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Retirement is a milestone in life. Freedom from the work environment allows time to be use for our own pleasure. Singles in retirement can have a hard time connecting with others outside a senior center. So if you are in retirement and still have some living to do, post away. For people who are retired or about to retire....

Relationship Preference (13)

charleyxray
Would you prefer marriage, living in sin, exclusive weekend dating, or occasional dating for your retirement relationship?

I have tried marriage but after the kids left home and the dog died, it didn't work out.

Exclusive weekend dating was OK but my house fell into disrepair and hers looked pretty good.

Occasional dating has been fine but I don't think I can live a happy retirement with only handshakes.

Before I go there, would anyone know why they call it living in sin?
ladyfingers
charleyxray: Would you prefer marriage, living in sin, exclusive weekend dating, or occasional dating for your retirement relationship?

I have tried marriage but after the kids left home and the dog died, it didn't work out.

Exclusive weekend dating was OK but my house fell into disrepair and hers looked pretty good.

Occasional dating has been fine but I don't think I can live a happy retirement with only handshakes.

Before I go there, would anyone know why they call it living in sin?


I thought that I would like to remarry. I don't think now that I would. It would be nice to share time with someone and adventures, but when we tired of each other we could say go home for awhile to them, let me have my privacy, some time to myself. Is that possible?
I'd want to be exclusive, not just on weekends, but whenever we felt like we wanted to be together, but not joined at the hip constantly.
But in this relationship, I would want someone that I could depend on and he would be able to depend on me, always there for each other.
I know of someone who is in a relationship like this. THey met on the internet several years ago, hit it off, and he moved here to be with her. He purchased a home on the same street and they are a couple..together, but not together and have been for almost 20 years.
So, I guess, it is possible. (What an essay I've written)
ladyfingers
ladyfingers: I thought that I would like to remarry. I don't think now that I would. It would be nice to share time with someone and adventures, but when we tired of each other we could say go home for awhile to them, let me have my privacy, some time to myself. Is that possible?
I'd want to be exclusive, not just on weekends, but whenever we felt like we wanted to be together, but not joined at the hip constantly.
But in this relationship, I would want someone that I could depend on and he would be able to depend on me, always there for each other.
I know of someone who is in a relationship like this. THey met on the internet several years ago, hit it off, and he moved here to be with her. He purchased a home on the same street and they are a couple..together, but not together and have been for almost 20 years.
So, I guess, it is possible. (What an essay I've written)


PS: I don't think that it is living in sin.
smoky
charleyxray: Would you prefer marriage, living in sin, exclusive weekend dating, or occasional dating for your retirement relationship?

I have tried marriage but after the kids left home and the dog died, it didn't work out.

Exclusive weekend dating was OK but my house fell into disrepair and hers looked pretty good.

Occasional dating has been fine but I don't think I can live a happy retirement with only handshakes.

Before I go there, would anyone know why they call it living in sin?
I think that expression was coined by religious churches? .. a sort of pun? (cause they also make some money out of marriage ceremonies, and christenings, and baptisms and whatever else they do?)

Well, I`m not a proponent of marriage, as such, but one nice thing about it is that its a commitment. But then again, so is a business partnership. So, I do believe that living together should be indulged in like one would when venturing into a business deal together?

Everything cut and dried, if/when the partnership dissolves, there is no arguing or problems.
winddancer1950
Good afternoon everyone!

I don't believe in that "living in sin" concept. It seems too much like living by other people's beliefs.

I am not an "occasional" dater and am not interested in playing the field.

Perhaps if I met THE right person, I might be tempted, but I like the idea of an exclusive relationship that still allows each person time to themselves, time to indulge in activities that might not be shared by their significant other (I love art, hates sports -- but would begrudge someone their ballgames or fishing trips -- I like fishing, though. As a writer I need a percentage of alone time to pursue that craft and to simply think. It's the nature of the writer beast to be occasionally reclusive.

My own beliefs include not condemning anyone for their personal choice; if they choose to marry, great. If not, great.
charleyxray
winddancer1950: Good afternoon everyone!


Welcome to the group winddancer
akdawn
HMMMM,,, good question charley!
Alone is the culprit,,,in my experience I was more alone married.
So 20 years after I divorced, I am alone.
My door has not been knocked down for sure, hahaha
The Jury is still out on this topic!
mindlink
At this stage of my life, I would prefer the commitment offered by a formal marriage. I want to know that someone gives a hoot whether I wake up in the morning and will be with me, through thick and thin. And I also need to be needed too, unfortunately. I love caring for someone ... not necessarily catering to every desire, but I actually enjoy making someone happy! I'm not interested in anyone who, at the hint of a quibble, does not want to spend the time to work it out before walking away. There. I've said it. Fire away folks!
FreshFilly
i want weekend dating exclusively with just One...too tired to be bothered with casual. Would be lovely to meet a special Man, be nicely compatiable, live our own lives during the week and have weekends/holidays together.....an i love to dreamlaugh
It will happen one day but in the meantime i am having fun living life each day.
charleyxray
FreshFilly: Would be lovely to meet a special Man, be nicely compatible, live our own lives during the week and have weekends/holidays together.....


I did this and it was great at the beginning but I stayed to long. However, next time I would put a maximum time limit on this type of relationship if I were to do it again. No more than a year or two. If closeness doesn't develop in a year, more than likely it never will.
ladyfingers
charleyxray: I did this and it was great at the beginning but I stayed to long. However, next time I would put a maximum time limit on this type of relationship if I were to do it again. No more than a year or two. If closeness doesn't develop in a year, more than likely it never will.


Would you sign a contract first....for a year, for two years?

So what if it isn't going anywhere. If you enjoy each others company, does it make a difference....unless that is, you are looking for someone permanent. I would love to have a friend like that.
Big_John
I am an old fashion type of guy who believes in marriage. Once I find the right lady I hope she will agree to living within a marriage with me.
rocketship
Such a difficult question to answer!!

My second husband & I lived together for about five years before we married. When he died, it made the legal stuff easier.

I've been on my own now for six years, done some casual dating, and at this point in time, I think that I'd like a steady fellow who also wants to keep his independence by having his own residence.

Of course, nothing is written in stone....especially at my age!! LOLOL.
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