Just looking for the right guy! Leah from Auburn, Alabama (15)

Being an only child certainly makes for a more serious child. I always thought that was so unfair to have a child and then no siblings...makes for a lonely life sometimes.

2 years is a long time to spend with someone and then have it trashed, a relationship takes alot of energy. I wont intrude by asking what the heck happened but I do wonder.

Anyway, @ 18, you SHOULD date around and get a feel for the guy you REALLY wanna marry. I know you may think you know what you want and I believe you do but its good not to tie yourself down so early. Your young, your beautiful, you got the rest of your life to be married to some butthole.

Yeah... my maturity level is about around a 21 year old or so. I mainly hang around people that are in college like ages 20-25. Yes, being an only child did get lonely but I do like somethings about it...

yes, 2 years was a long time. I don't mind telling you about it. I was the one putting all the work in the relationship and he didn't do much of anything. He couldn't keep a job so I helped support him when he didn't have any money. He had about 6 jobs in a year... thats the truth! He couldn't get along with anyone. He wouldn't let me see my friends even if it was all girls. The one time I went to hang out with my friends within 10 mins of being with them he called about 4 times. He also cheated on me and I gave him another chance but things w/ him only got worse! I had to break up w/ him! I did everything to try to keep it togeather and it didn't help because he didn't help make it work.

I just really want someone I can be happy w/! I agree w/ you though! I shouldn't tie myself down too early. I do need to enjoy the single life... and just have fun while I'm young. I'm guessing you got married and ended up getting a divorce. You seemed like u knew alot about the whole marriage stuff.

Being 34, while not old, is old enough to have garnered at least some experience. I'm not Dr. Phill by no means, your ex sounds like the typical 20 something butthole and yes, I was one to, though, I think I was more the 20 something dummy. I think its typical of the female to work harder at relationships simply because they seem to be hardwired for it but that doesnt give the guy the right to be clueless, i think you made the right move. hearing about how he was trying to smother you is a big red flag!

I understand you being more mature at a early age, however, you should take your time, date go out and enjoy your youth. Trust me I was very mature at 15 and was engaged at 16 and married at 17. I had a son at age 19 and stayed married for 18 years mainly for my son, trust me it wasn't easy, I didn't experience any other relationship until I divorced. I am more of a kid now than I was then and I'm enjoying my life day by day, looking for the perfect/prince soulmate of your life shouldn't be your main priority. Enjoy your life and it will just happen and if not you can say to yourself, wow look at all the great friends I've developed over the years.

Life is so short just enjoy it here...

Excellent Calee! Words of wisdom.