Just let it go dread. Dreadlocks are absolutely beautiful and allow for freedom from harmful chemicals and unnecessary fussing. Don't make a square peg fit in a round hole, just let life be whatever shape it wants to! Let her relish in her heritage rather than hide from it. Read the book Dreads. Curls are God's ribbon on top of a gift...
RE: long distance relationships,does it work?
Boundaries and self respect should be an asset to any relationship.