Have you ever met someone who has dealt with most of their baggage ,and they still seem to carry in almost a sentimental way around?
We all have done it....
I think the way we know who is the right person is who they and you are willing to let go of past loves just to be together forever...I know I am such a romantic...
I know that when I meet the right one for me, whatever's gone on in our past is pretty much inconsequential...it's your future that you'll both be looking forward to.
That hasn't really happened to me so far. And I personally have no emotional baggage whatsoever either. I actually prefer not to think or talk about past experiences. If they would have been great, they wouldn't have fallen apart. I deal with other things in my life the same way. I never look back but live 100 % in the now and future.
I am, shall we say, a pragmatic dreamer. I know she is out there for me. And it is up to both of us to make it happen and make it work, once we connect.
alabamabebeBanks of the Warrior River, Alabama USA4,404 posts
Everything that happened in my past made me the person I am today, so I'm grateful even for the bad times. Pretending the past didn't happen isn't dealing with it, it's being in denial.
The only way to deal with past baggage is to unpack it, look at it, and decide what you want to keep and what you don't need anymore.
"Those who cannot learn from the past are doomed to repeat it." (Who said that anyway?)
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We all have done it....
I think the way we know who is the right person is who they and you are willing to let go of past loves just to be together forever...I know I am such a romantic...