A question for the men!! ....... (47)
ohhhhhhhh, have i hit a nerve!!!....lol!
well no ,i dated a woman 4 years older than me and she had a daughter about 1 at the time she was recentley divorce and we gotalong ok.the only thing i found that affected us was that she kept talking about her ex and that just broke it for me .the answer is no it is not a turn off
Having kids is generally not an issue with most men, as long as you don't introduce him to them too early (definitely not on the first date!!). As for being as old as 29, well that's just sooooo old, you're practically on the shelf!!! 
To turn the question back to you-how would you feel if you met a guy that had kids already? In my experience, this can be more of a barrier!!! 
To turn the question back to you-how would you feel if you met a guy that had kids already? In my experience, this can be more of a barrier!!! ok, well the polyfilla is working a little bit for me......but how long will it last! lol!..
the question to me, well i love kids, i am not sure about having any more myself, cause it is hard work being a single parent, and i wouldn't like to be abandoned again.....but i would welcome any guy into my life who had kids.....i'd only hope that the kids would accept me.....but sure, i'm a lovely lass!....why on earth wouldn't they! lol!.
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the question to me, well i love kids, i am not sure about having any more myself, cause it is hard work being a single parent, and i wouldn't like to be abandoned again.....but i would welcome any guy into my life who had kids.....i'd only hope that the kids would accept me.....but sure, i'm a lovely lass!....why on earth wouldn't they! lol!.
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Strange that you mention the other person's kids accepting you-why do so many women worry about this and it never seems to cross a man's mind if he's meeting hers???? Last couple of girls I dated 'long term' were nervous wrecks meeting my kids for the first time, but when I met theirs, I didn't give a hoot whether they liked me or not (strange thing was, in both cases their kids liked me but mine didn't like them, probably because they tried too hard to be liked!!!). Am sure you're a lovely lass Mummy, sure all the women in Ireland are lovely lasses (I can say that cos my ex is in France!!!!) 
gawd,, my heart is breaking here, old??? try being 46, with your eldest just started secondary school, and 2 in primary, and a single dad, with a daft polish au pair,, jesus wept,,,, i wish i was 29 again,,, in answer to your Q, nope i dont think its a turn off to be 29, separated, with kids, your timing is probobly a lot better than mine,,, ie when your 46 your kids will nearly be independent [ unless you go again
] ssooooo,,,, meanwhile just enjoy life, anyone whos shallow enough to let kids get in the way prob isnt worth knowing anyway,,,, and i know this may be contentious, and im not assuming for one minute you would, but dont ever allow someone to put you in a position where you find yourself apoligising for your kids,,, 
trukkie
] ssooooo,,,, meanwhile just enjoy life, anyone whos shallow enough to let kids get in the way prob isnt worth knowing anyway,,,, and i know this may be contentious, and im not assuming for one minute you would, but dont ever allow someone to put you in a position where you find yourself apoligising for your kids,,, trukkiehey mummy! good question, i'd be thinkin the same that havin 2 kids might put guys off me, so its good that u aksed and i can see from the replies so far it aint as much of a turn off as i thought!
i like kids.........but i couldnt eat a whole one
Salt & vinegar on the Kids Sir????????????
Kids are great keep you young at heart, and plus they are great for holding the walker or pushing you in the wheelchair up that long hill, lol
Kids are great keep you young at heart, and plus they are great for holding the walker or pushing you in the wheelchair up that long hill, lol
first of all, I am dying to know since when did 29 become being old. Wheres the hope for me then.
seriously though, what difference should having kids make? From my experience, it would seem that most single people, whether blokes or women tend to have kids these days. Its a fact of life and one that cant be overlooked.
Anyhow, if someone is truely interested in a person, why would the fact that he/she having kids stop them from having a craic at some old old fashioned happiness?
seriously though, what difference should having kids make? From my experience, it would seem that most single people, whether blokes or women tend to have kids these days. Its a fact of life and one that cant be overlooked.
Anyhow, if someone is truely interested in a person, why would the fact that he/she having kids stop them from having a craic at some old old fashioned happiness?
you're not old you are VERY attractive 
i know your question is for men but i do think kids is a turnoff for some men especially the amount that i have!!!! 
hiya nuala,,hows you babe? yeah i find the same thing..once a man hears i have kids he usually runs in the opposite direction....but thats his loss,,,if a man cant accept my kids he can keep running
not a turn off for me at all, the only thing i would have a problem with is the ex hanging round etc.. and making things maybe a littel awkward in some situations, but they can be easily overcome. so i suppose anyone that cant deal with it isnt worth having in the first place anyway
god im so understanding
god im so understanding
personally i dont think its a turn off at all most people come with some sort of baggage on a similar line what do women think of single dads?
i personally admire single dads,,its a hard job for a woman who are accepted in society as being able to cope on their own... I dated a single dad,ok his kids didnt live with him all the time but he would have given up evrything to have them full time.... Single dads dont get enough credit as far as im concerned
nothing worse unless it's no pints at all
Some men do not want children especially not their own.
I think its fair enough not to want to date a single mother if you don`t want kids.
I think its fair enough not to want to date a single mother if you don`t want kids.
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I am just wondering, Is it a major turn off to date an old woman like myself because I have children? Or does it matter?....
I'm very interested to find out........
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