I can tell you that I am looking forward to finding out what it's like to be with a man that wants to be with me! LOL.... I can't say that I'm standoffish, however I sure can see the signs real quick. Like him answering his cell phone and walking away for a "private" conversation. Or having more than one cell phone with different #'s. Or finding his profile on so many different single sites when you are living together..... These are things that I will notice very quickly!
And what is up with people not giving their #'s out? Am I missing something here? Why would someone not give their # if you are really wanting to build a relationship? That seems so juvenile to me. I do understand that not everyone is who or what they say on here....however if you have chatted on line what is the harm in giving out your #? I guess I don't get that part.
Your post has created some very deep feelings for me. Thank you. Coming out of a 6 year relationship where I had no security in it at all I have been giving this great thought.
I am not of the opinion that asking for what I want is being "needy" at all. Asking for what I want is giving the man in my life a gift, for he is not a mind reader. Setting boundary's in what is acceptable behavior is very important for me. Asking for, committing and displaying to open communication and honesty is top on my list of what I want for security within the relationship. This also includes not only listening, rather really hearing what the other person is saying. Even if I have to mirror back what I heard for clarification. Being up front and honest in the beginning is a must for this to work. And both parties have to participate equally. It is much harder to earn trust back after trust has been broken.
When is it a losing battle? I guess I need to learn that lesson. I waited much too long in the last relationship is why I have vowed to myself that I will be asking for what I want right up front.
You certainly have a very strong opinion for someone who has a false profile on this site. There are some of us out here that are very honest, over 45 and have a tattoo that looks good and are looking to really meet a real person. That's real life my dear. As to what looks foolish is a player that is pretending. I am a real woman, that has 1 tattoo and it looks good too! In my opinion if a man has 1 or 2 small tattoo's placed in appropriate places then it's ok. As for my own personal tastes, I don't care for them all over or to be seen in a professional environment. I am of the opinion that the way you dress and what body art is shown says a lot of who you are and your attitude toward life and other people. In other words folks, the way you present yourself to the world speaks volumes! I'm new to this site and new to the forums. Hope everyone has a very Merry Christmas!
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RE: Where do you stand?
I can tell you that I am looking forward to finding out what it's like to be with a man that wants to be with me! LOL.... I can't say that I'm standoffish, however I sure can see the signs real quick. Like him answering his cell phone and walking away for a "private" conversation. Or having more than one cell phone with different #'s. Or finding his profile on so many different single sites when you are living together..... These are things that I will notice very quickly!And what is up with people not giving their #'s out? Am I missing something here? Why would someone not give their # if you are really wanting to build a relationship? That seems so juvenile to me. I do understand that not everyone is who or what they say on here....however if you have chatted on line what is the harm in giving out your #? I guess I don't get that part.