internet dating,doesnt work,noone is accountable for there actions... (6)

when you can hit the delete button ,just because you dont like the look of someone,is it rude without knowing the person,are you lowering a persons self esteem and being cruel without even realising it,of course you are ,you cant be held accountable for your online actions

I HEAR U!
Unfortunately, our 'animal instincts' and psychological make-up dictates which person is attractive to each person.
Isn't that simply human nature. There has to be a kind of 'elimination process" in choosing our mate.
It's similar to why we like certain foods, dislike other food.
Why we dress in certain colors.
Why we prefer one car model instead of another.

The only thing a person can do when they put themselves 'out there' is to realize that
the majority of potential mates will not pick u.
And u do not need the masses to want to be with u, u're looking for only ONE person.

U cannot make someone u would like to be with want to be with u.

When u're driving on the street, how many cars do u see that u wish u could be driving INSTEAD of the car that u ARE driving?
U see something u can't have!

I think it's healthier for u to know from the beginning that this person will NOT be your forever mate.
Instead of them being nice to u at the beginning, play with your emotions and then hurt u deeply at the end.

The man/men that I say 'Wow', are not contacting me and saying 'Wow' about me.
So What?

There will be a deserving woman who will be your partner. U may
not find her on this site, but she's somewhere.

U just have to find her!

I remind myself of the above when I open my mail!

We won't bother to talk about race/ethnicity discrimination.

I hope something I've said will 'ease' the pain and the bitterness that u are feeling now.

Do not give those who rejected u the power to hurt u further!

warm thoughts and a hug for u.
Good Luck!

what a wonderful iece of advice,as im new to this ,i was feeling hurt by it all and feeling low about myself.
its like you read my mind or something ,very good therapy i appreciate it and the way you put it all into contrast.thankyou very much.
and i appreciate the hug ,i need a few of those these days,im not at all secure with the way my life is proceeding these days,but with letters like yours it just might be ok for a little while longer.

Good Stuff!
Can u handle another HUG?
:)

Why weigh yourself down with pictures or messages from people you are not interested in. If they take having their messages not answered or deleted.... how do they take rejection in person?

This is a site for supposedly grown adults. Some will have self esteem issues, but they need to be realistic. Not everyone is going to love them or be interested.

Sometimes what people you meet will be genuine and some use this place to hide behind a persona be it a nicer one, or a shy person trying to be more out going.

Be yourself first of all. If some one is not interested in you, it's a sign you are not meant to be with them and you are saving yourself some heart ache latter on.

If you are shy, sometimes on line is a good way to meet people.

Take care and best of luck to everyone.