I am american and honey you get what you give! You want appreciated then you learn to appreciate. You want sincerity then how about being sincere. We give as good as we get so watch what you are giving!
I think its because the older you get the more you become your own woman and stop doing things just to please others. Im always changing my hairstyle. short, when i'm in the mood or I let it grow until I get tired of it and I happen to have the absolute best hairdresser in the world, I just let him do whatever he wants and its always fabulous.
RE: a lady to love
Paint your dream lady and she will come.