guiriman: i agree with Sommer here...also i think in such an emotional situation you have to try to decide if your actions are for your children's sake or for your own ego.. i know how easily it is to get hurt in this situation and consequently to become confused ... but as long as you genuinely act out of love for your children things should work out... sounds trite maybe ... but i think the last thing any parent will want is to put their children into the middle of an emotional battle field.. whatever has gone on between the parents, the children are the innocent party and don't deserve to suffer the emotional fall out..
No they do not, children suffer enough when parents split up.
Then getting involved with new partners and stamping our flags on our children as our property does not either.
They ae not our property, they are our children, and should have loving relationships with both parents. All too often parents use their children to emotionally assault the other, in any split and I refused to do that, it was painful for me, so how could I make it painful for them?
If I was struggling to cope as an adult, how the hell were they going to? Even though kids are smarter than us at times.
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No they do not, children suffer enough when parents split up.
Then getting involved with new partners and stamping our flags on our children as our property does not either.
They ae not our property, they are our children, and should have loving relationships with both parents. All too often parents use their children to emotionally assault the other, in any split and I refused to do that, it was painful for me, so how could I make it painful for them?
If I was struggling to cope as an adult, how the hell were they going to? Even though kids are smarter than us at times.