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BlueBerryBrandy7Warren, Ohio USA13 Threads 41 PostsI'm new here & wanted to say hello. Hope all are doing well. Hopefully i might find some new friends. I do have a question for anyone who can answer. Why do men judge a women by her looks? Do men ever look for a womens beauty from within? Just was wondering. I've been let down to much lately by this.
Hi,blueberry,nice to meet you
This Oh. forum doesn't get many replies,sad cause when it started I thought gret 4 our area.You should try same thread on internatioal.They are always going on about whatever.Some great people on here,male and female who care and try to help out others on site.Then there are some that get raunchy in my opinion in forums and a few not right in head can be cruel or rude,but 4 most part,great folks.If you read some of my threads or even more replies,you'd see what I say about outer beauty.I could go on and on.Don't know anything about you but will say..most people here or at home get hurt,some for same reason you brought up.There's men and women on here that feel physical attraction is what they want,BUT,many I met or see in forums that feel like I do.If you don't yet,learn to love you,grow in confidence about yourself,men are attracted to that and be happy as you are,smile be freindly.Then whether you find a man or not,you;ll be happy with you.Look at your positive points .Change any negatives you can.As 4 your ?,I'll be glad to give you some answers but not now,no time or room.
I've made freinds from here,a few we talk or meet in real qworld.Some I feel I know from forums.
If you and I get along,you got a freind on here if you want.
now but my younger life is a soap opera
Give it time,send men flowers.
heal and look at past experiences as tools to learn from.
One woman/man's chicken is another woman/man's steak ... think Budda said that. haha
Parker great answer to her ?.She's serious.Although if I saw it in other place my response
Have some Scotch whiskey and try again
I have to admit that I was being lite hearted in my prior statement but I do believe it answers her question. Brandy is asking a very tough question which people have been asking for such a long time. Can someone get past "looks" for inner beauty?
Heck ... Disney has a number of stories relating around a character being ugly then turning beautiful. The ugly duckling turning into a princess or the princess kissing a toad that becomes a prince.
All I can suggest for Brandy is to keep rolling the dice. It would be too bleak of a life to say to yourself ... I can't date because I believe I'm too ugly. I don't think I could get out of bed with that attitude. So roll the dice Brandy ... probably there are guys out there who dig inner beauty and other traits. Myself ... I like curves and someone who can make fried chicken well.
Heck ... Disney has a number of stories relating around a character being ugly then turning beautiful. The ugly duckling turning into a princess or the princess kissing a toad that becomes a prince.
All I can suggest for Brandy is to keep rolling the dice. It would be too bleak of a life to say to yourself ... I can't date because I believe I'm too ugly. I don't think I could get out of bed with that attitude. So roll the dice Brandy ... probably there are guys out there who dig inner beauty and other traits. Myself ... I like curves and someone who can make fried chicken well.
Thank you all for your replys. But i'm about ready to throw in the towel & call it quits. At my age why keep trying just to be shot down again? I know i shouldnt feel that way.......but.
BlueBerry
BlueBerry
If you really felt that way,you wouldn't be on here.You just started on here,patience dear.Don't feel sorry for yourself,make changes.You never fail,unless it's your last try.Get out,join a gruop,be around people.Many women are not beauties physically,but they are popular or married or get dates,have confidence.Much to young to just quit.Maybe take a breather for a few days,stay busy,enjoy yourself.Your life,but hope I see you on here again.GOD bless you whatever you do
Hello. I'm Gennette. I don't judge people on looks or size. One of the best guys I dated weighted 350 lbs and not very good looking. We ended up being great friends, but he wanted to move to another state, I didn't. However, we are still friends.
Good Morning, hows everyone? I'm not feeling sorry for myself. There have been times where i never mentioned on a dating site that i was a big gal, i got replys to the ad, everything went well, waited to spring the fact i was a big gal, when i did, i got no more emails. Most guys are up front they want smaller women, most arent. i met a guy on a dating site 3 yrs. ago & he was up front that he wasnt into big gals. But ya know i wasnt the least bit offended. Why? Cuz he was honest enough to tell me at the start. We're still emailing each other, as a matter of fact he's my bestest friend. I have a question, do you think it would be right for a gal to judge a guy by his endowment? If he wasnt a certain size she wouldnt date him. And married men on a dating site, what the heck they doing on dating sites? Are they just plain stupid? They want their cake & eat it too? Please men lets not get your boxers in a bundle, women do it too. My friend has been with her guy 11 yrs. & yes cheats on him. Why no clue. I've asked her, no answer. Could it be she's inscure about something? I guess it takes all kind to make the world go round as my mom use to say. Growing up in the 60's & 70's was nothing like it is today. BlueBerry :)
Blueberry and gennette hello havn't seen you before. nice to meet you.Blueberry I grew up in 60's-52yrs. young.I don't see things as easier then.To me looks like people now,the younger crowd are more accepting of others different from themsellves more.
If weight is the problem for you,can you lose any?Do you want too?Is it a gland thing?I have a close freind who has always been obese,can't do alot,but at times gets down a size or 2.She has had 5 or 6 boyfreinds from about 18-40.She knows that this world can be cruel,oh the stories.
Be the best,healthiest person you can be.GOD don't make junk.There are men out there,all sizes who like bigger women.Be upfront and I hope you meet someone,like gennettes story.
As a Christian,I can't speak for recently,but yrs. back till a few yrs. ago I had a few romances,no not size of man.How and where he touches,other things happening before hand,I didn't find a Big or average any better than 1 small I had,we were happy and satisfied each other.1 larger man I mean larger
afterwards,I was disapointed.So,my opinion.Hope to see you in other forum this 1 is dead when I check.
Wish people would use this 1 more.Try to be positive and like you!!!That comes first.
YOUR 52? YOU LOOK 25.
BLUEBERRY
BLUEBERRY
25!?In my mind at times seems I am,then I look in mirror,
reality hits
Are you trying to get something from me?buttering me up?
for you,no anchovies just for the compliment.Now put on your glasses and look againNo not trying to butter you up. lol. But you do only look 25. My dads really sick & in the hospital & with everything going on, that made me laugh (buttering up). Enjoy the compliment, its not everyday you get told you look 25. Blueberry
buttering me up was a joke or I wouldn't have sent you pizza and hey I made sure no anchovies,no thanks?Well next I'll send pickled herring girl 
Seriously,glad you got a laugh,hope Dad is better.I'll keep him in my devotioanl time each day where I pray for alot of people for at least a week.Stay positive now for yor dad,he needs to know his family is okay.
There are heavier people who put pics on sites.If that's why your avoiding putting 1 on.That way we feel we know you in forums,also you won't have to play game,put extra pounds in your basics and photo,if you get a mans attention or if he answers your message,it's out in the open from start.You said your best freind came that way
.Hope you stick around get in forums,post replies and start a thread or more on subject.Good way to get noticed and make freinds.Cyberspace or outside your home,we all have something inside or out that's not perfect.Some are in wheelchairs or blind,or too thin,orare not pretty to look at.So be you and if your freindly,hepful,supportive,laugh at yourself when you do something embbarrising(like the way I just spelled that word
,you'll find people are attracted to you,romance or freindship.If you like let me know how Dad is doing.
Good Morning Nomind, quik update on my dad. He was moved from ICU to another floor & he's still in serious condition. He'll get better, i know my dad he's a fighter. At 84 he's a fiesty old geezer. When he's able to be moved, he's being transfered by ambulance to the veterans hospital in Cleveland. When he's released from there he will be living with my sister. Thank you for thinking of him in your prayers. I keep telling my brothers & sister that he's not ready to go yet, he is going to out live his kids & theres 7 of us. I'll let you know if theres any changes. k? Again thank you.
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