomplished and i do hope you find a man who truly deserves you.
Honest i am proud of every woman out there who makes the move and creates a better life for her and her children.
I just wish we, in a way ,could help other women who are in relationships and are to scared to leave. There are so many of them it is scary really.
You go girl i think you are one heck of a nice person and people who can call you their friend are lucky creatures.
I am not trying to collect brownie points just being sincere cause somewhere along them lines we all sit in the same boat.
One if the things I'm learning is to quit trying to be perfect for everyone else and just be imperfect for me...This is still a lesson I'm working on but I'm getting it.
thanks for the great words, means tons to me.
thanks for the great words, means tons to me.
welcome!!
We all need a pickmeupper every now and then and words of praise is like balm for the crushed self confidence.
We all need a pickmeupper every now and then and words of praise is like balm for the crushed self confidence.
Well,that is quite low actually i don't get why some guys are like that or do that it is bs as far as i am concerned when they do it and take off and all that.I am 24 and never in my life,not even in my mid 20's have i had a relationship or even a girlfriend.However,i personally would not let any of you singlegirls out there left hanging like that.I would treat you girls like a lady and with respect and gentle care.I would email and call as often as i could.So,if any of you ladies want to give me a shot you know where i am.Some guys out there just don't realize a good thing that is right in front of them.Though,i haven't had anyone special in my life yet,i am willing to try to make a lady very happy if they would want to give me one.
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But it went well. We had a great conversation, laughed a lot and in my opinion we clicked.
When it came to say good bye i asked so what do you think should we do this again? He answered yes i think we should.
After that i have not gotten a phone call and only short e mails.
Well i am sorry but i am a person who worries about others especially people i like!
After i wrote him that i hoped that nothing happened to him i got an e mail saying that he was in the states for some sports event and that he would call me when he gets back.
Now it's been a week and still no phone call.
I am not so dumb to not know that he is not interested and obviously lied to me when he said "Yes i think we should" but why lie?
Why not come out and say: "Well i like you but i don't think its ever going to be more than a friend." and if you are to scared to tell the person to his/her face then why not send an e mail and tell them? But letting someone sit around waiting for a phone call or an e mail because that person believed in what the other said is in my eyes very low.
What do you guys/gals think?