For the Ladies in the house. ( Archived) (29)

men are more than welcome to jump in on this thread if you like. I wanted to ask the ladies a question. Say your dating someone you found on the net. ya know everything is going fine and say he gives you a password to his computer. So he gives you this password and haha is dumb enough to tell you that this is the password I use for EVERYTHING!!!! Ladies would you A. log into his messenger accounts? Meaning yahoo, AIM, MSN, ect or B. would you over look it and just go on about your buisness. Reason why I ask this. I met this guy and he was having some serious computer probs well I told him when we meet up I would work on his computer and fix it for him. Well he gave me his password and well curiousity got the better of me and I logged into his accounts checking stuff out and low and behold I found a very recent e-mail from one of his friends congratulating him on getting back with his ex girlfriend.... Now seriously? am I wrong for getting mad at this? and I didn't yell at him or cuss him out just asked him what was up with this and why he couldn't tell me about it? ladies needing your opinions on this and wanting to know if I was in the wrong for snooping? I mean heck he constantly talked about his ex gf how they was still friends and stuff? I mean whats up with that.

--Mari

WHOA!! This is a toughy for me sweet...first of all he gave you that info and trusted you with it, does not give you the right to snoop into his accounts. I have hundreds of passwords for other peoples things online, I even have credit card numbers and stuff like that, not ONCE, not EVER, have I breeched that trust. I think you finding out about him is a good thing, don't get me wrong, but to find out as you did just tears me up.

yeah dreamer I understand that but wow ya know when you have been hurt so many times. I just wanted to be absolutely sure ya know so I would be at ease and then I found that.

Did it, done it, do it. I'da done the same thing. Friends, family, etc...that's a different story.

But if it's my significant other...hell yes.

all of the above!!!


just kidding,

dreamer , i think ya nailed it!
and windy ya got a damn good point....

things sometimes happen for a reason,
i don't believe in accidents or coincedence
so he got what was comin right? he cheated so you cheated ... doesn't make it right just even

You followed you gut & you caught a rat.
that has to be right!
welcome back

if he trusted you with that info and is stupid enough to leave that info for you to get then i say confront him with it

AND...now this is hindsight...but you may not have felt the need to do it had he not given you reason to wonder.

If you think your husband is cheating, do you not check his wallet and cell phone bills?

If you think your teenager is smoking crack, do you not ramsack their room?

Extreme, but same concept. No one but YOU is gonna protect YOU!

Thanks yall. You all are the greatest!