What you feel now is normal. When you live together for many years as one and one leaves it is like losing a limb. You will continue to think about her for a while but gradually you will forget her. Time heals all wounds. You need to get out with friends, go places, find a hobby or join a club. Go out even if you feel you don't want to. There is no better cure than distraction. Focus on the freedom you now have to decide for yourself and not be in a relationship that causes you alot of heart ache. Start planning a new,exciting future. Maybe a trip to somewhere you have always wanted to go but haven't been able to. There are plenty of faithful females to be found if you make time to go out and find one. A new partner will help to take your thoughts off the previous one. Sitting at home alone is not good medicine for a broken heart. Been there done that and now I am enjoying my freedom doing whatever I chose. Life is what you make it. Ask yourself would she be thinking of you constantly. Probably not if she has someone else therefore you must keep telling yourself to stop thinking about her. When you find your thoughts returning to her find something to do that is different to what you and her used to do. Be daring be bold go out enjoy yourself. P.S. Be interested to hear how you fare in 6 months from now.
Just keep on looking there are some suitable nice ones out there. Ive come across some very nice older men in other sites when Ive been surfing around but Ive yet to decide whether this is where I should be looking or should I be going out and meeting people face to face rather than from site to site.
As for the young guys I wouldn't go near them especially when they can have their pick of those their own age yet for some weird reasons they try to latch on to those 2 x their age. Reeks of Ulterior motives. Perhaps they think the older woman are the easier they are to fleece.
He is sure its over, sounds like he doesn't really know and neither will you. Property settlement and all that plus all the pressure. You don't need that to come in a relationship. He is probably looking for a shoulder to cry on. It's better to wait until he has sorted his marital problems out. How much time. Depends on his situation. Are there children involved?. Is his ex willing to settle amicably etc etc etc. I would sit on the side line and see what happens
Why not ask them if they would be interested in corresponding with you. Send him a flower. If a person does not know that you are interested in them who is going to tell them so?. It is up to you, but don't be to bold in saying so. Get to know them first, reply to their threads.
Except I omitted to mention change in how one behaves towards ones partner ie , rude and without consideration.
I unfortunately had a couple visit for a week over Xmas holidays. The male was inconsiderate towards his partner, she was demanding that he change or end the relationship.
Can a person succeed in changing their partner to conform with their ideals of how he should treat her.
My personal opinion is that you cannot change anyone but you could make suggestions for change and hope that if he/she cares enough then they will try to do things differently to keep you happy.
Hi. No not a bummer. I realised I was not ready for commitment or romance in this instance.
He must have thought I was a cold fish but that wasn't the case. A person knows when they meet someone whether there is an attraction or not and in my case there was nothing there. As a friend he was great.
Yes I'm back. Been gone almost 2 months. Its good to see all the new faces, new Posts and new subjects being discussed. I see some of the others are missing, bourbs dragondog etc. Hope they have found someone or something to further occupy them. I thought I had but there just wasn't a spark there for me. Guess I'm not ready to get romanticly involved yet and he was not Mr Right.
Correct. Another way is to take note of what they said the first time to what they will say later. Scammers often tie themselves up in knots when they don't recall what they said previously. When you remind what they said they will become flustered and careless. They will then say yes but they also failed to mention that blah blah blah.................................
Tell them you are coming over to visit them. They will probably tell you they will be away on holiday at that time or some other nonsense to put you off visiting them . Not that you would if they sound suspicious.
Hi Dragondog You couldn,t have said it any better than you have. Guess many of us have failed to notice the changes slowly taking place within our relationships before its to late.
Rabbits are pest here also. If those pests happen to escape one day they would breed like crazy and decimate the land around. More burrows to break a leg in for man and beast not to mention they strip pastures bare. They make good stew and pet food tho.
The colour will be a beautiful golden tan. No need for tanning beds then. There are many of us that colour already. 50-100 years time we could all have mixed blood in us then we will be one race. The Golden Race. Just think we are able to chose our ethnicity to suit the occassion. Polynesian/Maori today and Asian/Caucasian tomorrow. Green or blue, those are aliens
Thanks. Keep your fingers crossed for me . Will keep you updated.
Sorry I don't have a friend for you. But don't give up someone will come along one day and sweep you off your feet and away from your Computer. Why not try some of the other sites. I did it worked for me. Give the forums a miss for a while and begin searching. You can't catch a fish in a pond that is all fished out.
One thing I can say about you is that you are a great conversationalist. Never boring. Never rude. Debating is your forte. You could give those in the beehive a good run for their money.
Sorry if I offended you' no offence was meant. I was just in a cheeky mood last nite. Been checking out other sites but always come back to here.
Have had some luck and found someone so have been otherwise preoccupied. Didn't take long. I signed up just a couple of months ago. New found friend is coming to visit in 2 weeks. Wish me luck.
Hi Dragondog You certainly are King of the Forums NZ and Australia. You are everywhere I look. Sorry but I do not bow but I will take my hat off to you. King foruk,oops forum. I'm feeling a mite cheeky tonite.
I do not think you should wait. Like you say you have not met him. Has he said he would come to visit you. What more do you actually know about him other than what he wrote in his profile. Is it all fact?. If you wait will he actually come?. Seems like he is leading you on. You are waiting for the unknown.
You need to be blunt and give him a time to meet you. If he cannot commit to a time cease all contact with him. Sounds to good to be true Mean while go ahead and meet other males until you find some one who you will meet face to face and be worth while waiting for.
Click on "Start A New Thread " top of page, then click "Catergory" next type in the subject then go to the bottom of the page and click on "Submit Post" and Wallah! you should get it right. If not sleep on it.
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RE: I Don't Want Her Back, but I Think About Her Constantly
What you feel now is normal. When you live together for many years as one and one leaves it is like losing a limb.You will continue to think about her for a while but gradually you will forget her. Time heals all wounds. You need to get out with friends, go places, find a hobby or join a club. Go out even if you feel you don't want to. There is no better cure than distraction. Focus on the freedom you now have to decide for yourself and not be in a relationship that causes you alot of heart ache. Start planning a new,exciting future. Maybe a trip to somewhere you have always wanted to go but haven't been able to. There are plenty of faithful females to be found if you make time to go out and find one. A new partner will help to take your thoughts off the previous one.
Sitting at home alone is not good medicine for a broken heart.
Been there done that and now I am enjoying my freedom doing whatever I chose. Life is what you make it.
Ask yourself would she be thinking of you constantly. Probably not if she has someone else therefore you must keep telling yourself to stop thinking about her. When you find your thoughts returning to her find something to do that is different to what you and her used to do.
Be daring be bold go out enjoy yourself.
P.S. Be interested to hear how you fare in 6 months from now.