My mom, best friend & sister are my rocks when I need someone to talk to.
I envy that you can communicate with your ex Devon. My ex is a wonderful father but we still do not get along after 4 years apart & only communicate via email or text.. A bit sad, really.
It would depend on why it was a bad date.. wwas it bad because of things beyond control or was it bad because of not connecting with the person or because of behaviour? If it was because of things beyond control then yes, give it another chance. If it was because of the other 2 reasons.. nope.
I apologize for jumping on you.. I am feeling a bit defensive for some reason... lol
If you have ever had any experience with someone who has borderline personality disorder then it is understandable what I mean. But I truly do respect & sincerely care for every client I have ever worked with..
Oh for crying out loud.. Again, I am being judged.. Really?? Yes, I work with mentally ill adults.. some of whom have higher education than a lot of people. One was a nurse, a pharmacist, a man that was in his 3rd year of engineering in university & flew cessna planes.. please don't insinuate that I do not respect each & every one of my clients. My motto in my job is "There but for the grace of God go I".. I respect them more than anyone will ever know!!!
And God bless each one of them as they have taught me patience, humility & many, many other lessons along the way!
I did not "slam" the site.. up until today, I enjoyed it & found it to be relaxing.
I stated an opinion & yes, I have been attacked by her & by you actually. I did not personally attack anyone in my original post. I stated my own thoughts. Yes, I realize they were joking but as I stated at first, there is always a trace of truth to joking. Do I judge anyone because of their cultural differences? Not at all.. I am a very accepting person of everyone despite differences. I believe that is what makes life interesting.. the differences in people. I have even studied different cultures & have friends that are from all over the world. I value our differences & enjoy conversation with each of them.
I agree completely that it's ok to disagree what I don't condone is people attacking others for the same reasons.
I know who I am.. & I like who I am. I am a very happy, well adjusted, secure person who sees good in everyone & everything around me. I am one of those in a crowd who sticks up for the underdog & can find humour & good in most situations.
In reading this morning, I just found that several of the threads, whether in jest or not, were derogatory. And yes, I am sure there are many that are derogatory towards men as well & I just didn't read them today otherwise, it might've been them that I defended.
I do not feel that I am attacking anyone or insulting anyone.. I was simply stating my thoughts.
I am not easily offended in the least & can certainly take (& give) a joke. I read a lot of the threads on here & do laugh at most of them even if I don't comment often. It just seemed it was 3 for 3 & there is always some truth behind the jokes.. That is what bothered me. I am aware too that there are cultural difference between people on here but I have to say that I am so happy to be Canadian where men know women are equal!
Well.. I have read 3 seperate threads on here this morning that in my opinion, are derogatory towards women.. So I just want to say that I do NOT spend my days eating, wearing & visiting! I am NOT anorexic but I DO love who I am! & I CAN have a friend with benefits if I so CHOOSE!
It is said that there is always some bit of truth to a joke so whether these other threads are considered funny or not, I find it appalling that men in this day & age would even think this way!! Just sayin'.. !
I have to agree with everyone that said move on... I dated a guy last fall & had seen him several times & even spent an entire weekend with him. We made plans for lunch the following Wednesday & he was a no show.. no message online, no phone call & no text.. I actually texted him twice but he claimed he had not received them. (Yeah, right!) When he finally did contact me 2 days later, he tried to pull a fast one saying I had been the one to forget & he had waited for me.. I calmly explained to him that I deserve respect & how he had treated me was not respectful. He then stated that "my happiness was too much of a responsibility" for him.. HA!! He was using my own words because I had told him right from the start that I make myself happy & do not expect anyone else to. He then said that we should only be friends because he felt pressure.. I completely agreed. I had lost respect for him & didn't care to pursue it any longer.. But then he said that he COULDN'T be just friends with me because he liked me! Bahaha!! NUTJOB!! lol
My point here is if they treat you this way in the beginning when most people are still in the "let me impress you" stage, what will they be like after you're in a relationship & comfortable with eachother.
My time is important just as anyone else's is.. If someone doesn';t respect that or my feelings.. bye bye!!
I agree with Dreamyone.. we need to forgive for ourselves not for the person who hurt us. Their life goes on as normal but it is the person who hates that is still suffering. I went through 2 years of hating my ex for the hurt that I was enduring. He went on with his life but I was stuck in such a dark, unhappy place. It was a process that I needed to go through though. I think part of that process for romantic hurt is looking inside & learning what part we may have played in our own hurt. That is a hard thing to do but well worth it in the end because you realize mistakes that you may have made & can avoid making them in the future. I read something along my journey to forgiveness that had a huge impact on my way of thinking.. it said that each person does the best that they can based on the tools or skills that they have at that time & based on their perspective of reality. Wow! I rolled that over in my mind so many times. It helped explain my behavior following our seperation but it also helped me look at his actions in a less judgemental way.
Forgiveness is for the forgiver & believe me, it will definitely set you free.. How can anyone go on to truly love someone else when their heart is still full of hate & bitterness?
I really don't care what other people think on this issue nor do I pinpoint anyone else for having an opposing opinion. We live in a free country (continent too) where everyone is entitled to their views & to express them. In NB, if a school is deemed a peanut free zone then all children at that school are expected to abide by that. If they bring peanut products to school, they are left in their lunch bags unopened & the parents are contacted. Personally, I am thankful that our schools are vigilant in this matter because it could be my kid who develops an allergy & I would certainly hope that all measures would be taken to protect my child. That is why I happily do it for someone else's.
Again, another example that cannot even compare! It is peanuts we are talking about & asking parents not to send peanut products & wash their hands before going to school!! Honestly, I am glad that I am amongst the compassionate parents who respect & care about another child's right to inclusion & normalcy by making a few small changes at home.
Obviously that would be something a wee bit harder to control & is absolutely ridiculous that you would use that as an example when there is no comparison! Peanuts in a school can be controlled! Sun cannot!
And since you brought it up.. I actually worked with a young woman who was allergic to the sun & you know what?? There were ways to include her as well if proper precautions were taken.. & we did that because we valued the experience that that child would get & wanted her to have it right along with her friends!
I live in Canada where not everyone is "sue happy" like Americans.. My daughter has gone on group outings such as the zoo & feeding ducks, etc.. the teachers bring "safe" things for the kids to feed the animals.. they make things work for the child with the allergies. They also ensure that an epipen is brought with them as well as the child to ensure safety.
That may be so there & I do not know of any cases like that in my part of Canada so I will not comment on it but I still think it's unfair that a child be penalized & excluded when it is something that can be controlled to a degree & when a mishap does happen, emergency measures can be in place.
A peanut ban in schools is pretty minor in the grand scheme of things.. IMHO
So because a child has an affliction that is potentially life threatening, they should be excluded from something that is a given right in our country? What if this child's parents cannot afford to homeschool? What if this child comes from a single parent home & the parent has to work to support his/her family? Should that parent be forced to be on welfare to stay home & homeschool their child? That is UNREALISTIC & UNFAIR!
Having a child who has changed schools several times due to relocation & having had experience with each of those schools having nut bans, I know from experience that none of the parents I ever came in contact with had any issues with it. I guess the people I know are more understanding & compassionate to other kids' needs than the ones you obviously know!
It is very obvious from reading your responses that you have no children of your own! If you did perhaps you might understand a bit better how important just the social aspect of school can be for a child. These kids are innocent & did not ask to have a life threatening allergy. So is it too much to ask that a school ban peanut products so that even just one child has the same social opportunities as the other hundreds of kids there do?
I am surprised considering you are from NB that you do not realize that the majority of schools here are declared peanut free.. it is not a big deal nor is it a huge sacrifice for the other kids or their parents..
For those that have said it is no worse than kids with bee allergies.. do other kids carry bees with them in their lunch bags every day??
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RE: who do you turn to as a single parent?
My mom, best friend & sister are my rocks when I need someone to talk to.I envy that you can communicate with your ex Devon. My ex is a wonderful father but we still do not get along after 4 years apart & only communicate via email or text.. A bit sad, really.