Do people judge today by appearance??? (18)

Aug 6, 2007 11:45 AM CST Do people judge today by appearance???
Dawn50
Dawn50Dawn50Ottawa Valley, Ontario Canada182 Threads 1,338 Posts
My experience, very recent my answer to that is a big "YES"very mad

My youngest has a few tattoos, piercing etc...

On a emergency situation at a hospital, she was ignored, humiliated it did not take a genius to figure out why she was treated that way...Pj's on - no make up etc...

I have learn a long time ago "Never Judge a book by its cover"

They judged her as a teen, looking for a easy fix or a pothead etc...devil

Instead of taking a few minutes to talk to her they would have learn alot in does few minutesfrustrated

Beleive me when I walked out the Administration Office they will not forget my appearance very mad

wine
Aug 6, 2007 11:52 AM CST Do people judge today by appearance???
tazmaninangel
tazmaninangeltazmaninangelEdmonton, Alberta Canada118 Threads 1 Polls 2,608 Posts
It has always been that way Dawn

My daughter was pierced and punked before it was in carried a multi colored mohawk.... --- many people do not look for the person inside..
Aug 6, 2007 11:54 AM CST Do people judge today by appearance???
sexygurlswings
sexygurlswingssexygurlswingsWinnipeg, Manitoba Canada49 Threads 2,560 Posts
Sad but true..people have all sorts of preconceived notions about externals...very very sad!crying
Aug 6, 2007 12:04 PM CST Do people judge today by appearance???
Dawn50
Dawn50Dawn50Ottawa Valley, Ontario Canada182 Threads 1,338 Posts
I know it has been that way for so long, because of having so many of her friends on sleep overs when she was in high school, I was very fortunate they included me in their gatherings, talks etc....

I have met so many wonderful kids, because I learn to meet the person inside grin
Aug 6, 2007 12:54 PM CST Do people judge today by appearance???
Bellagirl
BellagirlBellagirlBelleville, Ontario Canada4 Threads 61 Posts
I agree.... my 14 year old is an 'emo' kid and he has people yell nasty things at him from cars, etc. I was walking toward him at the mall one day and there were two girls behind him laughing at him. If I didn't think it would have humiliated my son, I would've torn a strip off of them... instead, I gave them the dirtiest look I could muster without him seeing me. When I go out with him, I hold my head up high, and laugh with him... he's the funniest most intelligent kid I know! He also has friends who dress alternatively and they are all respectful, friendly, and I've had some good, intelligent conversations with them. I think the world is a very judgemental place --- we just have to make sure our kids know we love them no matter what, and encourage their talents and creativity!
Aug 6, 2007 1:01 PM CST Do people judge today by appearance???
Dawn50
Dawn50Dawn50Ottawa Valley, Ontario Canada182 Threads 1,338 Posts
Bellagirl hug peace

A toast to U wine
Aug 6, 2007 1:58 PM CST Do people judge today by appearance???
curlywolf
curlywolfcurlywolfmontreal, Quebec Canada402 Threads 7,052 Posts
I'm glad that my mother and grandmother taught me to see beyond the outside,it's what inside that matters,that defines who u are,they way you look bears no witness to the content of your heart and soul.
I'm proud to have passed that way of thinking on to my daughter and hope she passes it on when the time comes too.angel
Aug 6, 2007 7:03 PM CST Do people judge today by appearance???
SuperDougie
SuperDougieSuperDougieEdmonton, Alberta Canada20 Threads 202 Posts
I would say that people judge you by your appearance! I know I get looked at differently because of the tattoos I have. Judging is something that we all do whether we admit it or not! It's how our society is. I have the attitude that if someone wants to judge me, that's fine, let them! I know who I am and what I am so to hell with what anyone else thinks! If I lived my life worrying about what others thought of me, then I'd be missing out on alot! I for one dont' have time nor the energy to try and make everyone else happy. The way I see it is I'm the most important person in my life, so I need to focus on myself before anyone else. If I don't think like that, then how can I be happy and how can I expect to make anyone else happy? You gotta be happy with yourself before you can focus on making someone else happy! Just my 8cents! LOL!head banger devil grin
Aug 7, 2007 5:47 PM CST Do people judge today by appearance???
Bellagirl
BellagirlBellagirlBelleville, Ontario Canada4 Threads 61 Posts
hear hear applause applause
Dooogie.... !!! yay peace head banger
Aug 7, 2007 6:26 PM CST Do people judge today by appearance???
Katine76
Katine76Katine76Moncton, Canada145 Threads 4,516 Posts
Yes Unfortunatly there are scum bags all over the world who will judge someone by their appearances. I have no tolerance nor respect for people like that and believe me I let them know it too! very mad

I am sorry your daughter was mistreated in a hospital of all places. Pothead or not places like that are not there to judge but to try to help those who need the help. I can understand that there are some who take advantage of the health care BUT it still does not give them the right to judge anyone on their appearance. That is very UN-professional if you ask me.

I hope some sort of action will be taken at the hospital for what happened.

hug
Aug 8, 2007 2:35 PM CST Do people judge today by appearance???
Dawn50
Dawn50Dawn50Ottawa Valley, Ontario Canada182 Threads 1,338 Posts
Agree & toast to that wine

But when the professional field think they have right to bring in their prejudice etc...

That is where I do give a dam wine
Aug 8, 2007 7:19 PM CST Do people judge today by appearance???
ibelongtome
ibelongtomeibelongtomeWinnipeg, Manitoba Canada1 Threads 186 Posts
Everyone is allowed to voice their opinion. I on the other hand disagree. I try and get to know someone before i decide whether i want to be friends with them or not. What's inside really is more important than the outside. I have met some wonderful people who to look at, are very strange. IMO
Aug 8, 2007 7:21 PM CST Do people judge today by appearance???
SuperDougie
SuperDougieSuperDougieEdmonton, Alberta Canada20 Threads 202 Posts
Well, I know when I see someone with a face full of piercings I automatically assume that they're not very mature! I don't have a problem with anyone who is into the whole piercing thing but, I do know that my "Piercing phase" went out when I was about 17.
Aug 8, 2007 8:13 PM CST Do people judge today by appearance???
Invierno
InviernoInviernoEdmonton, Alberta Canada11 Threads 1 Polls 248 Posts
As you get older you start to realize that your appearance to yourself and other people around you is very important. Sometimes when you make an appearance and its taken wrong it makes people feel bad about themselvea even if we don't know it. That is why you always try to get to know people before you judge them.
Piercing, Tattooing, fat, bold, skinny, short, too tall, ces’t la vie!! Just be yourself - if people don’t like you ..it is their problem.. but make no mistake about it...You will not be liked by everyone.. and I know that for a fact.. 'You know, I'm not everybody's cup of tea!' Although, I really am a nice person and those who know me best could not imagine me as anything but so. I sympathized about how your daughter was treated – just because you are different (in my case, from a different country) you are treated differently. Don’t worry .. things get better or else you get stronger!! - Hope she is feeling better now.. hug
Aug 8, 2007 9:12 PM CST Do people judge today by appearance???
CaptainMurray
CaptainMurrayCaptainMurraySelkirk, Manitoba Canada59 Threads 2,130 Posts
And like I tell myself, if you don't want people to think you're stupid, shut the hell up!!

That was for me Doug, not you.cheers
Aug 8, 2007 9:18 PM CST Do people judge today by appearance???
Wewantours
WewantoursWewantoursAthabasca, Alberta Canada16 Threads 891 Posts
You should give it a try Murry


I walk right up to them and start chatting like I've known them for years. Some seem to apperiate it, other well you know.


I've had tattoos and pireceings since I was 11. I get judged everyday of my life. But like Dougie said, who cares. I know who I am or what IR.


Kinda like the song Signs. No long haired freaky people need apply. Well I'll tell you, I've tucked my hair up under many of hats and went in to ask why.
Aug 9, 2007 8:20 AM CST Do people judge today by appearance???
CaptainMurray
CaptainMurrayCaptainMurraySelkirk, Manitoba Canada59 Threads 2,130 Posts
You should mind your own f ing business
Aug 9, 2007 9:18 AM CST Do people judge today by appearance???
Dawn50
Dawn50Dawn50Ottawa Valley, Ontario Canada182 Threads 1,338 Posts
THe description that u describe which I have seen alot, and "yes" I would not walk up to them and a big howdy do etc....

Because this appearance sends out mix signals to me.

And Yes, I would stare/look, but isn't it because we do not understand and we observe?

dunno
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