nightlynikita Forum Posts (13)

RE: so many kids so little time?

i agree crash let him have his phone call because eventually like my girls they figure it out for themselves. MY ex calls maybe three times a year if there lucky now, because last time he called i told him he wasn't to make or break promises to the girls. Its one thing to lie to a adult but never to a child. they get there hopes up way to easily. my 5 year old is smart as a wip and like i said she figured it out he lied so many times to her about actually showing up that one day i told her to go clean her room before daddy got her she turned around and told me well maybe he will maybe he wont . she knows. And he never did show up that so she stopped hopeing in him even at five now i think that is very sad.kids figure out for themselves whats going on we as the responsible parents don't need to say a thing to them about it they figure it out for themselves eventually.

crash i feel for you because I have been through that, my ex has done the same thing with me and my kids and it is heart breaking

RE: romantic evening

perfect romantic evening a bottle of wine some caviar and lots of cuddling and candles some classical music playing in the back ground

RE: so many kids so little time?

well i guess you are lucky out of sight out of mind, I wish that was so easy for my kids. My five year old used to sit for hours looking out the window waiting for her dad because he would phone and say he was coming. Nothing i could do would pull her away from that window. And it broke my heart everytime I had to drag her away from that window crying because her dad really wasn't going to come. She realised on her own one day that she could not believe her dad. I thank god that i have some good male role models around for my kids ie uncles grandparents and friends to set a positive example for them. Personally i think a good loving parent can do a great job of raising there kids with out the other parent in the picture and without bad mouthing the other parent infront of the children.

RE: Why dont women want a man in the military?

well you have obviously never taken the time to get to know a military man. i spent last three years with a guy in the military and the reason i split with him was drinking . but other then the boys will be boys attitude he had around drinking and partying whenhe wasn't with me, he was incredidble to both me and my kids and still is as one of my best friends.why wouldn't i or any women take the time to get to know a good man. ill probley be best friends with my ex bf for the rest of my life. there are good men in the military as well as ex military. my sister happens to be married to one and both my parents were raised on a military base as kids . its just a diffrent way of looking at life and dealing with life. And a lot of sacrific as well. that doesn't make it a bad thing. there are alot of really nice men and women in the military and i think alot of the time they get a bad rap.

RE: so many kids so little time?

darn my cordless keyboard that should say genuine not gennie lol

RE: so many kids so little time?

Well I comend you on raising your three and finding time to have a personal life i for one know how hard that is. And as far as calling my ex a dead beat infront of the kids i don't need to they figured that out on there own at least the one has and the other will in time. There are some guys out there that truely do deserve that title and thats not being bitter thats just reality. And then there are some like yourself that definetly step up and care for there children and that is how it should be for both men and women i think.And yes your right it is possible to find time to date and there are genine people out there its just a matter of finding the right person that clicks not just with you but with your kids because reality of having a relationship with a single parent is the ready made family package deal.

RE: Being a parent of young child/children, would you be able to relocated?

I guess it depends on how far you are thinking of moving. I just moved over a year ago with four small kids from one city to another and it was the best move i ever made because i went from a really impersonall community to a very close knit community with a awsome school so kids settled in rather easily actually. In respect to moving kids away from there dad. I did that and at first he was very angry with me, but after he realised how happy the kids were that all changed and he realised it was best for the kids because they had there own yard now to play in with the ability to relax and be kids and not worry about what was going on in the apartment next to us.When it came down to it I only moved not even a hour away but i could never see moving much further then that, or for that matter moving any time soon because i have to say i live in one of the best communities ever for raising kids.

RE: should big woman wear spandex ?

big women in spandex, ewww that is just so evil, and why is it always big women in pink or purple spandex like that just totally says start cracking the barney jokes lol

RE: Why dont women want a man in the military?

I am speaking from exsperience as a women that dated a military guy for last three years up to about two weeks ago. And i will say I never for a moment worried about him possibly dieing i liked having him in my life anyway. What i did not like was all the drinking and the stupid things he did when drinking when on leave. I got to admit I would date another military guy if they clicked with me and did not have alchol dependency as a monkey on there shoulder.

RE: lost

hey both men and women play the I'll be your friend as long as no one else is getting to close to you game. Thats what it is a game. Its one or the other in my books no bounce back and forth, if thats what a person wants to do then they can go by a share in parker brothers or milton bradly because those are the only kinda games i am into, lol

RE: seeing some one i have meet on cs

one of my closest neigbours and girlfriends met her boyfriend on here and they make the sweetest couple, there is some distance involved and a fair bit of driving but so far they make the perfect couple. i think it is very possible to meet someone online.

RE: What Are Some Things You Tend To Avoid?

oh they are so much fun, my kids and where playing with the one i made over the holidays,well my oldest kid anyway others were to young.

ill avoid flying projectiles that turn into much after 200 feet lol jk

today i am going to avoid the rest of the world and just enjoy the last few days of my kids christmas holidays with thm

RE: What Are Some Things You Tend To Avoid?

i tend to avoid small minded judgmental people

that and anyone that think women should not use power tools, go camping or build potato canons.lol