Why do people always change after you start dating them!!!! (11)

Is it so hard to find someone who doesn't change after you start dating them i mean come on now I think im going to give up and stop looking *Gina*

I know what you mean and I know how hard it is to try and find some one I my self have had verry hard time finding any one but I will never give up if getting hurt did nothing for me it showed me to never give up no matter how bad things get they could be lot worse so if I can tell you just one thing and that is no matter how hard life is you can never give up.
I hope that you take me on my word and don't give up things will look up just try and face each day with a smile and know your not alone in this world there are so many good men & women who are looking it is just their paths have not crossed.
I hope I helped some just some words form some one who has seen lot.

AL

Thanks hun its not so much as meeting someone its meeting someone who doesn't change at the drop of a hat I met a guy who I thaught things were going great we both had kids the kids got along we got along so we decided to take things a little further and after we did that all hell broke loose he started yelling and screaming at me telling all of his friends about our arguements but when I wanted to talk about it and try to fix it he didn't wanna hear it I mean its ok to have ur friends help you through hard times but if as a couple you cant talk things out there is no point in being 2 gether

I agree 100% with you I know it is hard some times a woman I was dating had a drinking problem that did not know she had till after we got close & I don't drink to make long story short she was nothing like the woman I meet so I do know what you mean good luck and I hope things work out for you if you just need some one to talk to you can reach me threw my mail on here.

AL

It takes two to change the same as it takes two to experience life together. You must remember to ask yourself if that person has really changed, or have you only now begun to notice those things that were previously blinded by the "infatuation of the moment".

Never easy to realize, always hard to accept.........

What about 2 people being honest up front? Communication, honesty, respect, sincerity and friendship prevent "changing"when you date them.

thanks hun that really means alot if you ever need to talk just email me everyone needs a friend sometimes *Gina*

First off, men have to be honest and many are not. Too many deceivers. So...change when you date them? No - The real person comes out. They were always jerks - Just didn't show it initially.

See the guy he was when we first met was not guy I dated when when we first started talking he would laugh and smile and play with my son and his kids and would talk to me after we started dating he hardly played with his kids never wanted to do ne thing but talk on his phone/computer was always yelling at both kids he came home one day from the store one day yelling at me for no reason I mean I helped him with his kids helped him make dinner was there for him 100% and then bam he was diffrent I far from changed I was the same person I was before but I was doing everything I mean dont get be wrong I dont mind helping out but there has to be a happy middle plus when we would argue he would always tell all his friends and yes I said ALL I mean its ok to tell a friend something but he told a girl who he worked with that he hardly knew our stuff and we could not talk it out