Crikey mate you are 50yrs old .. harden the hell up .. it's only been 4 months, either way you are just too impatient or truely don't care to how she feels.
Ask her straight out .. what is truely the problem? if she has an answer that seems fair and suits your needs, then stop thinking of yourself and go with the flow. If however she hesitates to give you a good reason then go ahead and tell it straight to her face .. how you feel about the situation and what you want to do.
This is how i see it .. you either want her to put you before her kids (which is the stupidest thing any woman could do if they did)no matter how old they are. Kids are number 1 PRIORITY!!
RE: Hawaii
hehehe ... i'm fabulous and bubs is very much grown
she started walking at 9months then she started babbling too much at the age of 1
however i wouldn't change anything about her .. shes so adorable
how have you been?