I would not have it any other way to be honest. It is when we don't do just that we end up with people who are not our match or compatible with. The more you find out early on the less time a person wastes on something that is not going to work to begin with. My motto weed out all as soon as possible so there are no major mistakes. Look for red flags might take a bit, but it sure does not hurt. Like i said people have a tendency to eventually shoot themselves in the foot.
Nice Blog write-up thank you for sharing your thoughts.
Dating in general is hard to be honest. We meet someone on here maybe or even locally. We don't know everything about the person immediately. All their idiosyncrasies, habits, likes, dislikes, etc. We just truly don't know until we spend time with another person one on one in person. If you are a real human being with feelings, empathy, etc you don't want to throw people aside for things like looks, job, money, etc.
I will admit there are specific things I am looking to not get involved with due to my past experience or just don't like period. For one I don't drink or smoke. I have no interest in someone who does. Yes, I have been with people who did one or both. At my age I am not interested in raising kids, so that is a big no. I just say be truthful on your profile. I am not interested in long distance relationship at least not in another country and states a bit too far away from me. Most people are not really able to move and if they say they are or can to me that is a red flag and a person should take more time to weed them out to be honest.
As for limited choices sure we have settled for what was in our backdoor so to speak that is not always healthy either in the end. Even person to person people have weird ideas on what, who, and why they pick particular people as partners. It is always that thought process what can I gain from being with that person money, lifestyle, caretaker, maid, handyman, etc.Instead of will that person add to my life and not weigh me down in some way. I can like a person does not mean we are compatible and long term relationship material. Yes, I know it takes work, but i have been down that road before thinking we can work this out. It seems only one of us wanted to put in the effort to be honest. Actually, too many people are stuck in the old ways of thinking why we get into a relationship in the first place, then there are those who use all the angles to get under your skin and they just want something or money from you. Ugh I do not want to meet people at bars it is just not my thing, plus alcohol changes people and not in good ways. So, I am limited to my interests and things I go do on my own locally or people where I work which is great to a point since I like my work it is an extension of who I am. People say I am fussy and should lower my standards though the tides are changing and people really need to take the time to get to know themselves and another to see if it will work. I could babble on. I try to give people a chance most do shoot themselves in the foot eventually.
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RE: Why online dating is such a hard game?
I would not have it any other way to be honest. It is when we don't do just that we end up with people who are not our match or compatible with. The more you find out early on the less time a person wastes on something that is not going to work to begin with. My motto weed out all as soon as possible so there are no major mistakes. Look for red flags might take a bit, but it sure does not hurt. Like i said people have a tendency to eventually shoot themselves in the foot.