If you've gone through this I am sorry...friends shouldnt ever have to face rejection from another friend. If one is ignored or turned away by a friend...I would definitley have to question that friendship. Even if there is the chance a friend can't help, they CAN be there and see a friend through whatever it is. Doesn't sound like much of a friend to me...but thats just me..
I'd like to add one thing. I'm not trying to rush anything with this relationship. If he were the type that wanted to take it slow I would have no problem with that. But he hasn't told me that. But on the other hand I don't want to waste alot of time with someone that isn't all that into me and who just doesnt have the guts to tell me that. I've been there and done that. I appreciate all the responses I have gotten and I have some ideas as to where to go. Grief is not an easy thing. Been there and done that too.
I would always be here for him even as just friends if I knew that's all he wanted. Grief is tuff, been there and done that. But I could get really attached to him too if I wasn't careful. Thanks for everyone advice.
I need some advice, both male and female please. This is my story...... I have been dating this guy for about a month. He is NOT on POF. We both are on a popular website and after reading his profile I sent him a request to be added. He added me right away. Then after about a month of occasional comments on my part, he sent me a message and we began a conversation. Two days later he gave me his phone number and asked if I'd like to meet. Two days later we met and seemed to hit it off. But over the course of this relationship we have had little contact during the week and it seemed to be me doing the initaing when contact was made. We have dated every weekend since with the exception of one weekend. That weekend (after a week of only 2 contacts with him, both made be me) he sent me a message on a saturday morning hinting about seeing me that evening. I politely told him since I hadn't heard from him during the week I assumed he was really busy and so I made other plans for the weekend. Well that seemed to improve his contact with me over the next few days. He either called me or we sat and emailed for lengthy conversations. But now things are back to the same thing of little contact unless I make it. So I have made no contact with him for the past 2 days and I have not heard from him either. Now here is a little more information. He lost his son and grandson about a year ago. We have talked some about it and I know that he is still grieving this loss. We have never had a conversation about dating exclusively. His profile on the other website says he is looking for "friends, networking, dating, serious relationships". So does mine. He checks his mail at the other website daily so I know he at least has the time to send a "hi, how ya doing" message and we have shared a personal email address with each each other. I am still waiting on a reply to an email I had sent to his personal email. My questions are: should I assume he isnt all that into me and move on or assume he is consumed with grief and just give him time? I really like him and think he is "a keeper". He seems to like me and this past weekend when he arrived at my home to take me out one of the first things he said was "I've missed you". I just don't understand the lact of contact and need your advice. Am I expecting too much? Please help!!
Yes, I have dated someone who I thought we were perfect together. We enjoyed each others company, shared a lot of common interests, was awesome in bed together, and as silly as it may sound... we loved talking to each other, be it on the phone or in person. I can't think of anything about this relationship that wasn't fantastic.... except for one thing... he didnt want commitment...
We have since broken up and I pray every night that he made the right choice.
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RE: Big Bold Irishman
well howdy!!