Who would like a heated discussion. (48)

Avoiding all the other comments.

Because somewhere inside they do.

The time frame is very important though. Too soon after seperation and they are stil comparing you to her. Too long after seperation and they have learnt the freedoms of singledom and how to pull a woman for a one night stand / two week crush.

It is easy and readily done.

What is the timeline?.

Oh if it was that easy. It varies by the person their personality and life experiences.

Yes we welcome kids. But those kids depend on how they have been raised and how they adapt, and how that interact with us. It is not a two way street in most cases.
So you have to meet him first. You have to decide how you feel about him first. Then you very very slowly introduce your children.

The Past is there to teach us. We need to keep looking back to ensure we don't make the same mistakes. Closing your eyes to the past leaves you reliving the same mistakes over and over again.
Seen it happen to many times to too many people. On a bigger scale where would the world be if we just closed our minds to last century. Where would the Aborigine, Maori, and American Indian be if we just forgot about how unjustly we treated them.
(These included for the sake of this argument only)
So the Past is not the past. It is a teaching tool. And how the teaching tool is applied is down to the individual.

But to end: If a guy runs after kids are introduced, There will be a reason and it won't always be the guys fault. The problem could be as much on her side of the fence. His running just avoids the confrontation.

Thanks Relaxin.
Maybe in the near future I will come back to a more hands on role in the forums.
Unfortunately not at the moment. It just doesn't appeal. But place a serious topical thread and I'll give you an opinion. (usually)