I just need advise (4)

Ok i met a guy off of here and we started dating. It was the best relationship. I found out i was pregnant, i was so excited because he was never married and has no kids. ( I have a 7 year old from another relationship ) So i told him and he was excited. BUT, 10 days after i told him he dumped me. It has been a week but im still so hurt. I dont belive in abortions because i was adult enough to get into this mess. Im just so lost i dont know what to do. He said that he wants to be apart of this baby's life but he hurt me so much i want to hurt him as much. I know thats not how to handle it and im not a vendictive person. Im just so lost and looking for advise.

My only advice is to do what is in the best of interest of the baby. Being a parent doesn't mean doing what you want. In fact, being a parent often means you will do things you really don't want to do. I have a four year old and I don't want her to go to school. The prospect of putting my darling into public school with all the craziness in the world is a HUGE fear. Besides that, Im that parent who calls the babysitter a few times a day just to check on how things are doing. Im getting better, limiting myself to one call per day now but when she goes to school I won't be able to make ANY calls. Then there are the teachers...I don't get to prescreen the teachers like I did our babysitter. But back to the subject at hand, sorry.... I took my daughter and walked away from her father when she was six months old. It was one of the hardest but best decisions I have ever made. Now, over three years later, he and I have some sort of passable relationship in which we can talk civilly to one another. Also, my daughter has only known us living in seperate houses. Not like daddy just 'went away' one day. I think that helps to keep the abandonment issues that a lot of children that go thru with divorce go thru. I say, as much as it hurts, it could potentially hurt the baby more not to be given the chance to know its father, especially in a case where the dad WANTS to step up to the plate.

Good luck.

Rosa

i think it's important for the father to be in the kids life . i understand he hurt you but dont hurt the baby by denying him or her him or hers father . believe me i understand being hurt i realy do and i realy feel for you . but if he wants to step up to the plate and be a dad then let him .

good luck
dan