AutumnRose Forum Posts (29)

RE: I used to think...

That reminded me of a time some friends of mine, a married couple, were arguing. He wanted to have a vasectomy, but she wouldn't agree to sign the papers because she wanted another baby. They had 3 children. Somewhere in the midst of the "discussion," their oldest son, about 4 then, overheard Dad saying he didn't want kids. He became very upset, thinking that Dad was going to do something to make them disappear.

RE: Folk's What keeps your hopes alive.

Faith.

RE: WHO IS YOUR HERO?

I definitely concur with that!

RE: WHO IS YOUR HERO?

Ronald Reagan was one of kind. I just loved that man. He was the best president we ever had. Too bad there aren't more around with his courage and passion.

RE: WHO IS YOUR HERO?

The past 6 months...Michael Thurmond! For 2 years, no matter how diligent I was in watching calories or how faithfully I worked out, I could not for the life of me drop below 1*0 pounds. 7 weeks on his program, and I dropped 23 pounds (now 25, but I'm being lazy), and now I'm below what I weighed in high school, and very close to reaching my lowest adult body weight (at age 20-25), and I am in better physical shape than I've ever been. And the really wonderful thing about it is, it is scientifically sound with absolutely predictable results, whch can always be fallen back on for a week or two, when needed.

I know I sound like an ad, but it is really just pure praise for a man who is so dedicated to what he does and who is deeply committed to helping others. He has permanently changed my life. If he was single, I'd ask him to marry me! Of course, I'd have to take a number.

I believe in giving credit where credit is due, and I am happy t be this man's cheerleader!

RE: Help needed for romantic dinner!

A woman after my own heart!

RE: Help needed for romantic dinner!

One of the biggest hits I ever made for a date (besides homemade pizza) was a delightful Polynesian appetizer. You take fresh chicken livers, attach a water chesnut to each, wrap in a piece of bacon, hold it together with a toothpick, and deep fry...doesn't take long. Be sure to soak up the excess grease. They are delicious....of course, it does necessitate that one likes chicken livers.

Good luck with your dinner.

RE: more important 2 YOU?

Good answer! Unless he had a trust fund, the ability of the second one to treat you like a queen would be extremely limited. The first; well, I guess that's the type that kept me from listening to my mother when she told me to marry a rich man. I've had the opportunity, but not the desire. There's no amount of money in the world worth being in an empty relationship. Money is a nice extra, but if that's all a man has to offer, he's as useless as a man who has nothing but looks.

RE: i hope everybody is having a great morning and afternoon!

Oops....that should be "great morning."

RE: i hope everybody is having a great morning and afternoon!

I know what you mean. I'm having a great BECAUSE I'm not at work.

I've got a few days of much needed leave, and I'm savoring every second of it. It has cooled off a little, so I'm also appreciating being able to keep the windows open and enjoying the cool morning breeze and the chattering of the birds. It's been overcast this morning, but the sun is coming out now.

RE: A Godless world

I agree with with you, and it saddens me to see so many that cannot discern the greater truth, not to mention the history. The present ills in our culture, and I use the term "culture" very lightly, are rooted in the abandonment of our foundation; the foundation of Christ and His word. All law in our country was built on the law of God, and worked well until we started redefining His words and elevating ourselves to the position of gods in our own lives and, quite frankly, the results have been disastrous. That was, after all, the original sin...the desire to be equal to God. That didn't work out so well either, did it?

For they exchanged the truth of God for a lie, and worshiped and served the creature rather than the Creator ...(Rom. 1:25)

If anyone advocates a different doctrine and does not agree with sound words, those of our Lord Jesus Christ, and with the doctrine conforming to godliness, he is conceited and understands nothing; but he has a morbid interest in controversial questions and disputes about words, out of which arise envy, strife, abusive language, evil suspicions, and constant friction between men of depraved mind and deprived of the truth..(I Tim. 6:3-5)

And it isn't a belief in "magic," as some suggest. We are never asked to have blind faith, but to "always be ready to give an answer for the hope that is in us." Think it can't be done? Think again. I would challenge some of you intellectual types to explore the works of Josh McDowell, a truly brilliant man who, while he was in college, was so irritated by Christians that he set out to prove them wrong. What happened was that he ended up discovering the truth of Christ and has offered what he has learned from his research to intellectual audiences, particularly in academia, across the nation. He's written many books and offers some complex explanations, as well as some entertaining possible alternatives, to events described in the Bible.

Now faith is the substance of things hoped for, the evidence of things not seen. (Heb. 11:1)

And a true Christian isn't motivated by fear, but by recognition. The "fear of God" as frequently used in the Bible, doesn't mean that we follow Him because we're scared not to. It means we follow Him because we have come to recognize, and be humbled by, the awesome power of who He is and how He loves us.

I won't argue the points, or respond to the insults and mockery that are sure to come, because the scriptures also say that nothing is gained by the "strife of words" and that it is pointless to argue with one who is wise his own eyes.

I will end by saying that, if Christians are wrong , we haven't lost anything, but if we are right, what will non-Christians have when they take their last breath?

RE: What would you do if you realize that the girl/boy you meet here, is alcoholic ????

That would be the end of it! I was married to an alcoholic, and it eventually killed him...not to mention hurting everyone in the family. I will not go down that road again!

RE: What sign are you?

ARIES

Anybody else have chronic problems w/ login?

Hmmm...I do have Firefox on this computer. Haven't tried it with this site. Maybe I'll try that. Basically, all the browser issues I have seem to effect both browsers, so I'm more inclined to think it's in the computer. I'm glad to learn that most people are not having this problem, so I have hope that the new computer will resolve it.

Anybody else have chronic problems w/ login?

The computer is a piece of junk. I've been biding my time to buy a new one, and I just ordered one on Friday. This one is long past needing to be replaced. I'm running XP Pro, but the guy who reformatted it the last time apparently used a bootleg copy, and that hasn't helped. I haven't been able to open Outlook Express on this computer for over a year. Can't use Yahoo messenger either. In fact, about the only thing I can do is open a browser window, and sometimes they lock up on me. And the monitor is going to go dark for the last time any day...or hour. I'm just praying it holds up until the new one arrives.

Actually, this computer is home built. It ran great for a long time, so I can't complain. I've gotten my money's worth out of it, but at this point, it isn't worth messing with any more. Now if I have the same problem on the site with the new one, then I will be really annoyed.

Thanks for the offer though. I might ask you for help setting up the new one if I have issues with it. I don't think I've ever had a brand new one before....well, not counting the one at work, which doesn't really count.

RE: fake women on these sites

Some women don't handle honesty well, but the same applies to men. To some, it probably is a game, especially those who really aren't looking for marriage or a serious relationship, but you have take each person on her own merit and not judge one by what another does. And I think there are a lot of us, men and women, on these sites, particularly those of us who are more mature, for whom dating and relationships are a more or less new experience, or at least, meeting people this way is. I don't think we always know just how to respond in certain situations, so it is sometimes easier just not to respond at all. I guess the best approach is to treat others the way you want to be treated, but don't have expectations. Not everyone will reciprocate. In that case, it's a pretty safe assumption that that person isn't for you anyway. If she is, she will keep coming back. After all, she's got to feel that you might be for her too, right?

RE: whats the first thing you do when you wake up?

I make my bed, wash my face, put my contacts in and work out for 15 minutes, then have breakfast...in that order.

Anybody else have chronic problems w/ login?

That is what I have to do EVERY time. I do't have any problems with other sites, it's just that I have to clear cookies, temporary files and history every time I log in to this site. I've never seen anything like it. Sometimes I just don't bother.

Anybody else have chronic problems w/ login?

Ever since I signed up on this site, I've had problems logging in. I will get logged in, then, a few hours later, I will be returned to the login page. Okay, so that in itself is irritating, but some sites do that, so I can deal with it. But the problem I have is that the site won't allow me to log back in....unless I go back EVERY time and delete all cookies, clear history and temporary files, close everything out and start over. Sometimes I even have to reboot. That goes way beyond irritating, because then I have to start all over on every site I use for anything. Oh, and I do have cookies enabled, which is what it SAYS to do when I'm returned to the login page, so that isn't the issue.

My question is this: Is this standard operating procedure for this site, or is this a peculairity to my computer? I've emailed about it a couple of times, but haven't had any response. I'm pretty new here, so I thought some of you who had been here longer might know what's going on with this.

This isn't a "bash" of the site. Just an attempt to resolve an irritating and time-consuming problem.

RE: Ladies, Which Movie Star Are You?

I scored 32.

RE: What is the first thing that catches your attention when you meet someone?

His eyes and his smile. They reveal a lot. :-)

RE: WHAT OTHER THINGS SHOULD CONNECTING SINGLES ALLOWED US TO VOTE ON APART FROM THE WAY PEOPLE LOOK ?

Well, I think we can all relate to that problem to one extent or another....as in MY last post. But at least you can spell and put a sentence together using appropriate punctuation.

Proofreading is out friend.

RE: WHAT OTHER THINGS SHOULD CONNECTING SINGLES ALLOWED US TO VOTE ON APART FROM THE WAY PEOPLE LOOK ?

How about their ability to write! Can't speak about the women, since I don't browse browse female profiles, but there are a lot of men that are probably single because their ability to communicate sucks. Some appear to be barely literate. They need to be focusing more on going back to school than on finding a woman.

What if you're just not interested?

Yeah, that's what it comes down to. Nice to discuss it with other people dealing with the same thing though. I haven't a clue what it is like for you men, but some of the emails I get look like they were written by a first grader. And the vocabulary isn't much better. What I'm really thinking when I get one like that is, "why on earth do you think I would be interested in you?" but of course, there's no reason to be ugly about it.

What if you're just not interested?

"I'm gonna disagree with you on how things are the same in cyber space as out here...not even close. some will be opinionated and bold but when they looking someone in the real world they meek as mouses. no I think this part you should reconsider. there is a difference in how people respond and interact in both places"

Oh, I agree with that part of it. I was simply saying that even in person, all else being equal, there are likely to be just as many that you don't find attractive, and vice versa, as here. I mean, think about past social gatherings, dances, clubs, whatever. How often did you really see someone or meet someone who turned your head and you still wanted to get to know after talking to them a little? And what percentage of the "available" women there did they represent?

What if you're just not interested?

"Your good looking enough to be choosy..thats yer problem!"

"I never read profiles..because the most are a crock of *hit.
I read what they say in the forum,,,that tells all..if yer smart."

Well, thank you for the compliment, darlin'.

I always read profiles, but then, I have a pretty good BS filter...need it in my line of work. I tend to ignore the ones who don't say anything about themselves. It's almost like they're not intelligent enough, or thoughtful enough to put the time into it. Anybody can do pick lists. Doesn't mean much. But you can tell a lot about a person from the way they write.

What if you're just not interested?

"that´s a good one too. but sometimes they keep writing"

That's when you want to say, "what part of 'no' don't you understand?" I've had a few like that. It's getting a little easier, but it's always easier to be blunt with someone who is being obnoxious about it.

What if you're just not interested?

You are so right about that. If they can't take no for an answer on a forum board, imagine how obnoxcious they could be in person. Think stalker.

What if you're just not interested?

Where do you draw the line between not being interested and giving it a chance? I don't want to be too quick to judge and/or dismiss, but I don't want to waste anybody's time, including my own, either. I get so many contacts that just don't interest me, and I'm never really sure of the best way to deal with them. Should I ignore them? Tell them, as politely as possible "thanks, but no thanks?" Give them a chance and get to know them a little better?

I don't feel too bad if I simply ignore and delete those who have clearly not read my profile and noted that certain individuals would be ignored, or those who are significantly outside what I'm looking for, and respond anyway. It's the ones who seemingly fit, but after looking at their profile, I'm not "feeling" it, or based on their pictures, there's no attraction, nor could I see there being any, or who communicate in a way that is a turn off...those are the ones I have a hard time with. Is that shallow? Or is that just reality? The same thing would happen if you took the same bunch of people and put them in a room together. Some would be attracted and pursue getting to know one another; some wouldn't.

I don't want to be rude. And I don't want to reject someone outright and cause hurt feelings if I can avoid it. And I don't want to dismiss prematurely someone who I might find, over time, I really liked. How do others handle it? I'd like to hear this from both the men's and the ladies' perspective.