How do u deal with loseing someone u love ( Archived) (12)

I just lost my g/f of 4 years im very hurt and i dont know what to do

Well...what do you mean by lost....Did she pass away? Or did ya'll just break up?

Either way, if it JUST happend....dont jump into the single pool so fast, you will not only hurt someone else, but possibly yourself!

JMHO

hey Gimme,

First off

id like to say I am truly sorry to hear about ur lose..

it doesnt matter if u were dating her for a week .. or 7 yrs.. its never easy loosing someone you care about.

Now.. I dont think there is any way you can truly "deal" with the lose of someone close to you like this.

All you can do is remember the good times you shared with the person and never think of the bad times..

A lot of people let negative things over power their lives.. even if 20 good things happen to them ..and only ONE bad thing.. I can tell u now.. that bad thing will be the one thing they cant shut up about..

now Im not telling u to shut up ..lol.. Im just saying in general...

I dont know how you lost her.. if it was because of sickness., car crash .. or violence.. but whatever it was.. You can use that and help out in ur community with those suffering from the same things..

Making sure you stick with their family as well as urs.. support each other.. and use each other for love.. is the only way you will make it through this.

You may feel like being alone, but dont push those who love u away from you at this time of need.. Cause deep down inside .. You truly need them there...


I wish you luck in the future.. And Again Im sory to hear of ur lose..

may god help her to his kingdom ..

She'll be ur guardian Angel from now on, and Im sure you'll always be with you..

Kiley

I know just how you feel. My boyfriend of 8 years just broke up with me a couple of days ago. Over something that was not my fault. I am still upset about it. But I say if they really loved you they wouldn't make you upset by dumping you for no reason.

Well I'll tell ya one thing, the beer ain't gonna help.

All that will do is keep you from feeling what you need to feel in order to heal. The best way to get over any hurt is to let yourself feel it. JMO, and my experience. Good luck.

first of all hang in there, there's plenty of fish in the sea, right? i went through the same thing and the only real thing that will heal you is time. You'll get over it, just don't sit around regretting the times that you did have with her, consider it a learning experience, not a mistake. But i wouldnt be in a rush to get serious right away either. go out and have fun, you're young, and i bet you she's out having fun. if u were with her for 4 years, then youve been tied down for a long time, now u can enjoy urself. And by deciding what you don't want, you actaully get closer to what you do want. Good luck, hang in there.

First time -- complete devastation

Second time -- tears and recriminations

Third time -- sad, but tearless farewell

Fourth time -- threw his stuff out the door, opened a bottle of wine, put my feet up, and saluted the possibilities.

Sounds like a plan Wordsmith!