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Experience is the best teacher, though no doubt some know-it-all will post a reply to try to dispute that... one thing experience taught me is that very few of us really want to meet someone to spend the rest of our life with. Because if we did, we'd have started our own groups long ago.

Sure, if you have enough $$ you can start a group for "serious singles only", but if you do, you'll be offering something to one in a million people. Not exactly the best way to do business! I'm that one in a million who once did want a serious relationship, but when I figured out that I can't compete against the rest of the human race, I said forget it and bought my Realdoll. No woman ever loved me, so I made sure none ever will.

Rico, I was going to highlight certain sentences, but it all flows so well that I couldn't really pick just one or two out.
The gist of it is (to me) that because of how many (ever) relationships you've attempted you feel you have failed. Am I right so far? (Maybe not, but that is how I have read what you wrote). You feel no one loved you in the past, so in retaliation to the world you have insulated yourself and have made no allowances for a female to enter.

Ok. Have fun with Realdoll.

Oh yeah, I forgot to add: please read hjf's thread here about "old, old, old, but worth remembering". Something about taking risks. And having nothing without it. I hope you can read between the lines. If not, re-read the whole thing, word for word once again. Maybe tape it to your bathroom mirror so you can see it each day.

That's all. Thanks for allowing me to clarify what I think you are trying to say.

I got a real doll too
Every time I look at her she says she loves me. What a doll!

On a serious note, keep that thing with the doll in the closet, but for what it's worth, invest the desperation that arises from time to time with it.

Still, do not stop keeping an outlook for what breaths around you. There might just show up a real doll when you least expect it and you will handle it cool since you always have your doll to "fall back on".

I think of it as taking away a woman's opportunity to hurt me. I used to be a nice guy who wanted a serious relationship, but all the single women I knew just wanted to tease. Seems like most of my adult life, I've been paying the piper but never been allowed to dance. Eventually there came a time when I said, "I'm going on that floor to dance, $umb1tch".



I have no problem with the guy I see in the mirror. When you take risks and just keep losing, it's time to stop playing.



Been there, tried it. All I got was disappointment. You ever googled Gordon Griggs? He's the guy who opened the closet door.

Not until now. He seems to take it to the extreme, though