JUST HOW DOES PROXIMITY OR THE LACK OF IT AFFECTS DATING? ( Archived) (68)

well i have driven more than an hour to have coffe or soda and conversation in the past

but hey maybe others would not

if you think someone owes you cause you sit down and drink with them then you have something wrong with ya (regarurdless of gender)

all i ask is ya have a working toilet.beer goes right through me,lol

That is the one thing that Kills me about these dating sites.....I have met lots of wonderful women...yet they are usually no closer to me than someone of another continent...Yet I still search in hopes of finding that one woman where everything'll be okay and some how some way distance will be conquered and destiny will prevail...
Jerome

Welcome to reality? LOL Schmorbraten. I got a visit from Mary Jane too... how interesting, lol. Yup travel costs alot nowadays. Intense Connection is necessary and if it is important to both where someone is willing to sacrifice then hey that is great. I think most people after a while are going to have a hard time because they are longing to be with the other person more and if one isn't willing to give up something than hopefully they can remain friends but being together means, "being together". I dunno?

The last four women that I've dated from the Internet were all from 300 to 400 miles from me.

I traverse the entire distance to be with them in every single case. We did not just meet for coffee! The greeted me at their front doors and I stayed with them for an extended period of time in every case. And yes, we did sleep in each other's arms on the very first night in every case too. Make of that what you will, but I just don't drive that far to meet with immature women.

I'd like to add that every experience was wonderful, and the women were GREAT! They also felt the same way about me.

So why did we end up not staying together. Because there's a huge difference between things going GREAT and falling in LOVE. That's basically it pure and simple.

Also, to continue the relationship long term would require one of us to relocate. Relocating is not as easy as it might sound. For love I would consider relocating in a split second, and so would they. But for just a great friendship that doesn't have that deep romantic spark? I don't think too many people are going to uproot themselves for that. It's nice, but not worth turning your life upside down for.

I mean, to relocate we're talking selling houses, and property, changing your entire friends base, changing jobs, etc. It's just one hell of a lot to consider! There better darn well be some fireworks in the passion if you're going to go that far.

"That's a delightful, fantastical theory, but not always the reality of things."

I bet to differ, pal. Yes because even unrealities are realilities in themselves. In other words, It is real that something is unreal. True love functions more than the power of any magic. the two can make it work except it is not complete.

Well yes but eventually you are going to want it to be complete aren't you? I can appreciate the bond that can be built and it is always a good idea to take your time and think instead of giving up what is secure at the drop of a hat and to make sure your going into a secure situation. I agree totally with Abra that it has to have a "romantic Spark" and sometimes you can have that over the internet and then meet and it is not the same. True love can be with a friend too. People we are glad we know and consider them friends is also very special but not the same.

My big brother Abra. sounded funny at first. But he has made very great points there. This distance thing can really be a check on relations. We got to be extra careful.
But I think I can afford to risk if am 121% sure.

Absolutely.... no doubt

Lene, i don´t know were u always get the nails from, to hit them with the hammer right on the spot.LOL

Which makes you my favourite tooling expert, Lene Taylor, no I´m kidding.

I would go to Fireland if nessesary. Does that make any sense?

It´s a shame that we probably never meet, Lene, I would like to talk to you, my favourite tooling expert.

Lutz