FelineSlyth Forum Posts (17)

RE: NOBODY EVER VIEWS MY PROFILE

Hehe. Thank you. :D I enjoy your posts, too. You always have something intelligent to say.

RE: NOBODY EVER VIEWS MY PROFILE

I've been here just four days now and am already in correspondence or have been in correspondence with some kind and intelligent men. None locally, but since there are no prospects here, I've simply broadened my horizons. It's the Internet after all. The thing is, I went looking at profiles, e-mailed the ones that caught my attention, and made sure to reply to flowers received. In another thread, someone mentioned the Picture Ratings page as another possibility for finding interesting people, so I followed that advice and check that page in addition to the Views and what searches yield.

All this to say that while the forums are a lot of fun, it's useful to look elsewhere as well. The majority of the people I'm currently talking to have never even posted here. The Advanced Search is a handy feature.

Making a profile unique and personal is key, as well as writing in good English (if one is a native speaker). I also prefer profiles that are detailed enough to give something to talk about. How can people contact someone if there's nothing to say? Basically, text presentation is just as important as the picture, possibly even more.

Character Count

You know how the "About Me" section only allows 2000 characters and e-mails allow 4000? Well, I had a difficult time figuring out how to trim my profile to fit the character limit and still contain all the info I wanted. It would have been easier if there were a character counter that said either how many characters I used or how many I had left, or if it just stopped typing the way the Flower section does.

So my suggestion is that all areas that allow typing, even these forums, should have some way of notifying us that our posts are getting too long so that we don't hit "Send" only to get an error message and have to begin again.

More Accurate Timestamps on Profiles

LOL!! Well, I put a date in my captions, since that was the first thing I thought was important. Plus, I don't know how to describe where they were taken.

Six months sounds good, actually. It would be so much easier if I didn't see profiles of people that probably won't write back anyway. I did e-mail/flower my interests, but am uncertain if they'll even get the notifications.

RE: why are pets, mostly preferred to having human babies -

Thank you. That is my position exactly. I didn't grow up with babies and while toddlers can sometimes be quite cute, they can also be rather too energetic and quite a handful. The fact is that I just can't relate well to kids and they kinda make me nervous.

There are lots of unwanted pets out there along with children. That's why if I ever become financially stable enough to keep a pet, I plan to adopt one from the Humane Society. I also prefer an adult cat to a kitten, due to the aforementioned energy. Young animals seem to be like young kids.

About cats in heat: I may have heard them before. It does sound pretty bad. Haha. But the cats were heard from a distance, while a screaming child was my neighbor. So it's all about perspective.

More Accurate Timestamps on Profiles

Okay. I was trawling through ads all day yesterday trying to find folks that interested me. I did happen on some, but they haven't logged on in over a month.

Why does the site only tell you that a person hasn't been here for over a month? Why doesn't it specify precise time so we know if it's even worth writing up an e-mail? If they haven't been on for several months, their e-mail could have changed or they lost access to the Internet and the e-mails may not be received.

I've even found some profiles that violate rules because of lack of completeness or having IM screennames in the profile, or profiles that say someone is 24 but their age shows as 25, which suggests they haven't been around for quite a while.

I was originally going to suggest to automatically hide profiles that have been inactive for, say, a year, but I suppose that can't really be done in good faith. So it'd be nice if the site could show true time intervals.

RE: why are pets, mostly preferred to having human babies -

I personally prefer pets to babies. Less ethical dilemmas, less commitment in most cases, and no need to worry about putting them through college or dealing with any hassles they might bring while dealing with the world. Not to mention, plain old discomfort around kids. If a kitten mews plaintively, it doesn't annoy me the way a child's crying does.

RE: Dear CS Powers.. MODs..

Thank you.

RE: Dear CS Powers.. MODs..

I don't know, actually. It seems to me that the people who join these forums enjoy talking more than the people who don't. At least, it would seem that way given the large number of frustratingly vague and woefully short profiles I've come across here.

I think you're onto something in terms of forum participants finding other people entertaining. I know that the forums set this singles site apart for me immediately and I relished the idea of being a part of the site community and not just a face in the crowd. I liked the idea of seeing what kinds of people made up the site, and was thrilled to imagine that I could interact with you all and see something of the person behind the pixels.

Is there a correlation between forum enjoyment and RL sociability/openness? I, for one, am pretty personable, enjoy reading, and like learning from others. I consider myself introverted in that I tend to dislike large gatherings (more than twenty people or so) and I usually will not initiate conversations, but I have no problems talking once someone gets me started. Do the people who dislike forums find it difficult to socialize? Perhaps they don't see the point of interacting with people they'll probably never meet IRL.

I believe it is I who likes to hear myself talk.

P.S. I agree with the rest of your post, which I've snipped because that's all I have to say.

RE: Does the writing skills affect your interest?

Writing skill matters a great deal to me. While I do realize that some people just aren't very verbally talented, it doesn't change the fact that I judge people based on their use of punctuation and the meticulousness with which they've proofread. If English isn't a first language, I'm not as much of a stickler for structure as long as punctuation and line breaks are used. I've found I can usually understand what's being said regardless of structure, and English does have so many extra words to remember. My feeling is that since forums and e-mails do not require the speed that live chat or even IMing does, there's no excuse for not proofing at least once.

I agree that people who aren't native speakers often do write better than native ones. I wonder if this is true for other languages as well?

RE: Do you know what people think about you?

People have said I seem sure of myself, that I'm very patient, that I'm perceptive and have great potential. But I also know that I procrastinate, that I can be stubborn in a mean way, that I can say things I'll regret when I'm angry, and that I'm far more diplomatic in writing than verbally. But I accept all this as part of myself. I try to minimize the bad tendencies and am usually successful, but I'm not too fussed about getting rid of them completely. I find I'm less stressed if I take me as I am.

As for caring what people think, I know that there will be people I appeal to and who love my style. I also know there will be people I annoy. I only concern myself with those who appreciate my personality. I take what people say seriously, but ultimately, I do what makes me happiest. There are certain people, such as family members and my very best friends, both IRL and online, whose opinions carry a heck of a lot of weight and usually sway me to comply with their thinking. But even then I weigh whether their suggestions would ultimately make me feel more fulfilled/satisfied. If not, I do as I please.

RE: Introduction

Hi. Thanks for the kind wishes. Good luck to you as well. Very cool that you're a music teacher.

Greetings from Hawaii

Oh, that's great to hear. Must be neat to have shared memories and to still be able to chat here even if one isn't single anymore. I guess you're the first actual testimonial I've talked to, which has a bit more impact than the site comments, even though those drew me in as well as the forums and rules.

Greetings from Hawaii

Sorry? Not getting the joke, I'm afraid.

CS get-togethers? Sounds expensive and rather scary. Haha. I'm still boggling about the fact that I'm supposedly looking for dates but am spending more time in the forums. I'm wondering why I haven't heard about this place until now. Very interesting how people end up somewhere at the same time and get connected by a common interest like this.

You were here for a year already? Wow, this place must really have staying power.

The only thing I wish this forum had was an Edit button for posts. It goes against all my forum etiquette training to double-post.

Greetings from Hawaii

Thank you all again for the welcomes. I wasn't expecting to get any responses and I've already gotten several. This really is a kind community. I've been sitting here for hours just reading the forums. I'm utterly enthralled at being drawn in this way. Who needs the old approach of sifting through ads when regular log-ins are so easily encouraged by this place? I'm really enjoying this novel strategy.

Greetings from Hawaii

Thank you. It's nice to know people actually read these things.

Greetings from Hawaii

Hi everyone,

I just joined this site today. I found it on Google while looking for a dating site that offered free e-mail. Seems a lot of sites make you pay to actually contact people, which I thought was unreasonable. It's really expensive, too, and I didn't think it was fair to pay for a service that isn't even a guarantee.

The first thing that drew me in was that this site was free, and the forums piqued my curiosity. This is the first site of its kind I've ever seen that actually has community interaction on a deep level, where we can share something of ourselves through day-to-day conversations. What a brilliant idea.

I've taken a look at some of the threads, but since I don't really know anyone yet, I'm not too comfortable giving any thoughts on the interesting ones I found. Hopefully, this thread will change that.

The other thing that drew me to the site was the strict moderation of public areas and the approval of profiles. I like that there are rules here and that people are screened as best as possible. This site has standards and earned my respect for being clear from the start about the kind of content it wants to host.

I tried to be thorough when completing my profile, so no sense repeating what's already there. I'm not asking for ratings or anything, just mentioning that there's more info there if anyone cares to look. Here's hoping I've made a good first impression, and I hope to get to know the regulars better over time.