Are you what you thought you'd be? (43)

What did you think you'd be way back when you were a kid (child), did you think you'd turn out the way you did? Not only professionally, but what about personality and family?

When I was a kid I thought I'd be a child psychiatrist or counsellor...I’m actually not too far off, I work with children as a youth worker but I help with their homework...sometimes just to get them to do their homework I have to be a counsellor..lol. I always thought I’d be happily married...yea kinda lost that, thought I’d live in a big city..I did and hated it. I also thought I’d have children...I do but only 1 lives with me...one is in university in the states and the other lives with me only during the summer and the littlest is at home..not perfect, but still not too bad. I thought I’d be real goal orientated...HA! Not really that way, more relaxed..but I’m happy with that.

How about you? Did you achieve what you expected? If not are you happy about that or disappointed? What stopped you, and do you really care now?

Very interesting thread

When I was young I thought I would be a vet. I am a software developer.

I thought I would have gone to college after leaving school. I am just finishing my degree part-time. One year left.

I thought I would live in the country. I live in town.

I thought I would work near where I live. I commute 50 miles each way.

I didn't think I would coach a sport. I am a soccer coach.

I thought I would have kids by now. I don't have any that I know about.

When I was 18 or so, my mates thought I would be the first married of the gang. I am the only single one and they all look like they will be getting married soon enough

nope not what i want to be , not where i want to be and deffinately not feeling like i want to feel.

wanted to be an architect but family problem came up and had to work instead of go to college, then ended up an apprentice carprnter, been wondering from job to job , not knowing what to do with my life, the only time i was truely happy was when i was travelling around the world on my own , meeting new people experiencing new things. still dont know what im doing with my life!

Ok lets see.


I didnt want to marry.
Had no interest in children at all.
Was going to college and would work in the medical field.



I married at 21
Had 4 children
Left school at 15



Did go back to school in my 30s and qualified in adult guidance.
Now work as administrator for a Property Development company.

So no, none of the things I had thought would happen did but am happy with who I am now and dont regret anything that has happened in my life.

A post like this deserves a reply. Born in 1960, anything seemed possible. I wanted to visit the places I saw in James Bond Films. Now they're open to us all. I wanted to be big, heroic and macho like the Americans. Well I'm afraid they've long since fallen from grace. I had dreams about being the greatest ever engineer, father and husband. Well the Engineering Degree wasn't what I expected and settling down and staying put never seemed an option. I believed I would never walk in the shaddow of another, but I have done so all my life, even though he's dead these last 20 years, without even knowing it.

In trying to escape this though, I've met many wonderful and not so wonderful people and ventured down avenues that maybe sometimes would have been better left unexplored. But it seems I am an explorer of sorts. So I've tried to make the best of the situiations I find myself in.

Girls have come and gone and I wonder where some of them are now, wish them every happiness and thank them for the joy they brought me and apologise for some of the misery I brought them.

It's been a good old life: often scarey, often lonely but never boring. It's been a journey of discovery but an awful long travelled road just to find me at the end of it. Trust me, In my case that's quite an achievement.

And what do you think the child you were, would think of you now?

In a word NO I am not what I thought I would be but I have achieved alot and I am proud of that. I have learned to be happy with what I have rather than feel sad about the things I havent got. I am a believer that life gives you what you need not what you want. Like the Gareth Brooks song " Thank God for unanswered prayers "

Ladylumps said

Post: In a word NO I am not what I thought I would be but I have achieved alot and I am proud of that. I have learned to be happy with what I have rather than feel sad about the things I havent got. I am a believer that life gives you what you need not what you want. Like the Gareth Brooks song " Thank God for unanswered prayers "

And I couldn't agree with her more!