As I said earlier, stress is negative energy. Try to tap into your positive energies and it will relieve stress. I don't think anyone doesn't have problems in their lives, and I surely have plenty in mine, but I refuse to allow them to consume me with stress. I do hope you get yours sorted out, Lala.
Given some of the women's replies in this thread, it's understandable that most of them ignore replying to site mails in general. They tend to get a lot more random mails then we men do, and perhaps that's partially based on the norm over time--men are usually the one's to strike up a convo with women of interest.
Also, if you haven't noticed, most active (online) women's profiles will have dozens of "Shout Out's" by random men, and most of them are obnoxiously insulting, or childish. Oh, there are some well-mannered Shout Out's as well, but very few.
And, weren't you the one who did a summational statistics which stated that men are 3:1 to women on this site? That has a lot to do with women getting bombarded with random mails, when most men receive none, or very few...scammers notwithstanding!
I look at stress as burning negative energies, so I have no time for it. But for someone who may be easily stressful, I suppose one way to deal with stress is to look at the root of its cause and try to correct/change it if possible.
I recon we see that differently. Since we are and do spend a lot of time online and looking, while also chatting up friends in forums is not wasted time. Finding someone online and you both have interests in each other, and end up spending a couple years together only online is also not wasted time. Having written to a pen-pal for a couple of years, whom you've never seen IRL is also not wasted time. Regardless if its text, voice messaging, vid messaging, telephone or talking face to face, you're still interacting with another human who also has feelings. Moments shared with another person on any given platform, to me, is never wasted time.
And yup, looks like I joined the same low cholesterol club you had!
But, I do wonder about your saying "No way! Life is not long enough to waste it on the virtual world." While we're all here in this virtual forum and some for more than two years...Is this time well wasted?
Good point, and I was confused obviously, when I made my previous comment. But now to think about it with a new perspective, having someone send their password to their private emails shows concern all in itself. Sounds to me that by doing so, and knowing there are flirt mails to other people within is just a way to make someone jealous. Perhaps they (he/she) were hoping that it would cause them to get back together? Hard to say, but something smells fishy about it all.
Online dating when it comes to flirting with others, is no different than local dating and flirting with others. If two people have been dating online for two years, and then to find out the other has been seriously flirting with someone else, would throw the red flag for me. Chances are that should the couple move in together, that outside flirting may still continue on a local scale. So if it's over, let it be and move on.
That's the majority of the way society is tuned nowadays. Who doesn't want that "Prince Charming meets Cinderella" story and live happily ever after? But once it presents itself, then there may be a level of doubt that beforehand, was never considered...or simply overlooked or put off until it slaps you in the face. Some people want commitment, others do not, or are not ready to commit. Marriage is basically a legal extention to the already existing relationship. It is a commitment that expresses the desire to uphold and maintain love, devotion, honesty, trust, companionship...etc, etc. Now, getting back to your point, it solidifies my first post in this thread. Those you wrote about getting cold feet obviously had their doubts about marrying their partners. And as I had previously stated, there is no time frame for anyone wanting marriage. When both are completely ready, then it will happen and most likely will be successful. That is to say, that they do not allow outside influences to sway their wants, needs and desires of being a married couple.
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Yep, you did it right so "hop" on in and join the fun! 
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RE: How do you usually handle stress?
That's the way ya do it!I believe you are a strong and willful woman, you'll get through it.