WEDDING GIFT LISTS, AGREE OR DISAGREE WITH THEM? (16)
TheKid52Birmingham, West Midlands, England UK13 Threads 490 PostsHello All, just wondering what your thoughts are on this subject. Personally I do not agree with them. I think that they are the worst idea ever. I fell they have been taken from the States and put extreme pressure on people to find more money than they would wish to spend on a gift. Its mean and nasty. I would never ever use one of theese lists. Also I believe they have lists for Christmas and Birthday gifts. I am happy mostly with what I am given. Come on boys and girls what do you say????
TheKid52: Hello All, just wondering what your thoughts are on this subject. Personally I do not agree with them. I think that they are the worst idea ever. I fell they have been taken from the States and put extreme pressure on people to find more money than they would wish to spend on a gift. Its mean and nasty. I would never ever use one of theese lists. Also I believe they have lists for Christmas and Birthday gifts. I am happy mostly with what I am given. Come on boys and girls what do you say????
I would think they are an alright idea because so many people have their house, kids etc when they get married now.. I myself always go for a bit of newbridge silver be it a cutlery set or a picture frame they always seem to but a smile on peoples faces..
The only thing that would be on my list would be vouchers for shoe shops... (i am a girl of few needs... shoes and ben & jerry wat more could a girl need.. )
candyshop: I would think they are an alright idea because so many people have their house, kids etc when they get married now.. I myself always go for a bit of newbridge silver be it a cutlery set or a picture frame they always seem to but a smile on peoples faces.. The only thing that would be on my list would be vouchers for shoe shops... (i am a girl of few needs... shoes and ben & jerry wat more could a girl need.. )
Thankyou for reply. You are not a material girl and its nice to see. Most do go over the top with the lists. Cheers.
Lists are wrong it should be up to the individual giver and be accepted with good grace....
Im in 2 minds about them. If you dont know the person very well you can buy from the list or it can give you an idea of their tastes and what they like if you dont want to buy from the list. On the other hand I think some people can go over board on them all together - with luggage hair straighteners and personal items like that on it. I know most people already have their houses well equipped when they get married so they dont really need things when they get married so they can be useful if well thought out and not way over the top ones.
If they consist of cheap practical home-building items for a young couple with no money then they have sense and merit
Otherwise it is just greed and acquisitiveness
Otherwise it is just greed and acquisitiveness
Fallingman: If they consist of cheap practical home-building items for a young couple with no money then they have sense and merit
Otherwise it is just greed and acquisitiveness
Otherwise it is just greed and acquisitiveness
Yes I have to agree with you there
Fallingman: If they consist of cheap practical home-building items for a young couple with no money then they have sense and merit
Otherwise it is just greed and acquisitiveness
Otherwise it is just greed and acquisitiveness
well yes and no my mate got married and it cost 35000 euro which is a lot now they had a list but it was not stuff that was over the top so i did not mind
now if i went to posh and becks wedding and i was told to get off the list i would say......I BECKSSSSS NOOOOOOOOOO
Tamarin: Lists are wrong it should be up to the individual giver and be accepted with good grace....
Brilliant reply and thankyou for that. Yes AMEN to what you say. To receive a gift is a person saying this is from me to you. The person went to the trouble of thinking about it likely for days or weeks and then going out to purchase it. It should be received with pleasure and gratitude. I like your style, well said. 
galwaypaul: well yes and no my mate got married and it cost 35000 euro which is a lot now they had a list but it was not stuff that was over the top so i did not mind
now if i went to posh and becks wedding and i was told to get off the list i would say......I BECKSSSSS NOOOOOOOOOO
Appreciate your reply. The list does not do it for me though and that is my opinion. I refuse to buy something that I am told to buy it takes away my free will and choice. Can that be right? I honestly think not. Regardsnow if i went to posh and becks wedding and i was told to get off the list i would say......I BECKSSSSS NOOOOOOOOOO
Fallingman: If they consist of cheap practical home-building items for a young couple with no money then they have sense and merit
Otherwise it is just greed and acquisitiveness
Thankyou for reply. I can appreciate your point and perhaps slightly go along with it. Seriously if I knew the couple and they could not afford items for their home etc., I would make a special effort to buy something that would be extremely useful for them but off the list. Regards.Otherwise it is just greed and acquisitiveness
It really depends on the list, I have seen some that have everythinbg from a basin for the kitchen to a suite of furniture, so there is something to suit everyones pocket and is better than getting 6 toasters and 12 irons lol.
What I dont like is being told that the couple want a gift cheque or cash, puts to much pressure on ppl to my mind.
What I dont like is being told that the couple want a gift cheque or cash, puts to much pressure on ppl to my mind.
ladylumps: Im in 2 minds about them. If you dont know the person very well you can buy from the list or it can give you an idea of their tastes and what they like if you dont want to buy from the list. On the other hand I think some people can go over board on them all together - with luggage hair straighteners and personal items like that on it. I know most people already have their houses well equipped when they get married so they dont really need things when they get married so they can be useful if well thought out and not way over the top ones.
Appreciate your reply. May I say to you that if a couple are well off then they should appreciate a gift from you that will remind them always of you. On the other hand the couple less fortunate should be overjoyed with any gift that will help them along the way in their home. I just feel that we are humans with free will and not sheep to be herded or animals to be led. That is why we have a brain and can make our own minds up as to what we wish to do and what we wish to purchase. Just give you an idea of a gift, something that I would never dream of in a million years. I was given a Budda made of Marble it weighs about 7Kilos its sits on my window ledge and been there a long time now. It was a gift from a Lady who did not know what to buy for me as I had no list. I will remember her always. It sure was not something that I would buy for myself. But again her heart was in the right place and she put time and effor into the gift. I received it with thanks. Regards.
vonney: It really depends on the list, I have seen some that have everythinbg from a basin for the kitchen to a suite of furniture, so there is something to suit everyones pocket and is better than getting 6 toasters and 12 irons lol.
What I dont like is being told that the couple want a gift cheque or cash, puts to much pressure on ppl to my mind.
Halleujah vonney, Champion answer, cheers for reply. I agree 100% I have been told to give cash in the region of £500. I was not impressed at all. I would rather not be invited to any wedding at all, or other party. Life is pressure enough without others adding to it. Me I did not get any toaster or Iron it sure would have been nice, but thats life. I mentioned in another thread I was given a can of beans as a wedding gift now that is sad. Cheers Vonney and thanks.What I dont like is being told that the couple want a gift cheque or cash, puts to much pressure on ppl to my mind.
I don't agree with wedding lists. I have been to several weddings over the last few years.
One of the best received gifts I gave was a linen basket filled with gadgets.
The couple were in the process of buying a house, having rented for a while.
I filled a linen basket with things like potato peeler, frying pan, utensils, tea towels, clothes pegs, washing powder, cutlery, and a few other bits and pieces.
At the very bottom..under all the gadgets and stuff I put a box of roses (the brides favourites) and a tin of shortbread (the grooms favourite).
The couple had a list but I couldn't afford anything on it. I built up my present over a few weeks. They are still talking about it and the couple have since done the same for 3 more couples whos weddings they wer attending.
One of the best received gifts I gave was a linen basket filled with gadgets.
The couple were in the process of buying a house, having rented for a while.
I filled a linen basket with things like potato peeler, frying pan, utensils, tea towels, clothes pegs, washing powder, cutlery, and a few other bits and pieces.
At the very bottom..under all the gadgets and stuff I put a box of roses (the brides favourites) and a tin of shortbread (the grooms favourite).
The couple had a list but I couldn't afford anything on it. I built up my present over a few weeks. They are still talking about it and the couple have since done the same for 3 more couples whos weddings they wer attending.
wexlady41: I don't agree with wedding lists. I have been to several weddings over the last few years.
One of the best received gifts I gave was a linen basket filled with gadgets.
The couple were in the process of buying a house, having rented for a while.
I filled a linen basket with things like potato peeler, frying pan, utensils, tea towels, clothes pegs, washing powder, cutlery, and a few other bits and pieces.
At the very bottom..under all the gadgets and stuff I put a box of roses (the brides favourites) and a tin of shortbread (the grooms favourite).
The couple had a list but I couldn't afford anything on it. I built up my present over a few weeks. They are still talking about it and the couple have since done the same for 3 more couples whos weddings they wer attending.
Fantastic idea and I may even use that myself in the future. You are o ne clever Lady! Well thought out. Regards.One of the best received gifts I gave was a linen basket filled with gadgets.
The couple were in the process of buying a house, having rented for a while.
I filled a linen basket with things like potato peeler, frying pan, utensils, tea towels, clothes pegs, washing powder, cutlery, and a few other bits and pieces.
At the very bottom..under all the gadgets and stuff I put a box of roses (the brides favourites) and a tin of shortbread (the grooms favourite).
The couple had a list but I couldn't afford anything on it. I built up my present over a few weeks. They are still talking about it and the couple have since done the same for 3 more couples whos weddings they wer attending.
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