No, you do not have to be unhappy/happy with yourself, unless of course you're totally depressed or in a cloud nine euphoric state...
Whether you are happy with self or unhappy ,I think both are motivators but also can be arr-esters to growth, re my former statement.
Being content(with balanced emotions)with easy forgiveness/acceptance of self and others- and keeping an open mind is a good base for dealing with any issue- thus achieving growth and being better
Certain thing will make us happy- certain things will make us sad they happen.
On one occasion - the most concise, superlative collection of adjectives/nouns/verbs, I have even heard uttered - delivered with emphasis and timing - most eloquent...
Mmmh and real love is? Perhaps Real freedom is one component. Did you know that Yoko let John have a relationship with another person for a number of years
Open Relationships
Which bits?