Here is a question for the believers in the law of attraction. How do u explain those who were on cloud number nine, totally in love with someone ,trusting him or her, believing that they will have a great life together, feeling it and imagining it, having hopes and dreams, completely visualizing there future together and then gets shocked into reality that is was all wishful thinking and all this beautiful dreams that they have been living, all the STRONG positive emotions that had was a lie and it will not come true ? I don't believe that there is usually a lack of strength in those emotions cause when we are in love all ur life is colored with presence of this love. So .... what gives ?
Hey man. I know what are going through. I have been through exactly the same thing. Been through the fear and the overwhelming feeling of insecurity. The girl I was with was the kind who rarely showed her love and was the so emotionally detached that I was wishing all the time that I didn't love her so much. I just couldn't face the pain of breaking up with her. We reached a point in our relationship were we were engaged. I perfectly understand how it feels when u are completely and utterly invested emotionally in someone and u feel that u are giving and giving and receiving just so little but because of that so little u feel that there is hope and someday things will be better, but it is this "so little" that keeps u hooked and keeps ur love flowing and keeps u hoping.
I don't believe that u are too blame. U reacted according to the feelings that u had. Those feelings are you, who you are. If u react differently then that is not who you are. Weighing every thing u say and do according to some rules means that u will not be yourself and if the other persons loves that way, then she would have loved someone else, not the real you. I believe that is the main reason where people keep saying that the person they married is not the person they fell in love with.
On the other hand I would not blame her either. She reacted according to her feelings. If she hurt you now ( and believe me, I know how hard and debilitating the pain can be) on the long run this is better for you and for her. i would blame her if she gave promises and never kept them. Or if she said that she felt a certain way and showed something else. Or if she took advantage of the situation to make her life easier while knowing how u felt about her. Dishonesty is the only thing that a person could be blamed for, not the way he( or she ) feels.
Every action we take or word we say comes from an awareness. A state of being that is a mix of personality, temperament, character, present situation and past events. That is what makes us who we are. And that is the person who loves and is loved.
The pain you are feeling will diminish with time. You know yourself now. You know what you want and what you do not want. I have not loved again, but I have seen people in our situation who loved again and they all told me that the pain leaves its traces on your heart but it doesn't prevent you from loving again.
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RE: The Law of Attraction!!!
Here is a question for the believers in the law of attraction. How do u explain those who were on cloud number nine, totally in love with someone ,trusting him or her, believing that they will have a great life together, feeling it and imagining it, having hopes and dreams, completely visualizing there future together and then gets shocked into reality that is was all wishful thinking and all this beautiful dreams that they have been living, all the STRONG positive emotions that had was a lie and it will not come true ? I don't believe that there is usually a lack of strength in those emotions cause when we are in love all ur life is colored with presence of this love. So .... what gives ?