There was this girl I was in love with for quite sometime and I never told her how I felt until a couple of weeks ago. I wrote her a letter telling her how I truly felt about her because I could not see her before I ship off. She read it and told me she wasn't in love with me but cares about me unconditionally.
Now I am not very good at reading what women say or with women in general lol. When she finishing her response she said,"Your feelings are valid, and they are justified". What I don't understand is when she said they are justified. Like I said, I am not good at figuring things like this out. Does anyone have an idea of what that means? I am a tad confused here. >_<
My most recent example was when I decided to join the Army. Most family and friends I had were telling me one thing and saying another when they thought I was not around. Suffice to say, they think I will flat our fail or drop out. I am using this as my motivation to get myself better prepared for the training ahead and come out of it a better and stronger person. I only stay upset for so long until I figure out how to use it to my benefit. Only one person I know has told me that it was unhealthy, I used to value that person's input...but that is not the case so much anymore.
For years I have used any negativity in my life to give me motivation for the things I am trying to achieve in my life. Whenever someone would say something that was demeaning or mean about me, whether it be behind my back or to my face I would turn it into something to benefit me(more recently than ever). I was told that this is not a healthy way of dealing with things...even though I it has helped me and still is to this day. I by no means hold any grudges against anyone, I am a very forgiving person. I would just like to get some peoples thoughts on this. Is my method more harmful than it is good? I usually just go with whatever works...easy or hard.
Any thoughts or comments would be greatly appreciated.
I understand what you are saying. We all have our ways of dealing with difficult situations. Yes, sometimes we cannot avoid speaking or dealing with things in anger...we are human and it's a basic human emotion.
Sometimes it can be good to respond in anger, only to assert yourself and show those who have wronged you that you are not a pushover. I have had my fair share of dealing with situations out of anger, and it felt good at times...other times I felt worse off than before.
I just joined a few days ago and I am now just getting things situated on here. I am not sure how long I will be on here as I am going to be shipping off to BCT with the Army(I hope). Hoping to find and meet some interesting people while I am here.
dgallant Forum Posts (10)
Don't fully understand
It'll happen someday. Just going to focus on my future military career for the time being.