Can friends be jealous of each other ? (33)
jampet: why??? if i have money enough to help my friends i would be glad to do it, and expect nothing in return but the satsifaction of knowing that one of my friends has been helped by my good fortune.''cutting off your nose to spite your face'' is what your comment makes me think of.
i am not jealous of any friends.. enviousmaybe of their seemingly perfect relationships that i hadn't managed to have.
I have had 'friends' that were jealous of me- one that was jealous because i didn't treat my ex with the disdain that she treats her husband ( a 'saint by all accounts' for what he puts up with) yet she was still not happy- and was angry because she didn't have the friendshps with others that i enjoy... so there is no way to reconcile with that kind of jealousy. you get what you give , i think.
my friends and i all have qualities that we wish we had- i wish i had 'her'( more than one friend) height or figure or serene qualities or well behaved children etc etc.... she wishes she had my figure, brains, looks etc etc... so it is all subjective... whether it is figure, looks lifestyle money, we all have what someone else sees as desireable. Among my real friends, we know we have a lot and are happy with it, so is it really 'jealousy' since we are all happy. i don't begrudge my true freinds what they have,- i know they have earned what they have ( ok the 5'8'' one with slim legs, nature may have had a hand ) but the happy marriages, and well behaved kids, i realise is down to them in the end.
i am not jealous of any friends.. enviousmaybe of their seemingly perfect relationships that i hadn't managed to have.
I have had 'friends' that were jealous of me- one that was jealous because i didn't treat my ex with the disdain that she treats her husband ( a 'saint by all accounts' for what he puts up with) yet she was still not happy- and was angry because she didn't have the friendshps with others that i enjoy... so there is no way to reconcile with that kind of jealousy. you get what you give , i think.
my friends and i all have qualities that we wish we had- i wish i had 'her'( more than one friend) height or figure or serene qualities or well behaved children etc etc.... she wishes she had my figure, brains, looks etc etc... so it is all subjective... whether it is figure, looks lifestyle money, we all have what someone else sees as desireable. Among my real friends, we know we have a lot and are happy with it, so is it really 'jealousy' since we are all happy. i don't begrudge my true freinds what they have,- i know they have earned what they have ( ok the 5'8'' one with slim legs, nature may have had a hand ) but the happy marriages, and well behaved kids, i realise is down to them in the end.
The reason i don't like accepting help is i do not have/want or need to accept charity as i would call it.
My friends now know not to offer help to avoid offending me!
This isn't easy to explain.But lets say my family don't call or talk to me directly in case they think i may well be upset.
It's a fine line being able to judge me, and nobody on the site knows me well enough to even come close.
But i understand your sentiments, and they might well apply to someone else, but they just aren't compatible with me.
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I'm sure he is shy though, so i wont plaster him all over CS as their profile is mainly gingers fan club.