Isn't that what everyone is trying to find in the first place, their soulmate, the One, without a formula, which frankly does not make sense. If you look around while out in the real world, no-one has a number printed onto them explaining that they are a one or a zero. the formula in finding the One, is talking to people, conversation,flirting,touch,feeling the spark. When all of these things are accomplished then you may have found the one. There is no mathematical formula in love, it is ruled by heart and mind, body and gut feeling. Only those searching for there soul mate has the insight to know if they have found them.
I have no Idea who she thinks I am , but she seems to have stopped what she was doing after I sent her an email and wrote her a poem to show that it is actually me who has written these words.
I hope everythings alright That you can keep up the fight You are going to get through this bad time In the end everythings going to be just fine Because you won't have to do this on your own We all are here for you, you will never be alone Every minute, day and night We shall be your guiding light If you feel you have to talk Turn to us , use the Blog We will answer, we will guide We'll be right there by your side.
I agree with you on most parts regarding online dating, if not all. The thing that makes us use this media to try and find that special someone is a mixture of fear and availability. The fear of being rejected is with us all, as you said you would admire a beautiful woman from afar, because the fear of her rejecting you in public would be too much to bear.
But , if you look at that same woman as a person who is also looking for that special someone and not just an object of beauty then it makes it easier to approach her, and because she is so beautiful most guys wont have the courage to go over there and begin a CONVERSATION with her. Forget about chat up lines, you will get a smile sometimes but usually her back as she turns away. If you want to break the ice, compliment her on something she is wearing, ask where she got it etc, a natural conversation will grow just from such a simple thing as that.
With regard to availability, some people don't have the opertunity to go out in the big bad world and meet people or they live in a place where there are not so many people to meet. In the north of Sweden where I live most of the woman are married and those that are not married are too young for me, so its a problem to meet someone in my age group. I know that age should not matter when it comes to matters of the heart, but if a 40yr old guy meets and begins a serious relationship with a 21 yr old girl , then it just wont last that long. The girl still has enviromental growth to achieve, that is to say, she has still a lot of life experiences to go through, club life, lots of parties and such.
I do believe that online dating sites serve a purpose but I also believe that we all should make an effort to go out and meet each other in a true life way, as you said , you get instantanious feedback, the thrill of the chase etc. If you or anyone feel that its too stressful , that they would hate the feeling of simply going up to someone and starting a conversation, then here is an exercise to combat that fear. Approach and simply say Hi while smiling to at least 100 people within a week, your fear will vanish. In the next week , tell them how pretty they are, nice shoes, nice jacket etc, not only will it combat your fear of approach but it will make that persons day , how often does a complete stranger come up to you and give you a compliment ??
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RE: formula for love
Isn't that what everyone is trying to find in the first place, their soulmate, the One, without a formula, which frankly does not make sense. If you look around while out in the real world, no-one has a number printed onto them explaining that they are a one or a zero. the formula in finding the One, is talking to people, conversation,flirting,touch,feeling the spark. When all of these things are accomplished then you may have found the one. There is no mathematical formula in love, it is ruled by heart and mind, body and gut feeling. Only those searching for there soul mate has the insight to know if they have found them.