Is this a healthy habit? (14)
If it works for you, go with it! You aren't hurting anyone! 
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Do you have any examples of what was said and what you turned it into? When life gives you lemons, make lemonade little camper. What do they think you're supposed to do instead? Who told you that was unhealthy and what qualifies that person to judge?
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Remember not to be bitter in your growth. When we are surrounded by negativity it is hard not to spread the poison. Take you growth in peace and be thankful for the lessons they have given you.
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Witchaywoman: Do you have any examples of what was said and what you turned it into? When life gives you lemons, make lemonade little camper. What do they think you're supposed to do instead? Who told you that was unhealthy and what qualifies that person to judge?
My most recent example was when I decided to join the Army. Most family and friends I had were telling me one thing and saying another when they thought I was not around. Suffice to say, they think I will flat our fail or drop out. I am using this as my motivation to get myself better prepared for the training ahead and come out of it a better and stronger person. I only stay upset for so long until I figure out how to use it to my benefit. Only one person I know has told me that it was unhealthy, I used to value that person's input...but that is not the case so much anymore.
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Well hopefully you chose an MOS that didn't have any red stars attached and that you picked something that can help you advance yourself into the future. We were a military family for many years, 2 of my children have been in the army... it is a fantastic way for kids to get a jump start on life and responsibility, IF you know how to work the system to your benefit and not be swayed by your recruiter into areas that are beneficial to theirs... be smart.
All thru life you will have to make decisions that only you and you alone will understand and embrace, to become who you want to be and where you want to go. Close your ears to the nay sayers and follow your heart... while keeping eyes and ears open and your brain switched on. Make lists of the pros and cons of any situation that you are ambivalent about, think where you'd like to be in your life 5 yrs from now.... choose your goals and keep focused.
That is your responsibility as a human being on this planet, to be the best that you can be... your positive participation is required and you will have quite a ride
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All thru life you will have to make decisions that only you and you alone will understand and embrace, to become who you want to be and where you want to go. Close your ears to the nay sayers and follow your heart... while keeping eyes and ears open and your brain switched on. Make lists of the pros and cons of any situation that you are ambivalent about, think where you'd like to be in your life 5 yrs from now.... choose your goals and keep focused.
That is your responsibility as a human being on this planet, to be the best that you can be... your positive participation is required and you will have quite a ride
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dgallant: For years I have used any negativity in my life to give me motivation for the things I am trying to achieve in my life. Whenever someone would say something that was demeaning or mean about me, whether it be behind my back or to my face I would turn it into something to benefit me(more recently than ever). I was told that this is not a healthy way of dealing with things...even though I it has helped me and still is to this day. I by no means hold any grudges against anyone, I am a very forgiving person. I would just like to get some peoples thoughts on this. Is my method more harmful than it is good? I usually just go with whatever works...easy or hard.
Any thoughts or comments would be greatly appreciated.
Any thoughts or comments would be greatly appreciated.
Just be thankfull. Enjoy your life and do your best. Whatever you do, do it as if for the Lord and not for men.
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I do agree what gininitaly said.
Don't bother of other views, follow what your soul says............
Go ahead man..........
Wishing you success........
Don't bother of other views, follow what your soul says............
Go ahead man..........
Wishing you success........
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dgallant: For years I have used any negativity in my life to give me motivation for the things I am trying to achieve in my life. Whenever someone would say something that was demeaning or mean about me, whether it be behind my back or to my face I would turn it into something to benefit me(more recently than ever). I was told that this is not a healthy way of dealing with things...even though I it has helped me and still is to this day. I by no means hold any grudges against anyone, I am a very forgiving person. I would just like to get some peoples thoughts on this. Is my method more harmful than it is good? I usually just go with whatever works...easy or hard.
Any thoughts or comments would be greatly appreciated.
Any thoughts or comments would be greatly appreciated.
Turning something negative into something positive..... I can't see how that's a bad thing?!
Good luck to you!
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roseofsharon: Turning something negative into something positive..... I can't see how that's a bad thing?! Good luck to you!
unless your talking about the battery cables on your car...
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There's nothing like a good dose of motivation to spur one forward. I say continue to use the negative for a positive as you have been doing.
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jlw45: unless your talking about the battery cables on your car... ....
hidee alison
hidee alison
Hi ya, Joel!! Got your mail, thanks, my friend. Have to dash to work. Will check it out as soon as I get back..... look forward to it.
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Using the negativity from others to do something you do not want to do is a terrible reason and, very unhealthy as it places your soul outside your own person. However, if you were going to do that anyhow then their negativity simply adds to the reasons why you personally wish to succeed.
The latter is how most people excel in many service jobs such as military, police, firefighters etc. It is pressure of failure and the pride of doing well coupled with the honor they bestow on themselves from others that drives them. Once started on this path, it lasts a lifetime.
That's good btw.
The latter is how most people excel in many service jobs such as military, police, firefighters etc. It is pressure of failure and the pride of doing well coupled with the honor they bestow on themselves from others that drives them. Once started on this path, it lasts a lifetime.
That's good btw.
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Whenever another would say or do something demeaning or mean to me, I have learned how to kill them with kindness. It really works. One is sometimes pleasantly surprised that their supposed nemesis has a lot in common with them and many times later they become fast friends.
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