Thankyou all for your comments and I know what you're all saying and I wish it was that easy. This man who unfortunately I still love a great deal has turned into a different person and is now not only causing me a lot of heartache but my children too. I'm confident in time I will find it doesn't hurt so much but right now it does.
I've tried to be dignified but he seems to think that he can still control my life because of our kids and it raises a terrific anger in me. He doesn't deserve me which I'm coming to realise but I hope at some point he suffers the same measure of pain that he has caused our family.
Split with my long term partner a few weeks ago and now loads of stuff is coming out and although I was hurting before, now I'm furious too and think a bit of revenge is in order.
Now we have children together so need something that will hit him where it hurts without affecting them as their happiness is important to me and after all they still love daddy
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