Whatever my true intentions are there are many hurdles to jump through. I've been wondering how serious others are. I want find someone I'm attracted to and see if the chemistry of opposites attract works. Even if on first contact it seems that it may work, it is the first part of the real testing ground of developing a good relationship.
Terrible though it may sound but Australian women in the main seem ambivalent about replying. The handful that have I have regarded as champions. The majority of meaningful contacts have come fern far flung countries.
What if they both dislike each other but one dies? That's a very permanent separation. If , as the question is posed, mature aged people have the capacity to love then the answers in the affirmative. If for any reason you cannot love then at least learn to love yourself and forget the past because you can.
In my opinion the approach you suggest works if siblings are of a mature age. When couples have young children (5 perhaps to 17) they a badly affected by a break up but also they are adversely affected by the behaviour of their parents. I did what you suggested but ended up in hurting myself much more as I was the tactile repository of my sons who then became savagely injured by their mother's, rightful I add, anger. But there's another issue worth considering. In situations where a woman has young girls who lose their biological father and eventually have thrust on them a male whom their mother believes she needs. I ask you how safe are they from male predatory behaviour, potentially, how traumatic is a new male to them and while you may think its all okay each situation must have the male thoroughly checked out. If you believe I'm exaggerating the risks and potential issues do a statistical check, you'll be horrified. Get counselling on how to protect your children and bring them up in a safe, loved and emotionally stable home environment.
There's a book called "mans search for meaning" - by Victor Frankel. Anyone who feels they are not in the race - whatever that is - is not a looser. You have to have a clearer picture of who you are. I was in a relationship from hell and I needed to end it as I was getting physically sick. But had that not been the case, I would not be the person I am today. Am I stronger - I'm different I cope better, I'm calmer about most things. I have developed greater skills. There are no winners or losers but there are people born with greater advantages. You have many yet to be discovered and when you find them don't stop there, polish them until they shine and distinguish who you are. People are turned into success - they stand so close to success believing it will rub off onto them. Inner strength and confidence does attract others, therefore, change everything that makes you what you don't want to be. Don't wait- start now! Ivan
Whatever the reason, no matter how much money she walks away with or he parts with, there is the human side. Feelings, a sense of loss, pain that its happened all over again - loneliness. No matter how we see them, they are human beings who manage matters better than most and they have similar issues as do all of us. I'm not sure about my body's rate of decline into my 80's but I can't imagine not being "active". Therefore, assuming that it does decline how would that affect a physical relationship, particularly for a woman who doesn't turn off well past 70? At 44 she may be very lonely, could it be that simple? Whatever it is people have to continue on their passage. Ivan
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RE: What are your true intentions from a site such as this?
Whatever my true intentions are there are many hurdles to jump through. I've been wondering how serious others are. I want find someone I'm attracted to and see if the chemistry of opposites attract works. Even if on first contact it seems that it may work, it is the first part of the real testing ground of developing a good relationship.Terrible though it may sound but Australian women in the main seem ambivalent about replying. The handful that have I have regarded as champions. The majority of meaningful contacts have come fern far flung countries.